brit5babe Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I have been with my bf for 6 yrs now. I am 28 and he is 31. Until a few months ago i thought he was the one and wanted to move in with him and get married (which is what he says he wants one day too). I was very happy in the relationship and never thought about anyone else or even looked at other guys - just didnt have the urge to even do that. But for a few months now i have been fantasising about being with other people and have started finding other guys attractive. I have also gone off sex with my bf. I make excuses alot and when we do have sex he doesn't really turn me on. I still think he is really good looking though so i don't understand it. I'm beginning to worry he isn't the one but I really want him to be the one. He is at the stage where he wants to buy a house together but i don't think we should until i have resolved these feelings but i don't know how best to do that as time doesn't seem to be helping. I have told him all of the above and he knows exactly how i'm feeling. We are like best friends and so i am lucky i can tell him this sort of stuff. He has listened but doesn't really give any suggestions so i still don't know what to do. Part of me thinks its a phase and i should wait it out and hope it passes but then i worry that i could wait and wait and it may not pass and before i know it he is proposing and i have an even bigger problem. I have wondered whether we should have time apart to see if that helps. Sometimes i think i should be grateful for what i have as most people would love to have a good guy like him and i don't think i will find someone as trustworthy as him but then at the same i feel there is something missing. Part of me wants to explore my options by being with other people. But i'm worried i could choose this option only to realise he was the one all along then find out i have lost him. I would never want to hurt him or cheat on him. Sorry for the long essay!!! Any ideas/advice please?
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