I am SLipping and Wanting her back,

[Alan430]

WOw i am having a huge relapse last night and today. She came over and did some things on the computer she needed for work, and im'd me today about her taking our son to her brothers to exchange xmas gifts for the kids.

 

I got to reading some old IM dialogue from aug of 08 (looking for anything i could use in court if it came to it), where she was asking me to come home and make love, and she seemed so in love with me. WTH how could this just be 5 months ago. I even imed her and asked her if she still hated me!!??

 

Im Slipping hardcore, if anyone can offer any advice not to stop this, i could really use it.

[suzanne2009]

You need to go no contact. That is the only way. I can say that it has saved me. Of course you will need to have contact about your son, but leave it at that. Child talk only. No contact lets you heal. It is going to hurt like hell - trust me...I have to sit on my hands sometimes to stop myself from calling and I also have to leave my phone at home on nights that I am going out so I don't make a mistake. Also, STOP going thru all the old IM's, you are just hurting yourself. Stay strong. It will get better.

[edgeof27]

WOw i am having a huge relapse last night and today. She came over and did some things on the computer she needed for work, and im'd me today about her taking our son to her brothers to exchange xmas gifts for the kids.

 

I got to reading some old IM dialogue from aug of 08 (looking for anything i could use in court if it came to it), where she was asking me to come home and make love, and she seemed so in love with me. WTH how could this just be 5 months ago. I even imed her and asked her if she still hated me!!??

 

Im Slipping hardcore, if anyone can offer any advice not to stop this, i could really use it.

 

Alan430,

 

find something to fill your free time,

 

start exercising, do not slip,

 

read more posts here,

 

don't look back,

 

move ahead,

 

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