aquaria127 Posted October 2, 2003 Posted October 2, 2003 This may seem neurotic, but what the hey. I haven't heard from my good-male-friend-who-lives-in-another-state in more than two weeks (we were dating in person for awhile; I moved; we've actually been pretty good at transitioning from LDR to friendship). I thought I sent him a note about 2 weeks ago, but just now as I'm cleaning out email folders, I realized it was saved as a "draft" and not sent. So, technically I didn't write him. but I thought I did. Do I explain about the messed-up email? Do I say I noticed that he hasn't been writing me? I feel kinda peeved because I'm thinking that he could have written or called me in this time, even though I didn't send him a message. but seriously I thought I did! I think that after a year and a half, our relationship could be more "we write or call each other when we feel like it." We don't have to make up rules and guidelines and I don't think that it has to be "we take turns writing to each other." or, is that reality?! ..grr
moimeme Posted October 2, 2003 Posted October 2, 2003 Wouldn't you just love it if we could take mind-reading courses so we'd know what others are thinking? Generally, if I haven't received even a courtesy reply from someone after a reasonable period of time (based on the 'usual' pattern of communication), I'll send a follow-up. More often than not, I find that people have missed the first communication. In my own email program I was getting a lot of spam and I believe I may have deleted some non-spam by accident while deleting the tons of spam. People do that. I also have meant to reply to an email, gotten distracted by other work, and then forgotten the email was still unanswered. I generally try to reply right away to avoid that, but it still can happen when it's a non-business non-critical communication. I figure that if people establish some sort of pattern with respect to time between responses, then they should not think their correspondents unreasonable to inquire or to send another communication if the pattern changes unexpectedly.
Fodie Posted October 4, 2003 Posted October 4, 2003 Just email him what you told us, only him being the audience.
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