Illiandra Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 So now in days everyone either has a myspace or a facebook profile. Im dating this guy who has a profile on myspace and facebook. Long story short, I checked out his myspace recently and it says single, however, I checked out one of his female friends and her profile says in a relationship,,, the kicker is she has pics up of her and him... and hes the only guy in all of her pictures. The pics were taken about 3-4 months ago before "us"...so whats a girl to think? Also, they both have facebook but they are not friends with each other on facebook. Maybe im just going on assumptions here, but if the girl was in a relationship with another guy, she wouldnt have pics up of both her and him! UGH im starting to hate technology! So my question is, what am I supposed to think or do? I guess you can say curiousity killed the cat!
wuggle Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Before facebook it was sms (and still is to a certain extent), before that letters, emails etc. The technology is irrelevant, there will always be new and creative was to lie and find out that people are lying. Looks like you have found out this person is lying, doesn't matter how. Options usually are bury your head in the sand and ignore it or tackle him about it. Both valid in different circumstances. What is right for you ? can you live with him lying to you ?
likestolaugh Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 you see... this is why you don't fill in the "relationship status" part on facebook. If more people just left it as none of anyone's business... it would be much better.
jerbear Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 you see... this is why you don't fill in the "relationship status" part on facebook. If more people just left it as none of anyone's business... it would be much better. Ding! Yep! Plus don't get overworked when people remove the friend status on you. Got two people who just did it for no apparent reason.
georgejungle Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 myspace and facebook really are terrible for that sorta thing. it's like looking into someone's diary almost. or stalking them, ha! Anyway, yeah, and some people don't update their status sometimes. It's funny. Technology.
Star Gazer Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 IME, MS and FB are only problematic when one (or both) of the parties involved have something to hide.
northstar1 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 So now in days everyone either has a myspace or a facebook profile. Im dating this guy who has a profile on myspace and facebook. Long story short, I checked out his myspace recently and it says single, however, I checked out one of his female friends and her profile says in a relationship,,, the kicker is she has pics up of her and him... and hes the only guy in all of her pictures. The pics were taken about 3-4 months ago before "us"...so whats a girl to think? Also, they both have facebook but they are not friends with each other on facebook. Maybe im just going on assumptions here, but if the girl was in a relationship with another guy, she wouldnt have pics up of both her and him! UGH im starting to hate technology! So my question is, what am I supposed to think or do? I guess you can say curiousity killed the cat! You need to take those sites with a grain of salt. Relationships have been strained or ruined because of pictures, or posts, or status. It's way too easy to misinterpret or make false assumptions by what you see on there. I've had friends who started dating someone, then started 'snooping' on the site and scrutinized every single comment, picture, and ended up going mental over it. It's easy to get carried away and form your own story in your head, which most often is not true.
Author Illiandra Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 well its not like a diary, its just looking to see what their friends are like. My problem is that why would it say single on his and in a relationship on hers. thats where the confusion comes in. I mean if he were with her, wouldnt it say in a relationship on his? And why still keep up pictures of "couple like" activities. Well part relief is that on facebook it doesnt say in a relationship and they arent friends on there. Maybe shes in a relationship w someone else. Who the hell knows
norajane Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 You're jumping to conclusions. Stop snooping and pay attention to your relationship. How well do you know him? How does he treat you? Have you met his friends? Has he met yours? Does he pay attention to you when you're out, or is he texting with other people? Does he flirt with other women or does he only have eyes for you? Has he cheated on past gf's?
prettybaby Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I refuse to get into the whole myspace/facebook thing and I'm soooooo glad my new man isn't into it either. We actually TALK about stuff we wanna find out about each other. No taboos! How about that? LOL
collegekid491 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 you see... this is why you don't fill in the "relationship status" part on facebook. If more people just left it as none of anyone's business... it would be much better. YES!!! ^ Completely right! I have facebook, like all saps, I was bullied by an ex to throw up the relationship status, then when we broke up was mad at me for taking it down because she wanted time to 'recuperate' before unleashing it on our friends. Lord behold, current gf hounded me to put it up also... me see's a repeat!
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 You need to take those sites with a grain of salt. Relationships have been strained or ruined because of pictures, or posts, or status. And a couple of people killed over it, too. I say quit over-analyzing it. Seriously - if FB and MS didn't exist, you'd find some other way to try and pick apart what you've got and find some reason to distrust him. Step back, take a breath. Has he given you ANY other reason to distrust him? Maybe they WERE dating and he broke up with her, she's still holding on for dear life. Who knows? If his says he's single, why wouldn't you believe him over her?
Author Illiandra Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 I know but over analyzing happens to the best of us He did tell me some girl he was seeing and broke up with in the past had friend requested him, so maybe thats her, but those pics still being up is what is annoying me haha! And no he doesnt pay attention to his phone or anyone else when we are out, basically he seems like a guy who is too good to be true, hence why im digging on something small. Honestly maybe I will just come out and ask him in person and see what his response is
confused and broken Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 F*&K.......... I hate facebook My ex bf and I were having a decent relationship when I caught him flirting with some chick he had never even met on facebook I broke up with him because I was so disgusted... and I never even told him that was the reason why because I felt like such a chimp for looking through who he was messaging I hate facebook I have deleted my profile and never got serious about it But the one poster talking about images freaks me out because my friends post pictures with me even my family does
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