retchief Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 we have been seeing eachother for 7 wonderful months she has two wonderful boys, we went swimming, camping, fishing, we rode my harley, we always go out and have a wonderful time with and with out her boys. she comes from a severly abusive relationship before us, she is always down on her self, doesnt want presents, or money spent on her, she has told me so many times she loves me and she and her boys need me and im the most wonderful man she 's ever met. her abusive ex is around because of the boys, and she is still afraid. she broke up with me because she needs to find out if she isnt confusing safety for love. she just started seeing a counselr, said she needs time to see if she misses me, sje called me on valentines day. and sadi she shouldent tell me this but she really misses me and loves me, b ut needs to work through her problems so we can have a better relationship. ive saked if she wants me to walk away (i dont), she said dont make her answer that question now we love eachother very much, i think after some time she will beback. am i right or wrong i will wait for her
Author retchief Posted February 17, 2009 Author Posted February 17, 2009 i forgot to say she went shopping but drove the long way to the road i showed her a country drive short cut which ends by my house and she said she almost called me and come over? i thinks she want me still
Susan1960 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I feel that if two people are really in love then they would need one another during a time of stress. If she did love you unconditionally she would need you by her side now more than anything. What type of problems is she saying she needs to work out? It sounds to me as though that may just be an excuse and she is looking to see if she does in fact love you. What type of issues have you have been the two of you, not her kids and her ex?
Author retchief Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 thanks for answering sharon the only issues we really have is she doesnt think i want another family and i want her and her boys so bad, i keep telling her,this. i did go and see her at her house and i held her and we hugged and kissed and i repeated that i want them for a family, she calls me every 4-5 days now. and she said she wants to be sure she loves me before we go further so the boys arent dragged through a bad breakup/divorce. they keep asking her if i called yet (about 20 times a day i love that)
Author retchief Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 sharon forgot to say she needs to see if she isnt confusing safety for love scince she was so abused by their father she sais she misses me so bad from day one of thr break up (ninie days) i think she will be back because she said she needs to do this to make our relationship better down the road ????????
Author retchief Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 thanks kate, i so hope u are right and thats the inclination i get also, she is confused but the fact she hasnt ended it yet and she's still calling me once every 4-5 days still gives me hope, i want her and sons so very much i guess i have to wait. the fact this is as hard on her as me gives me hope . and she calls too.
Author retchief Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 any other ideas of thoughts as i am pretty bad and lonely??
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