Alma Mobley Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 If you are going to take the time to write a profile, you have lots of time, so don't mess it up and make spelling mistakes. If you are spelling words in "internet speak," I would assume you are either young or immature or just don't care. Yeah, I didn't read the whole thread and just answered the OP.
Author LoveLace Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 If you are going to take the time to write a profile, you have lots of time, so don't mess it up and make spelling mistakes. If you are spelling words in "internet speak," I would assume you are either young or immature or just don't care. I couldn't agree more. Eweezy what's "lame" is making a profile for yourself that looks sloppy and careless, then expecting that to be a good 1st impression. Would you show up on a 1st date without combing your hair or wearing a dirty shirt? I'd doubt it, but if you did, then it shows that you don't care if you make an impression or not, and no woman wants that. HOW many times does it have to be explained to you (perhaps you are as uneducated as the profile guy and you are slower to get it), that my decline of interest was not based on the spelling alone but the overrall appearance of his profile, plain sloppy with little effort, and likely not on the same intellectual level as I. Let's say I met the same guy while I'm just out somewhere. He's cute, "kool", and I might not be able to tell exactly where his smart-level is just from conversation. But the second I learn that a 30 year-old man plays drums in the garage for a living, I don't care how charming you are. I'd be walking fast. We all deserve to get whatever we are looking for...and I'm looking for a well-educated, ambitious, overall impressive guy. And if your profile is sloppy all over, and you play drums in the garage, obviously that doesn't fit what I am looking for, now does it? There is nothing "lame" about knowing what I want and passing on what I know I DON'T want. To me, it sounds like perhaps you are bitter because you don't think that guys should have to try hard to get a quality woman, that it should just come to you no matter what, because YOU know you are just awesome inside, so if that woman judges you based on how you dress and is not impressed, oh, well damn her!!! It's as though you are saying that you should not have to put much effort into impressing women, they should give you a shot even if you are a total turn-off at the 1st glance. Nope. I know that I go out of my way to try and impress guys either in my profile or in general, so I expect the same from men that I consider as potential dates. You don't have to like it, but that's the way it goes.
isoleaf Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 i prefaced my input with "an otherwise quality" individual. this was because i didn't feel like asking if the person was quality or not, i just left you with my input and that preface. secondly, i don't think all guys need just someone who's "okay-looking" to stick our "d*cks into" otherwise there wouldn't be so many annoyed okay-looking women stuck in singledom these days. thirdly, i'd say it's men who have been struggling to figure out which women can impress passed their looks. men have, since the beginning of time, been evaluated on a broad range of things, last of which are their looks (depending on what stage in life the woman is, which again illustrates that you women are not all that much better than us men like your post implies). lastly, this is why women can't date younger guys. when i date a younger girl, i'm not LOOKING DOWN ON HER because she's simply younger. i take her for what she is and look at the benefits she can offer whatever those may be. sometimes it's looks as it is with this man. i'm sorry that not all hot people are also amazing at everything, otherwise you and i would both be worse off in regards to finding a mate and having a job. Can't date younger guys? I get hit on by them all the time. 10 years younger. And I never said I "looked down" on the guy...I just had no desire to return my interest, based upon the obvious fact that he is not a successful, independent man like I seek. And that conclusion was made well beyond his spelling habits. I didn't even say he was hot, just average-ly cute. If he had other qualities that I found interesting, obviously I would have been more interested. You can't tell me there are not things that you require in potential girlfriends/wives, aside from looks. And if it comes down to life-partner potential, anyone is going to be more picky..for gosh sakes you want someone at least halfway tolerable enough to spend your life with, and someone you can count on economically and mentally...even if you are already stable in that area of your own life. I don't need some rich suit and tie guy. But an unemployed, "self-employed" drummer, not too admirable to me, sorry. I would be more admirable of a carpenter, mechanic, or blue collar guy that works hard and has ambition. What's the drummer's ambition? To be a rock star? That would be a cool friend to have, but not a boyfriend. you gotta take things for what they are, not look down on them for some arbitrary reason is my point. if you're looking at a super hot guy and he can't spell so great, why are you so surprised? if you want a guy who can spell super well, then maybe he won't be as cute? which is more important to you ultimately? how about in the short term? I don't seek out short-term potential, only long-term. Years ago when that didn't matter much, I would have been more likely not to care about other qualities. my point is you're being arbitrary over something small. and if it's not small, then let me ask you this. if mr. perfect came up to you, rich and super hot and everything you ask for, would you still turn him down if he had, as you say, a profile that looked like he was from "junior high"? maybe then you would excuse his behavior and think of reasons why it's okay or maybe you'd find his approach humorous or amusing. If he was everything I ask for, he would have a profile that indicates some intelligence and attention to how he is presenting himself. So that question is totally irrelevant. Any guy with a sloppy profile won't even get that far with me in the 1st place. I disregard them as a potential partner well before there is any room for "making excuses". But if I meet him the 1st time and he ACTS like he's in junior high, then the same idea applies - no matter how hot he is. anyways, way to vent your bitterness at me. i was simply speaking to the post, i do not assume things about the person writing it nor do i project offensive, sweeping generalizations that are unrelated to the topic at hand. simply the action of rejecting based on "kool" vs "cool" and i felt that your choice of words "dumb as rocks" was a bit harsh which is why i put it in QUOTES and turned it around on you to see how YOU felt when some random online person passes judgement based on something you said arbitrarily online. For the 100th time, the rejection was based on much more than one misspelled word, and I did not tell the guy I thought he was "dumb as rocks", nor did I judge anyone on this forum as that. So again, irrelevant. I politely declined interest in the guy, I would never directly tell him he might be too "dumb as rocks" to go out with me. But it is possible. It's possible even if someone has a perfectly presentable profile...you just don't find out until you meet them. It just so happens his profile was enough for me to decide not to even get that far. That's what profiles are for in the 1st place. If it doesn't impress you, it's your right not to pursue. And we're all impressed by different things. It's no different than passing on a profile right away because you are not impressed by their picture, which happens all the time, but we don't get judged for that based on the argument that attraction has to be there in order to fuel any further interest. Anything thereafter can either further interest or kill it. nevermind. i was just responding to your post. i didn't mean to assume about the situation which is why i used quotes. it was just a thought and i didn't mean for it to piss you off or something, when i say something and someone comments on it, i don't think they're commenting on me as a person, just on my comment. i'm sure, like most people on here, you're a rational human being. i was just commenting on, what i considered, an irrational sentiment. i have my own background in the matter as well, you're not the only one. i've online dated in the past as well, and i felt like women paid a large amount of attention to grammar and spelling, which i felt was a bit misguided. but it's just an opinion.
nicki Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I think most women are forgiving of a few spelling or grammatical errors in a paragraph. We all do that, especially when we are typing quickly and trying to get our ideas down. It doesn't matter much. BUT, when every word is misspelled, or the grammar is is below third grade level for someone whose first language is English, then it rings a few warning bells. Like another poster said, it makes someone appear lazy...and laziness shows up everywhere in a relationship. Plus, how can anybody communicate that poorly and have a stable job?
rlindzie Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 ok there are many ways to spell cool. considering cool is not really a word we use when being professional i would not jump to the he is stupid quite yet. i happen to be a horrible speller but i am no idiot. it is a skill like any other some people are better at it than others, like math or sience or whatever. and wheni casual convo. online it is slang to spell words diffrently than you would in a essay or such projects. you need to lighten up. oh and btw i am a highschool drop out who didnt drop out bc. i wasnt smart, or commited there are many resons ppl cannot attend school like for me iand many others it was medical and i am in school and doing better than some highschool grads.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 LMAO ~ cause men of course aren't in the slightest :rolleyes: I'm not! As long as you're hot
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 When choosing a possible relationship and involving a stranger in one's life - anyone should be "picky". Yeah, but I don't think one should take an electron microscope into someones brain to find out every little imperfection.
Ross PK Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It doesn't matter to me much. A lot of people use Internet speak or text speak, and some of them are older people, they're not all all kids. I don't see a problem with it, I mean, it's a quicker way of writing isn't it? And they don't care because they're not that uptight, which is a good thing. And bad spelling isn't really any indicator of intelligence. I know some people who are intelligent but make a lot of spelling mistakes when posting, which does make them sound dumb.
Shygirl15 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I agree with Ross PK. And for those who are bothered by it, why can't you just move on to the ones with writing abilities you like? It's very simple.
Eweezy Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 If you are going to take the time to write a profile, you have lots of time, so don't mess it up and make spelling mistakes. If you are spelling words in "internet speak," I would assume you are either young or immature or just don't care. I couldn't agree more. Eweezy what's "lame" is making a profile for yourself that looks sloppy and careless, then expecting that to be a good 1st impression. Would you show up on a 1st date without combing your hair or wearing a dirty shirt? I'd doubt it, but if you did, then it shows that you don't care if you make an impression or not, and no woman wants that. HOW many times does it have to be explained to you (perhaps you are as uneducated as the profile guy and you are slower to get it), that my decline of interest was not based on the spelling alone but the overrall appearance of his profile, plain sloppy with little effort, and likely not on the same intellectual level as I. Let's say I met the same guy while I'm just out somewhere. He's cute, "kool", and I might not be able to tell exactly where his smart-level is just from conversation. But the second I learn that a 30 year-old man plays drums in the garage for a living, I don't care how charming you are. I'd be walking fast. We all deserve to get whatever we are looking for...and I'm looking for a well-educated, ambitious, overall impressive guy. And if your profile is sloppy all over, and you play drums in the garage, obviously that doesn't fit what I am looking for, now does it? There is nothing "lame" about knowing what I want and passing on what I know I DON'T want. To me, it sounds like perhaps you are bitter because you don't think that guys should have to try hard to get a quality woman, that it should just come to you no matter what, because YOU know you are just awesome inside, so if that woman judges you based on how you dress and is not impressed, oh, well damn her!!! It's as though you are saying that you should not have to put much effort into impressing women, they should give you a shot even if you are a total turn-off at the 1st glance. Nope. I know that I go out of my way to try and impress guys either in my profile or in general, so I expect the same from men that I consider as potential dates. You don't have to like it, but that's the way it goes. You come off very uptight to me... I'am bitter because guys shouldn't be putting in the effort that most guys do and get bad results... If a women doesn't like what i'am wearing or my profile then she should just move along and not b1tch about it because there is another female that will like it... I'am the type of guy to go for girls that like me, I'am not the type of guy that sees a hot girl and tap dances to her tunes... What most women tend to forget is that they are millions of other women out there...
Ross PK Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 You come off very uptight to me... I'am bitter because guys shouldn't be putting in the effort that most guys do and get bad results... If a women doesn't like what i'am wearing or my profile then she should just move along and not b1tch about it because there is another female that will like it... I'am the type of guy to go for girls that like me, I'am not the type of guy that sees a hot girl and tap dances to her tunes... What most women tend to forget is that they are millions of other women out there... Exactly. If a woman wont respond or go any further because of a spelling mistake, then she's doing us a favour and saving us from wasting any time on them. I couldn't even be friends with someone that uptight, let alone be in a relationship with them.
blondesmiler Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 You come off very uptight to me... I'am bitter because guys shouldn't be putting in the effort that most guys do and get bad results... If a women doesn't like what i'am wearing or my profile then she should just move along and not b1tch about it because there is another female that will like it... I'am the type of guy to go for girls that like me, I'am not the type of guy that sees a hot girl and tap dances to her tunes... What most women tend to forget is that they are millions of other women out there... And what makes you pick one profile too pursue but move on from another profile ~ oh your preferences, and just because you have them doesn't make you uptight. So come on what are your preferences or things you don't like?? Everybody and I mean everybody has them.
Shygirl15 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Nothing wrong with having preferences, which is why we suggested she moves on to those who match her preferences best, instead of bitching and moaning about those who don't. That's all.
Author LoveLace Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 1st of all, "moving on" happened a long time ago, like the day I posted this thread, how many weeks ago? But in all my years on online dating, I've never seen such a sloppy profile, ever...the point wasn't to "bitch" about it, but to talk about it, which is well accomplished. Somehow the thread picked up again the other day so I jumped in. I actually know exactly what kind of man I want, and I know exactly what I DONT want, but most fall into category B, someway or another, and I'm sure that lots of men have felt the same about me...their reasons might be something I think is ridiculous (like so what if I have a mole on my left cheek, lol)...well, to him that just might be an instant flop. To another guy, it could be he just plain doesn't like to hang out with me. Whatever the case, big or small, we all have things that either turn us around right away, or make us stick around to see what happens. His picture got my attention, but the rest of it turned me around, it happens. Anytime a good-looking profile picture with a simple, understandable, profile is a potential interest for me right away. Whatever happens thereafter can make or break more potential. It isn't like it takes THAT much to impress me right away, but when long-term is in mind, there's always time for something to come up later and it's out the window. So I'm not saying that I'm only impressed by a completely flawless profile (mine is probably not flawless) but I am impressed by someone who sounds really smart and funny. Some guys don't seem that way at all...one of them was the undereducated, bad-speller...period.
blondesmiler Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Nothing wrong with having preferences, which is why we suggested she moves on to those who match her preferences best, instead of bitching and moaning about those who don't. That's all. Its a public forum for just such topics, if you cannot post on here then what rant and vent at the person!! Mmmm yes I am sure that would work for every dumpee, dumper, date, datee, or general person on here....not! Why do people moan about people moaning on open forums made for venting, moaning, scribing, sharing, advice, help, compassion :rolleyes:
Author LoveLace Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 By the way, I do consider possible scams of online dating, such as really young boys pretending to be older men or vice-versa...it could have been a 12 year-old posting a picture of his brother , who knows.
Eweezy Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Shygirl they wont let it rest. Blonde did you read anything I said? What I said was when a women chooses me that's who I date. Why should I work extra hard for one female when there is another female that already likes me the way i'am. I'am not the one here b1tching about someones profile and if you had so much success or if you were so pretty and so perfect you wouldnt be on the net looking for a date(pathetic) anyway. If guys don't like you because you have a mole on your cheek you pretty much deserve it for being judgemental yourself about silly spelling. I'am the one that brought this topic back up because how pathetic the title was. All i'am saying if you don't like something like silly spelling move on you are making it sound like a crisis or something.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I wrote a thread on this once. I can't stand it! Try a little harder, folks!
blondesmiler Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Lmao...ok....so everyone that goes onto online dating is pathetic? I think there are an awful lot of people in the world that i think would disagree with you. I notice you didn't comment about your preferences. But thats cool guess you just can't handle it.
Ross PK Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Its a public forum for just such topics, if you cannot post on here then what rant and vent at the person!! Mmmm yes I am sure that would work for every dumpee, dumper, date, datee, or general person on here....not! Why do people moan about people moaning on open forums made for venting, moaning, scribing, sharing, advice, help, compassion :rolleyes: Her moaning about what she was moaning about (that's if she was moaning) was understandable. Moaning over someone else's spelling however, isn't.
Eweezy Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Blonde why do you care about my preferences do you want to go out with me or something? If you must know one turn off of mine is when a woman is so concerned about my spelling. I do not care who agrees or disagrees with me that's also a problem if you care what someone in the internet thinks about you. I mean most people here agree that something like spelling is retarded to be judged off of. How can a person judge someone off spelling when they can't even spell spelling bee correctly.
Author LoveLace Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Blonde why do you care about my preferences do you want to go out with me or something? If you must know one turn off of mine is when a woman is so concerned about my spelling. I do not care who agrees or disagrees with me that's also a problem if you care what someone in the internet thinks about you. I mean most people here agree that something like spelling is retarded to be judged off of. How can a person judge someone off spelling when they can't even spell spelling bee correctly. Um, duh, if you are turned off that I am already turned off, it really doesn't matter does it? Is it supposed to hurt me that you are turned off by my preferences that you don't measure up to? So I said spelling B instead of Spelling Bee, and confused weather with whether. At least my profile doesn't look like this: I am jus trying to meet kool peepol who arent affraid of bein themselvs. Sorry, but whatever occasional mistake I make in my posts are completely irrelevant. Because 1st of all, I am not here to purposely impress anyone. Secondly, 95% of what I type makes sense and is spelled correctly. Over half of this guy's profile was severely misspelled and sloppy as h*ll. So out of every 500 words I type you might find one misspelled, but at least I don't write like a fourth grader. And like blonde said Ew (how appropriate to call you Ew), to say online dating is "pathetic" is so 90's. I am a nursing student with all women that works and hardly ever gets time to go out with friends. So I found an extra way to meet people. So tell what part of that is "pathetic". I'm sure you will find some weak argument as you've been doing all along and continue making yourself look like an idiot.
Eweezy Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 LOL so 90's, I guess everyone is online dating now. I love when people use the busy card, but yet you have time to post here. It's funny that I do not see celebrities do online dating and they are busy all the time. It looks like I made you angry because I said online dating is pathetic. Lets make one thing clear people that do online dating have no options or they have baggage, so they hope a profile can make up for the lack they have in the real world. I also noticed people that do online dating are just weird like creepy weird. Trust me when I say this a fancy text isn't going to make a normal person fall for you. Anyway I'am done with this topic take care and hope you find mr.right. Blonde if you want to find out more about my preferences drop me a pm.
grogster Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 LOL so 90's, I guess everyone is online dating now. I love when people use the busy card, but yet you have time to post here. It's funny that I do not see celebrities do online dating and they are busy all the time. It looks like I made you angry because I said online dating is pathetic. Lets make one thing clear people that do online dating have no options or they have baggage, so they hope a profile can make up for the lack they have in the real world. I also noticed people that do online dating are just weird like creepy weird. Trust me when I say this a fancy text isn't going to make a normal person fall for you. Anyway I'am done with this topic take care and hope you find mr.right. Blonde if you want to find out more about my preferences drop me a pm. My prayers are answered.
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