xxscarredxx Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 So, long story short (but will probably be long anyway), Me and my significant other had been going thru some serious problems since the beginning of the year. She found a journal of mine and read some things that I (angrily) thought about her at the time. In the journal, I also admitted to an affair that took place back in '07, when we had 1st met. Things haven't been right since. Supposedly, the straw that broke the Camel's back took place last weekend. Our schedules (both work and school for us) don't correspond, and with my off days being Thurs/Fri and hers being the weekend, we hardly find time for us anymore. Instead of her coming out and straight forward with the plans she had for the evening, she, with very little advance (like 3 hours) wanted to inform me of dinner plans. Meanwhile... I missed her phone call (running errands, in and out of the car, leaving my phone in the car), she felt as if I was intentionally avoiding her. Which I wasn't, but she failed to understand that on my off days I have things to do that I'm not able to do during the week. If she would've told me sooner of her plans, then I would've re-arranged my schedule to accomodate her. I come home and she's sitting in my livingroom, pouting. I don't understand why until she says why. She said that she wanted to take me to dinner and propose to me. Then she gets even more upset when I don't give her the reaction she wants. She pouted some more, started crying, then left, saying she never wanted to see me again, and she's in counselling now to get over me. We weren't ready for marriage, and she knows it. We don't live together, we have issues as a couple as well as individual, and we don't live in a state where they honor gay marriage, so unless she was talking about a civil union, that would've been an issue all in itself. I feel it was just an unfair way to end the relationship. She even screamed at me last month and told me that her intentions on marrying me were off and she was going to return the ring. I feel that her signals are mixed and she wants me to analyze her signals until my head explodes. Today I tried to text her and ask if we can talk this over, but she insists on not talking to me ever again, and with the help of the counselor, she'll learn to get over me. How do I restrain myself from calling/texting her anymore? If it's NC she wants, then it's NC she'll get. It will be hard for me because I wasn't ready to give up. But I guess I will.
Honest2Bob Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Wow! It is definitely going to be hard for a long time. Just remember that time does heal. Definitely don't consume too much alcohol either... Drunk phone calls are never EVER the answer and it's a whole lot easier to break the no contact if your inhibitions are down. You might want to preoccupy your mind for a while with something easy. What's your favorite TV show? I once watched the whole series of a TV show.. it definitely takes your mind away. Economically, you could always pick up extra shifts at work. Always take care of yourself: talk to a close someone, eat right, and get plenty of sleep!!!
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