sad&lonely Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 My ex broke up with me in late october, she started to see another guy, we just became close friends.. i was really depressed about the situation so i needed to be friends with her i still needed her in my life until i was ready to let go. early in jan i started dating different girls, we told each other about our dates ya i know weird! but everytime i go with my dates she ends up calling like 20 times on my phone i usually just dont answer but last night i picked up the phone while i was on a date and she told me she still has feelings for me and she is confused, i told her i know your still in love with me she didnt say anything.. My ex is always on my mind, but i was getting better recently now after this incident i think about taking her back i know it would be a mistake because i will get hurt again eventually i havent slept all night. i wish i could just get rid of these feelings.... one hand i still have strong feelings for her, but other hand i want to move on a try to meet new people.. i guess i will give it a few days and see what happens any advice is apreciated
Mary1977 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Sorry but it sounds like she doesn't want you but that she doesn't want anyone else to want you either. Decide for yourself whether you want her or whether you want someone else. Forget about getting hurt in the future and live in the present. If you want her, tell her that you are willing to give it a go, but that she has to want that to - to the exclusion of anyone else she may be seeing. If she doesn't, then she has to completely let you go and stop keep dangling the carrot when she sees you are slipping away. If you decide you don't want her back then be upfront and tell her you want to keep her as a friend (if you do) but that is it.
phxalfie Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 sad&lonely, We'll there are two things I need to question, and a lot of people forget this part. 1. Why did she break up with you in Oct? So, the question is not should you get back together with her. The question should be can you resolve the past? The problem that caused the break up? 2. Say you do get back together. Where do you want it go? Why are you wanting a relationship with the women? Marriage? Kids? Just a friend? Start your new life today! Best!
diskey23 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 mary has good advice, if you can stick with it. usually people cant be that cut & dry. this is how id see it going down. you tell her youd give it another shot. she either hangs out with you once or tells you shes just not sure what she wants. at this point, either way i dont see it getting too far. you promise her then that you wont acknowledge her anymore, but you will. so at this point keep dating other girls. when she contacts you, give her short indifferent responses. wait till she gives you a little somethin more definent. seems like just wants to make sure your around still.
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