Lee2 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Following on from my recent thread:- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t179844/ I have to post my doubts / worries and I could really do with some advice as my head is all over the place. Saw her again last night I went to her friends house as she was housesitting. I didn't get there until 10pm as she went to the Ice Hockey earlier in the evening. Last night something was different. It could be because it was late and were both tired but when I arrived I gave her chocolates I had bought her for valentines day (no card, no mention of the 'L' word, we're both aware it's very early days). She thanked me but almost straight away she criticised me for something minor which didn't put me in the best of moods. We went into the living room to watch tv and the first thing she did was sit the dog next to her so I had to sit on the other couch. She then spent the next 2 hours texting her friend (who was having 'men problems'). We didn't say much during this time as I know she doesn't like talking while she is watching a movie, but during the ads she did say that we could meet up later this week. That cheered me up a little. At the end of the evening she showed me to the door and she was going to kiss me but, and I don't know why I did, but I pulled away and said 'no' in a jokey fashion. (looking back I suppose subconsciously I was a little annoyed as the evening didn't go the way I had hoped, childish I know). She didn't seem to mind & found it funny but said you've had your chance now! She closed the door and text me 'night night x'. (I text her back saying that I felt like a chump, an idiot and i was looking forward to seeing her again. I then text her three times yesterday (I know, I know why three times, i'm an idiot I guess), she replied after the third occasion saying she was sorry she didn't reply earlier as she was busy and that she could probably meet me on Thursday during the day. I replied that I would fit in where she could see me as I know she has a busy life but Thursday am isn't possible as I have an appointment so let me know x. That was 24 hours ago..... She always takes her time to reply, I sometimes think she waits until I send 3 texts before she will reply!! What am I doing?, should I wait to hear from her again before texting again? I could see her Thursday pm as I'm sure we're both free then but then I don't want to seem too eager....or is it that she isn't as interested as me? The reason I think that is because when I'm with her and someone texts her, she will reply almost immediately. Something else to take into consideration is that I lost my job last week so I have toooo much time on my hands right now. Confused as hell... As usual, I'm looking for your invaluable advice.
Geishawhelk Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 So... How long have you been a doormat?
sand26 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I'm not a doormat..am I? Kind of starting to sound like one bro. This early in your relationship you should be planning dates. Like leaving the house kind of dates. She is on the couch texting? Go knock her dog on the butt and plop down next to her! Take her dancing and kiss her at the stoplights on the way home. She tells you something she doesn't like about you? Look at her incredulously... she can't be serious!!! You are allowing this girl to own you... not very attractive or healthy bro. good luck, the mfk
Geishawhelk Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Following on from my recent thread:- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t179844/ I have to post my doubts / worries and I could really do with some advice as my head is all over the place. Saw her again last night I went to her friends house as she was housesitting. I didn't get there until 10pm as she went to the Ice Hockey earlier in the evening. Last night something was different. .......She thanked me but almost straight away she criticised me for something minor which didn't put me in the best of moods. ......sit the dog next to her so I had to sit on the other couch. She then spent the next 2 hours texting her friend (who was having 'men problems'). .....I know she doesn't like talking while she is watching a movie, but during the ads she did say that we could meet up later this week. That cheered me up a little. This is known as "being fed breadcrumbs".... ....she was going to kiss me ..... but I pulled away and said 'no' in a jokey fashion. ...... said you've had your chance now! She closed the door and text me 'night night x'. (I text her back saying that I felt like a chump, an idiot and i was looking forward to seeing her again. Why? She'd been a beetch all night and practically ignored you, and made you sit somewhere else whilst she cuddled the dog, fer chrissakes!! I then text her three times yesterday (I know, I know why three times, i'm an idiot I guess), THis is the bit I latched on to. Doormat - style... she replied after the third occasion saying she was sorry she didn't reply earlier as she was busy and that she could probably meet me on Thursday during the day. Wow. That was big of her.... I replied that I would fit in where she could see me as I know she has a busy life but Thursday am isn't possible as I have an appointment so let me know x. That was 24 hours ago..... She always takes her time to reply, I sometimes think she waits until I send 3 texts before she will reply!! D_O_O_R_M_A_T..... What am I doing?, should I wait to hear from her again before texting again? I could see her Thursday pm as I'm sure we're both free then but then I don't want to seem too eager....or is it that she isn't as interested as me? Are you beginning to get it yet??? The reason I think that is because when I'm with her and someone texts her, she will reply almost immediately. What size feet does she have?
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