SoulSearch_CO Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Yes, people that couldn't spell was a major turn-off to me. I generally ended up overlooking them on dating sites. I also couldn't work up any excitement over those that couldn't structure a sentence. I understand the whole not-a-native speaker thing - but some things are just downright annoying. As I told my honey, there were emails from guys that just made my eyes want to bleed, they were so bad. LOL
blondesmiler Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 This guy was cute but he spelled out "kool" instead of "cool"...I mean I was spelling B champ as a kid so maybe I have a pet peeve about this, but would this be enough for you to go ahead and think they must be dumb as rocks or would you still give them a chance if they are attractive? It totally turns me off but I wondered how much most of us would weigh on the importance of proper spelling abilities!!!...I mean, we could be talking a high-school drop out here but even then a person can usually spell such a simple word for gosh sakes... Oh great I am not the only person who hates this!! lol If I see one mistake I can let it slide, but if there are loads and on simple words I just drives me mad (mad in a bad way) hate it! One guy I gave my number too just spelt hello as helo, Debbie as Deby and so on about 10mistakes in 1 text......arrrrgggghhh
Author LoveLace Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Ha-hem.. weather should be whether.. you were a B.. I was an 'A'.. I think you are being a little too severe.. I said it was a spelling contest, not a grammar contest lol. I've always gotten weather mixed up with whether as far as which one is about what's going on outside... I also noticed that he wants to meet someone who is not "affraid of bein themselvs"....I mean really! Don't most people go back and double check what they write? Because if he did, and missed all those mistakes, then he must not realize they are mistakes to begin with...even worse. We all make mistakes like that here and there, but obviously this guy is representing some kind of serious spelling/reading deficit... I'm a nursing student and I don't expect everyone else to know what I'm talking about if I mention hepatorenal syndrome or respiratory alkalosis, lol, but at least spell like your 28, not 12...the guy calls himself "self-employed", but he's drummer...haha, and that alone isn't enough to judge because I've known "self employed" musicians who are stupidly book smart...but something tells me this guy skipped a lot of school for band practice lol. Anyway, I politely told him I'm not interested....I'd prefer someone who is almost, equal to, or above me at education level...
sumdude Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 A misspelling or two in an e-mail or profile are forgivable, especially if it's a slang word. If the whole thing is grammatically poor and full of obvious misspellings you can usually suss out if it's a non native speaker, someone who may be dyslexic, not well educated from the downright intellectually challenged. One pet peeve I have with a couple of dating services (*atch for example) is the tiny little text boxes you have to work with when typing in your profile or an e-mail. You can't even see the thing in it's entirety and there's no spell check. Makes it hard to even proofread it. I end up reposting profiles a couple of times because my typing isn't the best. Such a simple thing to add for all the money they charge yet they won't do it. I've resorted to using another text editor and then pasting to the little text box.
clv0116 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 One pet peeve I have with a couple of dating services (*atch for example) is the tiny little text boxes you have to work with Google Chrome lets you resize multiline text input boxes.
Author LoveLace Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 "sumdude"....like that. AND you can spell, haha...
BobSacamento Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 wow, could you be anymore anal and uptight? very attractive
johan Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Honestly, he doesn't spell cool as 'kool' because he thinks thats literally the way to spell it lol. I have a college education, 4.4 GPA and am generally regarded as smart regardless of my inability to spell genuine on a previous post without the help of spell check lol. But if its a pet peeve its a pet peeve, mention it and maybe he will stop trying to be 'kool' with his urban dictionary! Are we to assume that you got 4.0 due to being regardlessly smart? And the .4 you got because you have a great sense of hummer?
MN randomguy Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 People do make mistakes. Also, sometimes you're filling that stuff out late at night or whatever. Although it is a known pet peeve of mine. Too each their own I guess. Some of us, me included don't really proof stuff on social internet sites. To each their own.
Island Girl Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 People do make mistakes. Also, sometimes you're filling that stuff out late at night or whatever. That's understandable if you are just chattering. But if you are looking for a date or a potential girlfriend, hmmmm, not so much. johan - you DO have a since of hummer!!! lol
ray342 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Haha, try http://www.confonder.com Everyone I've met on there could spell perfectly.
dreamergrl Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 If that's all he misspelled, I wouldn't be put off by it. I've seen so much worse... but I understand where you're coming from.
Surfer Dude Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 So this is where anal retentive, highly judgmental feminazis gather? Yeah, LS seems like the place. Comments in this thread can come only from idiotic women are also absolutely no fun to be around with, because they are control freaks, obsessive compulsive, unromantic and lack any ability too see qualities in other human beings. I suppose dummies in this thread also never dated internationally. Figures. I've done my share of dating abroad and sometimes the language barrier was so bad that we could barely exchange anything meaningful, but that never prevented us from having a great time together and sharing something special. FFS, "kool" is just an online slang for "cool". Can you women be any more anal? Thank god I've never met any women like this in RL......
johan Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Go get 'em Surfer. Get it all out. I was surprised to see that your post was pretty much free of spelling mistakes. Also it was ok, grammar-wise. Guess it matters to you, too.
dreamergrl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I think there's just a point of how picky to be. Again, kool isn't a big deal to me, however, I've had people spell like... "Haws it going?" Simple words that we all should know as adults. That bugs me. I don't know why, but it does. Also extremely poor grammar. There's just some things that are so common sense.... I'm not always perfect in my spelling and what not, but if it's something easy and simple (and constant), I'd be turned off.
Island Girl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 So this is where anal retentive, highly judgmental feminazis gather? Yeah, LS seems like the place. Comments in this thread can come only from idiotic women are also absolutely no fun to be around with, because they are control freaks, obsessive compulsive, unromantic and lack any ability too see qualities in other human beings. I suppose dummies in this thread also never dated internationally. Figures. I've done my share of dating abroad and sometimes the language barrier was so bad that we could barely exchange anything meaningful, but that never prevented us from having a great time together and sharing something special. FFS, "kool" is just an online slang for "cool". Can you women be any more anal? Thank god I've never met any women like this in RL...... Your shallow generalities say a lot about you my friend. There are people here who have dated internationally. Some have even had a bit more success than you have at overcoming the language barriers and sharing something - how did you put it? - oh yeah, "meaningful". That seems strange, doesn't it considering how "unromantic" we ALL are. There are also people here who can run slang talk with the best of them. check yourself: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kewl Kool would be - uh - what? Are you speaking of the Kentucky Offender Online Lookup system? find it here: http://www.corrections.ky.gov/KOOL.htm Or is it Kool cigarettes? KOOL 105 FM in Denver? Right you are about being on the cutting edge. I can really see it. As far as those statements about being control freaks, unromantic, etc. It sounds like someone has a grudge when it comes to ladies, eh? It must be frustrating to never be able to get to date who you want. Let me help you out, it's like this: If you are on the prowl and looking for a date you should put your best foot forward. And if you are on a website placing an add for a date you will have more luck if you do not come across as an illiterate moron. Use spell check if you are lacking in education or if you just suck at spelling. If you are making a statement to try to look KEWL than make sure you know your Urban Dictionary! Haaaaay!
Author LoveLace Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 Yes Surfer perhaps you didn't read far enough into this thread. "kool" was not the only misspelling in the guy's ad...that word alone could possibly be explainable and forgiveable given it's slang...but then he spelled "afraid" with 2 F's and said "bein" instead of "being" and that's not where it ends. The guy was completely American, so there's no excuse of internationality here... My preferences for what I look for in a date are simply my preferences, and not only is it a date but a possible life partner I am looking for...and I am not impressed by someone who obviously was pretty careless in the appearance of their ad....to me it says they may also be careless about who wants to date them...who wants that? Anyone could agree that 1st impressions weigh pretty heavy, whether that impression is looks, humor, wardrobe, etc. doesn't even matter - if we are turned off by the 1st thing we see, we are usually not interested in seeing more. Just like a job interview, you are not likely to hire someone with misspelled words all over their resume, right? You don't personally know me or any of the other women here, so the evidence to support your judgements are completely absent. You have no idea how fun or romantic we are. And without standards or preferences, you might as well say you are willing to be with anyone who will have you because you are desperate. So obsessive-complusive hardly fits in here either. Whoever that woman is you really speak of, don't go through life thinking we are all like her, because that only be detrimental to you and no one else.
Surfer Dude Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Island Girl: I shooould uze my European akcent and speling perhapz? Lovelace: I understand that proper spelling means a lot to you, so I won't invade your system of values. I'm just gonna say that through my plentiful social interactions I've realized that level of education has very little to do with personality. For me, that's an objective and empirical observation supported by everyday interactions with people. I often have more fun with simple people with little education, than my uptight and no fun colleagues with degrees. Don't put too much stock into these superficial things because you might miss on some really great people.
Author LoveLace Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 Surfer I still don't think you are understanding....the guy might be perfectly fun to be around and all; but clearly he lacks attention in making a good 1st impression. When it comes to being a friend, it's quite possible that he'd qualify as a decent one...but looking for a special someone is different from looking for a friend. If there is anything that indicates he might not be a match for me, why waste my time. And a good match for me is not a guy who is careless about impressing me. It's about that more than it is about spelling. However, the spelling itself, as severe as it seems to be, might indicate a bad upbringing (hence low level of education) and he calls himself a "self-employed drummer". Does that sound like a guy I could count on as a husband? Of course not. I'm in my 30's, so I'm not just looking for a "friend", I need to consider what's best for me in the long run. I never said it makes him a bad guy or even a bad boyfriend. Just less than what I want, need, and deserve when it comes to someone I"d want to spend life with. I don't seek out wealthy George Clooney look alikes. But he has to appear reliable and confident. This guy struck on those 2 things right away. When ya know what you want, you know what you want. I admit that if I was 21 and all about just having fun, his looks and personality would be all that mattered. But when it seems that time is running out, it's actually the best time to tighten up on your standards and admit to everything that truly makes you happy. It's either that or "settle" for what could get the job half-a$$ done.
Island Girl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Island Girl: I shooould uze my European akcent and speling perhapz? Ony ef I can yuss my hasbund's Poly one too.
Eweezy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 This guy was cute but he spelled out "kool" instead of "cool"...I mean I was spelling B champ as a kid so maybe I have a pet peeve about this, but would this be enough for you to go ahead and think they must be dumb as rocks or would you still give them a chance if they are attractive? It totally turns me off but I wondered how much most of us would weigh on the importance of proper spelling abilities!!!...I mean, we could be talking a high-school drop out here but even then a person can usually spell such a simple word for gosh sakes... I do not do online dating, but if you are so worried about a spelling error you got bigger problems than dating. I can see why you do online dating because in the real world you are probably a nerd that can't communicate well with people in the real world.
blondesmiler Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I do not do online dating, but if you are so worried about a spelling error you got bigger problems than dating. I can see why you do online dating because in the real world you are probably a nerd that can't communicate well with people in the real world. Sorry but BS, this is what is wrong with dating in general these days, there is too much choice and easy options, thus people do not make an effort to impress or show there best selves and are generally just lazy because they just think well I can just move onto the next one. Lazy incl spelling, the odd mistake fair enuff () but when its more or less everyword then it shows that there is little effort to want to show your best to this possible new date. So if you cannot be bothered with something as simple as checking your spelling over, then what hope is there of any or much effort going forward?? I believe in who someone shows you they are in the very beginning is a good sign of who they will be if you got further on down the line. Lazy now, lazy later on.
Eweezy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 If you understand what they wrote then it's good enough. I mean what do you want a date or do you want someone that carries a dictionary every where they go. Blonde, do you want to grade his papers or do you want someone that will take you out? I mean this is a dating site we aren't playing scrabble here people.
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