Lucky_One Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I mean I was spelling B champ as a kid ... Ok, I have only read the first post on this 4 page thread, and reading this one line made me HOWL!! Spelling BEE. You are seriously picking on someone else's spelling?? "Kool" or "kewl" isn't a spelling mistake. It's a silly way to write "cool". I text "kewl!!" to my kid when he sends me a message about something neat at school.
Author LoveLace Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 "Kool" or "kewl" isn't a spelling mistake. It's a silly way to write "cool". I text "kewl!!" to my kid when he sends me a message about something neat at school. Yea if you read further in you'd see where his mistakes spiraled one after the other...got to the point where it sounded like he had an 8th grade education after that. And come to find out, he wasn't very educated after all...and didn't have a stable job either...so that one was out the window for me right away..
Author LoveLace Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 If you understand what they wrote then it's good enough. I mean what do you want a date or do you want someone that carries a dictionary every where they go. Blonde, do you want to grade his papers or do you want someone that will take you out? I mean this is a dating site we aren't playing scrabble here people. Good enough for some maybe, but the more I read, the more it sounded like a six year old wrote it, bad first impression if you ask me.
949GuitarDude Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Are we to assume that you got 4.0 due to being regardlessly smart? And the .4 you got because you have a great sense of hummer? There are 5.0 scales.
blondesmiler Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Wow, women are really picky. LMAO ~ cause men of course aren't in the slightest :rolleyes:
Island Girl Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Wow, women are really picky. When choosing a possible relationship and involving a stranger in one's life - anyone should be "picky".
Eweezy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Wow, women are really picky. It's the internet dude you will meet alot of weirdos like this. If spelling is such a big problem then jesus some of you females do not deserve a man simple as that. I'am just laughing at the fact that kewl and cool plays such a big first impression on you. I mean it's your life and you decide who you date, but i had to respond how stupid it was to judge a person based on some simple text.
Island Girl Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 It's the internet dude you will meet alot of weirdos like this. If spelling is such a big problem then jesus some of you females do not deserve a man simple as that. I'am just laughing at the fact that kewl and cool plays such a big first impression on you. I mean it's your life and you decide who you date, but i had to respond how stupid it was to judge a person based on some simple text. An online profile is an introduction. How one introduces themselves is key. Liken it to applying for a job. You create a resume or fill out a job application. The WAY you put the information out there is key. If you have misspellings or grammatical errors more than likely you will reduce your chances of being considered for the position. Whether it is laziness, incompetence, etc. it doesn't matter. If you want a girl/guy who can afford to be choosy then you would be best served by making the best first impression you can.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I often have more fun with simple people with little education, than my uptight and no fun colleagues with degrees. Oh for sure!!!! Me too!! However, they call me auntie Dee and still poop in their pants. I have tons of smart, educated friends that are "crazy" fun. You can also sit down with them and talk about "The Republic" (Plato, not Playdoh) while knocking back pints and tequila shots. I'll let a spelling mistake or two go. But a profile with too many mistakes shows that they put zero effort into it. Even a "simple" dude can use a spell check (if he cares to). What does grind me the wrong way? When I get a message that says "your hot".... It's "YOU'RE"!!!!
grogster Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Oh for sure!!!! Me too!! However, they call me auntie Dee and still poop in their pants. I have tons of smart, educated friends that are "crazy" fun. You can also sit down with them and talk about "The Republic" (Plato, not Playdoh) while knocking back pints and tequila shots. I'll let a spelling mistake or two go. But a profile with too many mistakes shows that they put zero effort into it. Even a "simple" dude can use a spell check (if he cares to). What does grind me the wrong way? When I get a message that says "your hot".... It's "YOU'RE"!!!! D-Lish, your really, really Hot! Seriously, I've recently re-entered the virtual dating world after a seven month break, and my dating pool, professional middle-aged women, almost always express themselves well. I have no fun stories of garbled syntax or egregious spelling and grammatical errors. Of course, if she looks great, who cares.
Eweezy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 In the real world a woman isn't going to make a guy write a paragraph before she considers to date him. Island are you saying dating a woman like yourself is like applying for a job lol. D-lish like you couldn't tell the difference between you're hot and your hot? I do not have a profile or anything like that, but I do not see why you girls here are so uptight jeez. As long as you can't understand the person or if they are writing in another language it shouldn't be a problem. If you do not want this spelling error what I find funny write in your profile guys with errors in their profile are a big no no or you could do what your parents did and look out in the real world.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 In the real world a woman isn't going to make a guy write a paragraph before she considers to date him. Island are you saying dating a woman like yourself is like applying for a job lol. D-lish like you couldn't tell the difference between you're hot and your hot? I do not have a profile or anything like that, but I do not see why you girls here are so uptight jeez. As long as you can't understand the person or if they are writing in another language it shouldn't be a problem. If you do not want this spelling error what I find funny write in your profile guys with errors in their profile are a big no no or you could do what your parents did and look out in the real world. I CAN tell the difference when it's on a profile...that's the point, that's what we are talking about on this thread. It's a first impression. It's the only first impression one has to go on when you are browsing online. And Grogs... YOUR HAWT! meow! I look at the picture first as well, then go from there. The way someone writes does reveal a whole lot about who they are.
Island Girl Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 In the real world a woman isn't going to make a guy write a paragraph before she considers to date him. Island are you saying dating a woman like yourself is like applying for a job lol. In a sense, yes. A guy is "applying" for the chance at being my SO. I fully expect to be evaluated as well - at least if he isn't desperate, he will be. I do not have a profile or anything like that, but I do not see why you girls here are so uptight jeez. As long as you can't understand the person or if they are writing in another language it shouldn't be a problem. Who are you to say whether it should or shouldn't be for someone else? It is a personal preference. I am "uptight" (ahem, I DO find offense in the choice of vocabulary BTW) because I know what I feel comfortable with and what I am more compatible with. I know what I am looking for. Someone else - another woman may not be so selective. Perhaps because these things aren't important to her or are less important than others, or because she is desperate. If you do not want this spelling error what I find funny write in your profile guys with errors in their profile are a big no no or you could do what your parents did and look out in the real world. No, what's funny is that you assume we are all using this medium to find someone at the moment. Have you considered that some of us may in fact be involved with a SO already?
Eweezy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Everyone makes mistakes thats my point. I seen in a few posts on this website where there was a person that had to correct someones error like they were going to get a pat on the back for correcting someone. I'am pretty sure online profiles aren't 99.9 percent full of errors. I find it so lame that someone gets turned off by kewl and cool that's the discussion d-lish. I mean if the person wrote their profile like they were in special ed then okay that's cool whatever. Island I wonder if your boyfriend had to be a english professor for you to go out with him. Now a woman is desperate if she goes out with a guy that has a spelling error like kewl and cool LOLOL. I can see the word uptight pinched a nerve maybe because it's true.
grogster Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 The way someone writes does reveal a whole lot about who they are. I agree wholeheartedly. I respect folks who think clearly and write well even when I disagree with them. For me, good writing connotes a good mind, which makes that person, whether a guy or gal, that much more attractive. A good body with good grammar is a godsend.
Author LoveLace Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Everyone makes mistakes thats my point. I seen in a few posts on this website where there was a person that had to correct someones error like they were going to get a pat on the back for correcting someone. I'am pretty sure online profiles aren't 99.9 percent full of errors. I find it so lame that someone gets turned off by kewl and cool that's the discussion d-lish. I mean if the person wrote their profile like they were in special ed then okay that's cool whatever. Island I wonder if your boyfriend had to be a english professor for you to go out with him. Now a woman is desperate if she goes out with a guy that has a spelling error like kewl and cool LOLOL. I can see the word uptight pinched a nerve maybe because it's true. Again you've missed a lot, apparently...when I saw the word "kool" (not kewl), I considered that maybe he was just trying to sound "cool" by spelling it that way....until I saw that he couldn't spell over half of his other words correctly. Believe me I've dated men that have been much less educated than me, and sometimes they are very smart inidivduals otherwise...but most of the time, they are not able to relate to me on a professional or intellectual level because I'm getting my 2nd B.S. degree and education is my life...so I talk about it a lot. It's frustrating if I try to talk about my life with someone who can't begin to understand where I'm coming from. He might be cute and we might have interests in common, but it's crucial that a potential boyfriend is mature and wise enough to be able to discuss my life concerns if I should so desire to do so. And a guy that types like a 13 year-old, and doesn't even have a job, is certainly not going to impress me in that aspect of my needs. Why waste my time if I already question whether or not he could fully understand when I talk about other aspects of my life? Why don't post yourself a profile and completely misspell over half of the words, and see how many responses you get that are from women who you would actually consider a long-term relationship with. Then, attempt contact with women who appear independent and successful with the same profile, and see how many of them respond to you. Go ahead, and let us know.
isoleaf Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 This guy was cute but he spelled out "kool" instead of "cool"...I mean I was spelling B champ as a kid so maybe I have a pet peeve about this, but would this be enough for you to go ahead and think they must be dumb as rocks or would you still give them a chance if they are attractive? It totally turns me off but I wondered how much most of us would weigh on the importance of proper spelling abilities!!!...I mean, we could be talking a high-school drop out here but even then a person can usually spell such a simple word for gosh sakes... if you dump an otherwise quality person because they said "kool" instead of "cool" (esp in an online context) then you're the one who "must be dumb as rocks" hopefully you're hot.
Author LoveLace Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 if you dump an otherwise quality person because they said "kool" instead of "cool" (esp in an online context) then you're the one who "must be dumb as rocks" hopefully you're hot. There was no "dumping" to begin with, I just did not return initial interest. That's my right. And the last thing I am is dumb for not going out with a guy who's WHOLE profile looked like a junior high-schooler wrote it and said he doesn't have a job but he is a "self employed" drummer. And his photo looked like he was playing the drums in a garage somewhere. He looked cute, but sorry that isn't enough. And I'm certainly not looking for a potential husband that I would be totally responsible for financially. It was CLEAR that the guy had NOTHING going for him other than looks and he could also be a bigger gentleman than prince but sorry, you have to look at the big picture when your trying to settle down and if the only impressive thing is his looks, it's unacceptable. I don't get why that's so hard for you men here to understand. Oh yea that's right, all you guys need is something that you can stick your d*ck into, long as she's okay-looking, you somehow think you are worthy of any whore.
isoleaf Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 There was no "dumping" to begin with, I just did not return initial interest. That's my right. And the last thing I am is dumb for not going out with a guy who's WHOLE profile looked like a junior high-schooler wrote it and said he doesn't have a job but he is a "self employed" drummer. And his photo looked like he was playing the drums in a garage somewhere. He looked cute, but sorry that isn't enough. And I'm certainly not looking for a potential husband that I would be totally responsible for financially. It was CLEAR that the guy had NOTHING going for him other than looks and he could also be a bigger gentleman than prince but sorry, you have to look at the big picture when your trying to settle down and if the only impressive thing is his looks, it's unacceptable. I don't get why that's so hard for you men here to understand. Oh yea that's right, all you guys need is something that you can stick your d*ck into, long as she's okay-looking, you somehow think you are worthy of any whore. i prefaced my input with "an otherwise quality" individual. this was because i didn't feel like asking if the person was quality or not, i just left you with my input and that preface. secondly, i don't think all guys need just someone who's "okay-looking" to stick our "d*cks into" otherwise there wouldn't be so many annoyed okay-looking women stuck in singledom these days. thirdly, i'd say it's men who have been struggling to figure out which women can impress passed their looks. men have, since the beginning of time, been evaluated on a broad range of things, last of which are their looks (depending on what stage in life the woman is, which again illustrates that you women are not all that much better than us men like your post implies). lastly, this is why women can't date younger guys. when i date a younger girl, i'm not LOOKING DOWN ON HER because she's simply younger. i take her for what she is and look at the benefits she can offer whatever those may be. sometimes it's looks as it is with this man. i'm sorry that not all hot people are also amazing at everything, otherwise you and i would both be worse off in regards to finding a mate and having a job. you gotta take things for what they are, not look down on them for some arbitrary reason is my point. if you're looking at a super hot guy and he can't spell so great, why are you so surprised? if you want a guy who can spell super well, then maybe he won't be as cute? which is more important to you ultimately? how about in the short term? my point is you're being arbitrary over something small. and if it's not small, then let me ask you this. if mr. perfect came up to you, rich and super hot and everything you ask for, would you still turn him down if he had, as you say, a profile that looked like he was from "junior high"? maybe then you would excuse his behavior and think of reasons why it's okay or maybe you'd find his approach humorous or amusing. anyways, way to vent your bitterness at me. i was simply speaking to the post, i do not assume things about the person writing it nor do i project offensive, sweeping generalizations that are unrelated to the topic at hand. simply the action of rejecting based on "kool" vs "cool" and i felt that your choice of words "dumb as rocks" was a bit harsh which is why i put it in QUOTES and turned it around on you to see how YOU felt when some random online person passes judgement based on something you said arbitrarily online. let's just say i think i got my point across.
mikesierra Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 UGH! bad spelling is a little annoying, I think, but not only did you write spelling "B" instead of "bee," you just used "weather" in place of "whether." I don't really care one way or another, but writing "kool" instead of "cool" is hardly an issue at all.
Peter_pan Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 i like the spelling of cool to be kool. i think cool is so un cool... and i think ROFL is probably the best one lol. Only because i was online once and this idiot kept saying it and i didnt have a clue what he was on about, something about rofl copters
Author LoveLace Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 i prefaced my input with "an otherwise quality" individual. this was because i didn't feel like asking if the person was quality or not, i just left you with my input and that preface. secondly, i don't think all guys need just someone who's "okay-looking" to stick our "d*cks into" otherwise there wouldn't be so many annoyed okay-looking women stuck in singledom these days. thirdly, i'd say it's men who have been struggling to figure out which women can impress passed their looks. men have, since the beginning of time, been evaluated on a broad range of things, last of which are their looks (depending on what stage in life the woman is, which again illustrates that you women are not all that much better than us men like your post implies). lastly, this is why women can't date younger guys. when i date a younger girl, i'm not LOOKING DOWN ON HER because she's simply younger. i take her for what she is and look at the benefits she can offer whatever those may be. sometimes it's looks as it is with this man. i'm sorry that not all hot people are also amazing at everything, otherwise you and i would both be worse off in regards to finding a mate and having a job. Can't date younger guys? I get hit on by them all the time. 10 years younger. And I never said I "looked down" on the guy...I just had no desire to return my interest, based upon the obvious fact that he is not a successful, independent man like I seek. And that conclusion was made well beyond his spelling habits. I didn't even say he was hot, just average-ly cute. If he had other qualities that I found interesting, obviously I would have been more interested. You can't tell me there are not things that you require in potential girlfriends/wives, aside from looks. And if it comes down to life-partner potential, anyone is going to be more picky..for gosh sakes you want someone at least halfway tolerable enough to spend your life with, and someone you can count on economically and mentally...even if you are already stable in that area of your own life. I don't need some rich suit and tie guy. But an unemployed, "self-employed" drummer, not too admirable to me, sorry. I would be more admirable of a carpenter, mechanic, or blue collar guy that works hard and has ambition. What's the drummer's ambition? To be a rock star? That would be a cool friend to have, but not a boyfriend. you gotta take things for what they are, not look down on them for some arbitrary reason is my point. if you're looking at a super hot guy and he can't spell so great, why are you so surprised? if you want a guy who can spell super well, then maybe he won't be as cute? which is more important to you ultimately? how about in the short term? I don't seek out short-term potential, only long-term. Years ago when that didn't matter much, I would have been more likely not to care about other qualities. my point is you're being arbitrary over something small. and if it's not small, then let me ask you this. if mr. perfect came up to you, rich and super hot and everything you ask for, would you still turn him down if he had, as you say, a profile that looked like he was from "junior high"? maybe then you would excuse his behavior and think of reasons why it's okay or maybe you'd find his approach humorous or amusing. If he was everything I ask for, he would have a profile that indicates some intelligence and attention to how he is presenting himself. So that question is totally irrelevant. Any guy with a sloppy profile won't even get that far with me in the 1st place. I disregard them as a potential partner well before there is any room for "making excuses". But if I meet him the 1st time and he ACTS like he's in junior high, then the same idea applies - no matter how hot he is. anyways, way to vent your bitterness at me. i was simply speaking to the post, i do not assume things about the person writing it nor do i project offensive, sweeping generalizations that are unrelated to the topic at hand. simply the action of rejecting based on "kool" vs "cool" and i felt that your choice of words "dumb as rocks" was a bit harsh which is why i put it in QUOTES and turned it around on you to see how YOU felt when some random online person passes judgement based on something you said arbitrarily online. For the 100th time, the rejection was based on much more than one misspelled word, and I did not tell the guy I thought he was "dumb as rocks", nor did I judge anyone on this forum as that. So again, irrelevant. I politely declined interest in the guy, I would never directly tell him he might be too "dumb as rocks" to go out with me. But it is possible. It's possible even if someone has a perfectly presentable profile...you just don't find out until you meet them. It just so happens his profile was enough for me to decide not to even get that far. That's what profiles are for in the 1st place. If it doesn't impress you, it's your right not to pursue. And we're all impressed by different things. It's no different than passing on a profile right away because you are not impressed by their picture, which happens all the time, but we don't get judged for that based on the argument that attraction has to be there in order to fuel any further interest. Anything thereafter can either further interest or kill it.
Eweezy Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 UGH! bad spelling is a little annoying, I think, but not only did you write spelling "B" instead of "bee," you just used "weather" in place of "whether." I don't really care one way or another, but writing "kool" instead of "cool" is hardly an issue at all. Right I rest my case not only did you make a mistake you made 2 of them omg you are such a horrible person now I got a bad impression of you in my mind!. Yes, I made a mistake with kewl and kool I must be the dumbest person on earth to you, but does that matter no because you are lame. Grog goodlooks and good grammer is a godsend LOL stop ass kissing you aren't going to get laid here, I'am sorry I had to remind you that. I wouldn't care if you were the most beautiful woman on the earth you are lame if spelling plays such a huge role on who you date and that goes for anyone else here that agreed.
grogster Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Right I rest my case not only did you make a mistake you made 2 of them omg you are such a horrible person now I got a bad impression of you in my mind!. Yes, I made a mistake with kewl and kool I must be the dumbest person on earth to you, but does that matter no because you are lame. Grog goodlooks and good grammer is a godsend LOL stop ass kissing you aren't going to get laid here, I'am sorry I had to remind you that. I wouldn't care if you were the most beautiful woman on the earth you are lame if spelling plays such a huge role on who you date and that goes for anyone else here that agreed. I suspect this difference of opinion is more age-based than gender. I'm of the generation where expressing oneself well, matters. It has nothing to do with getting laid. Well, it does, but not here. Different folks have different preferences, different deal breakers. Nobody's right, nobody's wrong. I enjoy and am attracted to educated women who are capable of expressing themselves in, and out of, bed. That's my preference whether you consider it "kool" or not.
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