firestorm88 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Okay, so my girlfriend is an introvert, at least thats what i figure, because she can go for days without talking to me (or anyone for that matter) and not even think about it. It bugs me to no end, and I just wondered how to make her see that I have needs too, because I can text her, and call and everything and she ignores me. All I'm asking is for her to want to talk to me, but it seems like I'm always the one apologizing for bothering her, when all i want to do is talk like normal people do in a relationship. Any tips would be helpful. Thanks
Geishawhelk Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 You can't change a paeraon's natural temperamnet. if she's happy to accept you the way you are, then you will simply have to be happy to accept ehr the way she is. If you can't do that, then maybe you'll have to reconsider whether (one) it's something you could learn to adapt to, or (two) question whether actually, she really is all that into you....? How long have you two been dating? Has she always been like this? Is she like this with everyone else too? What is she like when you're together, or with friends?
mental_traveller Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Okay, so my girlfriend is an introvert, at least thats what i figure, because she can go for days without talking to me (or anyone for that matter) and not even think about it. It bugs me to no end, and I just wondered how to make her see that I have needs too, because I can text her, and call and everything and she ignores me. All I'm asking is for her to want to talk to me, but it seems like I'm always the one apologizing for bothering her, when all i want to do is talk like normal people do in a relationship. Any tips would be helpful. Thanks Basically you are asking her to be something that she isn't. You're demanding she acts in a way totally contrary to her nature, and starts acting like you. Why should it be this way? Why shouldn't YOU start acting like her, stop bugging her so much, and stop being so needy and demanding? Does that sound unreasonable? Well, it's just as unreasonable for you to expect her to become like you as it would be for her to demand you become more like her. My suggestion is accept her as who she is, or find someone else more suited to your needs and desires. But trying to change her nature will never work and will just annoy the hell out of both of you.
elizabeth26 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I'm the introvert in my relatioship and it frustrates me how easy it is for my boyfriend to talk to others, and he tries to push me to be moreoutgoing. Maybe my perspective could help a little... I can get a little preoccupied with my own thoughts and accidentally ignore my boyfriend, which is our biggest source of frustration. I also find it hard to forgive some of the stupid crap his friends pull, because I can't relate to why they say things that could offend me, which stresses him out as well because I would not hang out with him if they were around. We've dated for 6 years now and I've pretty much accepted that we are different people and it's a good thing, he is my world, and I am the girl he can tell anything to because I could never betray his trust. Believe me, were by no means in a perfect relationship and communication is vital, but if you both try and understand each others personalities your relationship can be so rewarding because different personalities compliment each other.
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