jenxbunnyx05 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 okay so i met stephen in october last year. hes a fireman and he just bought a house...so hes always very busy...through november him and i probably saw each other once every couple weeks...and we maybe saw a movie and did dinner...but mainly just hung out around home since he would always have to work the next day... in december he asked me to go to his christmas party and on christmas since he had to work he and the firehouse guys asked me to come for their dinner on christmas day...during this month i saw him alittle more than just once every couple weeks... in january i asked him to come to my holiday party and at this time im starting to see him more like once a week...and some...he seems to actually make the time for me... in february we went to supercross together and for valentines day he took me to dinner...we see each other more than twice a week now if the week looks good... i feel really into him...he knows i like him and i know he likes me...he sends me cute txt messages...i get a good morning txt EVERY morning and EVERY night he calls to say goodnight...he is always including me in the future...like for valentines day since we only did dinner he said that he wants to do a valentines day extension...he wants to go to palm springs and get a suite and do a day spa and just hang out for a couple days once it starts to get warmer...or he'll say things like how he wants to go on vacation...hes just always including me in things he wants to do... but...we have never had that conversation on where we stand...we see only each other...as much as we can...but were not exclusive... i understand how busy he is especially right now because he just bought a house and is working as much overtime as he can... that is his first priority and i am not at all bothered by it...but trust me i do wish i could see him more... he tells me once he's moved in and things become more settled down for him, he wont be working so much and that he will see more of me and we can actually go out and do things... what i wonder is if he feels the way i do but is just so caught up in his house that he just doesnt tell me how he truly feels...i dont want to bring it up yet because i honestly feel like it might be too soon...maybe i should still give it some time and see what happens? we do have sexual relations...so could i just be like his arm candy in a way? or maybe thats all i am is a girl who he likes but doesnt want anything serious with? maybe since hes busy hes not ready for a serious relationship... i am totally fine with how things are right now...i do like that feeling of missing him and not being able to wait to see him again...like if i know i wont be seeing him for a week...i enjoy seeing him...its nice because i still have time to hang out with my friends too...but i do wondering if its gonna go anywhere? should i talk to him about it now or should i wait it out a bit? see what happens...what would be a good way to let him know without making it seem like im trying to hard to be with him but i am not in anyway at all...i would much rather take things slow...but i do have strong feelings for him and would like to have that serious relationship with him in time...i can see us going somewhere...i dont know if im just blowing this out of porportion or maybe its because its been a year since ive have a serious relationship and im ready and thats what i want... i do feel that he likes me and is interested in me...just the way he holds me and looks at me...when we are together he makes me feel good and im extremely happy... guys- if this is you...what are you thinking? girls- have you been in this kind of situation? let me know your thoughts! thank you<33
sand26 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Just ask him where you guys are, and what he is looking for.
Author jenxbunnyx05 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 so maybe he sees it the same way i do? we just havent actually talked about it...
chrislovestosurf Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 stop worrying so much, guys busy as hell. YOu havent even been dating that long. I would relax with the 'where are we' chat until the 6th month mark. You may scare him off if you start coming off as too dependent on him.
Author jenxbunnyx05 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 and i most definitely dont want to scare him off!
prettybaby Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 You worry wayyyy too much! It's so obvious you two are exclusive and that he sees you as long term relationship potential. Why complicate things? You don't need to have an official talk about every little aspect of a relationship. Some things are just too obvious to even be discussed. You definitely have it good. Sit back and relax, he's clearly all yours.
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