Just a bit wondering?

[dabears]

I will be meeeting with my ex for the first time in 2 months for dinner. When we were together, we had a great time...I kinda (i did) push her away, i think my expressing to many feelings toward her and talking about our relationship to much.

 

My feeling toward her have not stopped, but I was thrown off guard when she accepted to meet. I did not text, call, or email a lot, while we are apart, but i did send a few texts here and there to see how she was doing, she would always respond. Then this last week, i sent a text..saying "when is dinner" it was more along the lines of a joke, but really i wanted to go to dinner, but also maybe more, I wanted to see what she would say. She accepted, and we are going next week.

 

I would love to get back with her, but I am going into this dinner with expectations that are not toward "us" getting back together.

 

This will be the only second time we have talked in person with each other since the break up..the other was at a community function, and she came up and talked with me for an hour or so.

 

OK, this is where i am somewhat confused..

 

I am confused because I know I annoyed her to know end with the realtionship talks, i pushed her really far away..she was really upset with me, she sent me a pretty insensitive email and she wanted nothing to do with me..but for her to come and talk that one day, and now accepting a dinner invitation, makes me wonder. because if i turned the tables, and she annoyed me to know end, I would want nothing to do with her, and would not go to dinner with her.

 

I am not going to bring up anything about our past realtionship at dinner, the biggest thing I am hoping out of this, is i can get another chance after this to go out again, movie, lunch or whatever. I have heard that she is going to be the one who needs to initiate the second meeting or date, and not me.

 

Any advice..I really want to make things work here, and for her coming to dinner might be a sign she is to, but I am not going to expect that!

[norajane]

Just follow her cues. As you said, do not bring up anything about your relationship, do not ask why she suggested dinner, do not ask. Just smile, flirt, talk about vacations and restaurants and music and whatnot.