Author one goal Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 Someone who i talk to a lot gave me this advice. You can either just say hi, and then go about your business and see how she reacts towards you, see if she gives you any small talk in return, or... if you have the balls to do this... you could have your number written down on a small piece of paper, folded, with just this "I told you the other night I'd give you my number and haven't had a chance, anyway, call me sometime... Tom ###-####." and leave it at that
confused_2008 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 You seem to be like a lot of people on these boards. You come here for advice and then never really heed it. If you want to give her your number that bad, do it. From what you've said, it sounds like she was creeped out for whatever reason. Doesn't mean it was something you did, most likely her problem. I think your number would be filed in the nearest circular file though. But do whatever you want.
Author one goal Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 You seem to be like a lot of people on these boards. You come here for advice and then never really heed it. If you want to give her your number that bad, do it. From what you've said, it sounds like she was creeped out for whatever reason. Doesn't mean it was something you did, most likely her problem. I think your number would be filed in the nearest circular file though. But do whatever you want. You mean girls keep files on guys??
gopher Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 You mean girls keep files on guys?? Yes they do....I believe they keep the records for 7 years...
Trimmer Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 can't you tell from her reaction last time... the whole 'talking to security' thing.... that she's NOT interested. This poster has a history of not "getting" when a woman is not interested. That's why I was trying to be so direct in my last post when I said: "...you should understand from her behavior that she's not interested. Do you understand this?"
cybersister Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 just pass her a note next time she ushers you with your phone number on it saying you think she's cute .
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 You mean girls keep files on guys?? Uh. Are you kidding me? The "circular file" is another name for the garbage can, hun. And as a woman, I can tell you - that is exactly where your number would be going. And if she sought out security LAST time and you hadn't even given her your number yet, I can only imagine what her reaction would be this time around. For God's sake, man - find a different woman and take her to the game with you. Have a great time and let the usher see that her reaction couldn't have mattered any less to you. Or just ignore everything everybody has said to you that has read her reaction and approach her again. I can't wait for your update.
Author one goal Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 She wasn't work Tue night again. However she was at the game, had tickets in my section too. However she was with a few friends, guys so I didn't want to go up and talk to her infront of her friends. That would have been weird. Plus 3 guys i would be outnumbered if they got offended. I mean they were not big. Hopefully she works next tue again. I had my number written down to give her cause when i asked her out 2 weeks ago she said "you can give it to me later"
likestolaugh Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 She wasn't work Tue night again. However she was at the game, had tickets in my section too. However she was with a few friends, guys so I didn't want to go up and talk to her infront of her friends. That would have been weird. Plus 3 guys i would be outnumbered if they got offended. I mean they were not big. Hopefully she works next tue again. I had my number written down to give her cause when i asked her out 2 weeks ago she said "you can give it to me later" not to be rude, but you seem to be kinda dense sometimes, ya know?
Author one goal Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 not to be rude, but you seem to be kinda dense sometimes, ya know? I mean they're single so why not keep trying?
Trimmer Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I mean they're single so why not keep trying? Well, one reason would be if "they" make it clear that they're not interested. But even when it's painfully obvious (see onegoal vs Katherine McPhee), you still are not convinced, so I think you'll have real trouble "getting it" when the signals are anything less subtle than a restraining order.
Author one goal Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Well, one reason would be if "they" make it clear that they're not interested. But even when it's painfully obvious (see onegoal vs Katherine McPhee), you still are not convinced, so I think you'll have real trouble "getting it" when the signals are anything less subtle than a restraining order. What do you mean signals? When the girl told me that I could give my number later, was that a sign?
Trimmer Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 What do you mean signals? I mean this: ...she was smiling, but the expression she gave was like "oh brother, whatever". She didn't talk to me the rest of the game when I walked by to go get a drink and take a piss. Then later in the third period another usher came to our section, and replaced her after the game why she moved to the next section over and stood by one of the security dudes. After I talked to her before the game she was talking to one of they guys who sits by where she stands and saw them look up at me, as well security guy came after that too. I'm thinking she must have informed security. So, what do I mean, "signals?" Are you serious? I think you take anything you can spin in the least positive way and latch on to it and turn it into something way bigger than it really is, and let that completely overshadow more obvious negative indicators, which you manage to ignore and become oblivious to. When the girl told me that I could give my number later, was that a sign? Given her subsequent behavior, what she told you was probably to get you out of her face in that moment, after which she obviously fled. Say what you like about whether it was appropriate, or an overreaction, or whatever - the fact is, that was her reaction. Here's what happened, in a nutshell: you approached her, she said something non-committal to put you off until later, then she specifically and completely avoided you. Her saying "give it to me later" was just a way of putting you off until she could flee - are you getting that?
Author one goal Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 I mean this: So, what do I mean, "signals?" Are you serious? I think you take anything you can spin in the least positive way and latch on to it and turn it into something way bigger than it really is, and let that completely overshadow more obvious negative indicators, which you manage to ignore and become oblivious to. Given her subsequent behavior, what she told you was probably to get you out of her face in that moment, after which she obviously fled. Say what you like about whether it was appropriate, or an overreaction, or whatever - the fact is, that was her reaction. Here's what happened, in a nutshell: you approached her, she said something non-committal to put you off until later, then she specifically and completely avoided you. Her saying "give it to me later" was just a way of putting you off until she could flee - are you getting that? Yea I got it. I hope shes working on Tue. I had my number written down on a note the last game i went to but as I said earlier she wasn't working. I wanna give it to her still since she's single, at least it shows I keep my word about giving her my number. When I had her the note assuming shes working what should I say to her when I give it to her? Should I be like "remember when we talked the last game you worked, and said I could give you my number, but I never had the chance"? If she's in her polite mood as usual, how do you think she would take it? I assume she would say thanks and take it, but if so should I expect a call back, or later on she will just simply throw it out? What are the chances usually a girl calls you back? Is my goal I should try and get her number? I assume It would be better if I could get her number then I'm the one in control.
Author one goal Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 So before the game I went up to her said hi, said "here is my number I forgot to give you last game when we talked" and she said thanks. Anyways I chatted a couple minutes with her. Just asked if she's going to school and she said yea, but that she took a semester off and goes to MERAMEC however she said Flo Valley "North County" I live and go to the South County campus I told her which is a bummer. I told her I havent seen you last few games but that I saw you as a fan at the Red Wings game and she said yea her and her brother went"She was with two guys" So I guess that can be a good sign. Anyways I just asked her if she works other events, she siad she worked basketball the other day, and working the hockey game this weekend. I didn't talk to her much more after that I told her" I don't want to bother you while your working and that I'll talk to you later" and she said ok. It was before the game and in reality I could have stood there for a good 15 mins if I wanted to because she talks to other fans alot during the game, but I didn't want to come off as persistant, so thats why I really cut it at that. She talks to fans alot so I could have chatted longer. How did I do? Should I have asked for her number too when I gave her mine? Do you think she would have given it to me if I asked? I'm kinda kicking myself over that. I mean if I got a real number from her then I would be in control and in the drivers seat. I thought I did OK. So what are the chances she calls me back? She didnt act creeped out or anything, she was more talkative than last time when I asked her out, but didnt get a chance to give her my # cause I didnt have it written down. If she doesn't call me then no loss, I tried.
Author one goal Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 So if she does call me, how many days you think before she calls? If she does.
Author one goal Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Also when I see her again should I stick around and talk to her more, and try and open her more?
whichwayisup Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 No, don't talk to her at all. Say hi and then go to your seat. Back off for a while and let HER come talk to you. She has your number, she knows you're interested..Just play it cool now..You'll know soon enough if she's interested, or just missing the attention. One thing, if a week or more goes by and she doesn't call, then she isn't into you that way.
Author one goal Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 No, don't talk to her at all. Say hi and then go to your seat. Back off for a while and let HER come talk to you. She has your number, she knows you're interested..Just play it cool now..You'll know soon enough if she's interested, or just missing the attention. One thing, if a week or more goes by and she doesn't call, then she isn't into you that way. Agree. I wont be mad. I mean I just said "hang out" instead of dating, even though she knows what I mean by hanging out. I'll just say hi and talk to her as usual.
Author one goal Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 If she's working tonight should I talk to her a little more, and flirt with her? It's been 36 hrs and she hasn't called yet. Should I like tell her "Im sorry I'm shy when I talk to you because you're so cute" Would she find that sweet?
mr.dream merchant Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Just play it cool and let her make her move. You're thinking way too much into this.
Author one goal Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Just play it cool and let her make her move. You're thinking way too much into this. I wanna go out with her though and she hasn't called back:mad:
Author one goal Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 Tonight before the game I talked to her again. Just asked her about what shes going to school for since we talked about that on Tue night when i gave her my #. She said nursing, Law enforcement, or medical examiner. I found the medical examiner interesting. I wonder if she was pulling my leg to try and creep me out. I said I was free next week springbreak and once again asked her if she wanted to go hangout or something next week, and she just rolled her eyes a little bit, didnt really have an expression. She said she works another job also, I wont say where at though. I dont get it I was nice and all, why wont she call me or agree to a date?
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