melissa123 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Ok so im having a weak moment. I am feeling so bad at the moment!! I cant help but feel like there is something wrong with me!! I have been dumped twice for someone else I was with my first ex for 2.5 years and he cheated then left me for someone else which tore my heart to shreads. Then I finally met someone else a while later whom I dated for a year before he left me for someone else!! I just cant figure out what I am doing wrong :( The pain is awful:( I have lost all self esteem and comfidence and cant help but think its because im to ugly or im just plain boring or something!! I am 20 and both relationships have been LDR due to sporting coommitments. Im about to turn 21 and im depressed and terrified of the future. Im to scared to date as im so scared of getting left again for someone better, but im also terrified of being alone Has anyone else ever gone through something similar? Is there something I am doing wrong which I cant see!!? Thanks in advance, I just feel so down right now about everything
BCCA Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 First, there is nothing wrong with you, other than you are taking this too personally. Next, youre only 20 - I hate to break the bad news, but thats how dating goes. Its like that for everyone, you meet someone and you think they have feelings for you, and then the next thing you know, life sucks again. LDR's are not the best. They are HARD on everyone involved, and take a lot of time and effort. At 20, youre going to have a hard time finding someone who wants to deal with that when there are girls right in front of them everywhere. Just keep your head up and enjoy being alone, as best you can. There is nothing wrong with you, we ALL have these things happen. Dating sucks, but thats part of life.
DSM-IV Tom Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Melissa you know I'm down with you. See, the thing though is that it's not a flaw in you, but rather a flaw in the person who leaves you for another. It is most likely insecurity on their behalf, branched out into other disorders/overcompensations. You may damn well literally be too good for these people, and it intimidates them and so they move on to someone who is QUITE POSSIBLY WORSE THAN YOU. Bet you never thought of it like that. Send me a pic melissa I've known you for like 3 months and have never seen you lol. If you want to see me first, my pics are in my album on this site. Click on my name
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