theprincess243 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Here's a little background on my relationship. I've been in a relationship with this kid tom. Tom and I's relationship was full of lust. But he started to gain weight and our relationship died down. I don't really care about looks, because i still love him. I am not sure i am still "in" love with him. For the past year, as i said our relationship worsened. There have been many times when i have been confronted about him cheating on me but only and only by my mom. I have caught my mom lying multiple times about this so i have never actually believed her because tom always said no. We would always hang out at my house and we did that for pretty much a year and a half. Since this summer we've been at his house. I have gotten comfortable around his family. His brother Joe is nice and funny, cocky too. Now that i am comfortable around his family i talk to them. Joe and i talk often, pretty much whenever i go over there. I kinda of have a crush on him. I know it's wrong but i cant help liking someone. Even though it's no excuse Tom has been rude and makes lots of mean comments about my parents divorce, my family, and my looks. Anyways when i'm over his house Joe makes fun of me so much. But in a playful way. He picks on how much i eat, because im petite. He says im small and all that other stuff. He is very flirtatious with me. All of his friends who come over notice how he is with me. One of them even said wow joe whats up with you today. and he replied and said i'm always like this to her. Another thing about joe is he is very sweet to me. He watches out for me. One time joe and tom asked me to drive in tom's car alone to go to the store to buy scratch tickets and doritos. So i drove to sunoco down the street and i was suppose to buy 12 scratch tickets. I ended up buying them but The guy behind the counter ripped me off. He made me pay for all of the tickets when i won twelve dollars. Joe gave me ten dollars to pay for the doritos and all i had left was a dollar. I was really upset and i felt wicked bad because i wasted all his money. When i arrive back at his house i couldnt shut the car off it was in anti lock. I went in and told joe and tom what happened. Tom was wicked mad at me and was like wow you really cant do anything right.? my eyes started to tear up. and Joe was like jesus ******* christ tom ill just go ******* do it. its not a big deal. I asked Tom to let me use his phone to get a ride home because i was really upset. But he refused. I heard Joe open the door to come back inside so i walked in the bathroom so he didn't see me with tears in my eyes. I was wiping my eyes in the bathroom and i saw joe walking in. he put his arms out and hugged me. he said its ok and not to cry. i said im not crying he's just mean and i decided to walk out because if tom saw us he'd be mad and i didn't want to start anything. As we sat down to eat joe whispered to me and was like it'd help to put the car in park. that's why it was in anti lock. so i felt like an idiot even more hahaha. Joe told me not to worry about the money it's not a big deal at all. Another time was when we were in stop n shop and tom decided to pull out the truck carriage. and joe was like im hopping in that and i looked at him and he put his arm around me and was like don't worry you can sit in it too. it was sweet But the thing is he hangs out with other girls not often but he'll be like this girl at work is nice im hanging out with her to tom. i dont know like i feel like he wouldnt like me but sometimes the way he acts to me makes me feel like he does. like he cares whether or not im sad. one time i wasnt talking much and he like looked at me and was like are you okay and asked. another time he called me ugly a couple of times joking around. and i kinda of looked away it upset me that time and he was like im sorry i didnt mean it i was joking im sorry im sorrry. usually he's very sweet and jokes around with me a lot unlike my boyfriend. i dont know, my relationship with tom is fading. and i have a crush on his brother. i really cant help it i even tried forgetting about him but those feelings just keep coming back. from what i told you do you think joe feels the same or do you think he just picks on me a lot for fun? i wanted to know what i should do. i know how bad it is to like my boyfriends brother but honestly i cant help it. and i doubt id ever say yes to go out with him either. it's just the feelings are there.\ GIVE ME ADVICEEE PLEASEEE!!!
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Dump Tom, he's a loser. Go out with Joe, he's the winner. Where's your problem?
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I think they both sound like dicks. WTH? Honey, pluck up some self-respect and get away from this family. Joe may be a little more mellow than Tom, but they both have kind of a mean streak.
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Your relationship with Tom is definitely over. It's not fading, it's over. You are just hanging on to see Joe - and you are looking to Joe to replace Tom because of what you are missing in your relationship with Tom. Not necessarily that you really like him the way you think you do. You are just more enamored because you are sizing them up next to each other. Joe isn't spectacular. He just looks that way next to the jerk Tom. I'd call it quits with Tom. And think long and hard before trying to date his brother. That can send someone off the deep edge and Tom already sounds like he has a short fuse. Why don't you just try to meet someone unrelated?
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Well, you asked for it, and you got it. Somehow though, I don't think it's entirely what you were either wanting, or expecting to hear......... What is it you'd like to have us tell you?
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