crostover99 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 My wife recently told me we are to be seperated, she says she lost all respect, faith and passion? Is there anyway to gain this back from her...she says she has been unhappy since month 2 of a 5 year relationship. I have apoligized numerous times to no avail, and have changed immensely over the last 2 months. Please give me hope or crush it...can the flame come back!
Heroic Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Say out loud what you just typed. She was happy for 1 out of 60 months you have been together. She can't communicate this until 5 years in...... She has either rewritten your relationship in her head or has hated you since you got married..... Either way her grasp of sanity is tenuious at best.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 she says she has been unhappy since month 2 of a 5 year relationship. When during this timeline did you get married? Mr. Lucky
Author crostover99 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 the marriage was 5 years...says she was unhappy after 2 months
Mr. Lucky Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 What does she say happened at the 2 month mark that caused her to lose all "respect, faith and passion" ? Mr. Lucky
Author crostover99 Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 She says that I would play video games late into the night, but I would never start them while she was still up, and would go to bed relatively early...she said she felt second to them I quit playing then about 2 years later she caught me lying about smoking weed occasionally.
Heroic Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 The math does not add up on this one. Either something else is going on or she is crazy.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 She says that I would play video games late into the night, but I would never start them while she was still up, and would go to bed relatively early...she said she felt second to them I quit playing then about 2 years later she caught me lying about smoking weed occasionally. Is she your wife or your Mom? She seems to require that you be something you're not. At the very least, she has an interesting style of communication. Is she interested in MC or other ways of addressing the issues? Mr. lucky
Author crostover99 Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 seems at time she acts more like a mom....As for MC, she has always said she was willing but never took it seriously and we never enrolled or went. The closet thing we have to counseling is talking to her mom whose opinion has to be the most bias in the world.
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 She's so wrong to be going to her mother with all of this. Do you think there's someone else in the picture? Have you asked her? And yes, I think the flame CAN be re-ignited but it won't happen if you beg her. Let her do what she's going to do. Tell her you want to try to make it work but if she has her mind set to separate, then let her do it. Begging her will just push her further away. But like another poster said, I think something else is going on here.
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