yongyong Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 so I met this girl through online dating site. she seemed very sweet average girl. I was little bit shocked cuz she told me she wanted to kiss me, she sent me photos of wearing bra and said I could touch breast as much as I want when I see her. honestly I got little bit turned off by that cuz I wasn't looking for sex buddy thing and she didn't look like that at all. we had a first date and I brought her home. after we kissed each other and since then it went all the way with no resistance. now I am bit worried if she was just looking for sex and if there is any hope for relationship. anyone out there who had sex on first date and still sees someone? lol
Strawberry Fields Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 My boyfriend and I had sex on our SECOND date and we've been together now for 1 year, 3 months and counting. Also, we both got together with the intentions of just hooking up. However, after spending a weekend together, we connected on a more intimate level. Very unexpected and looking back I would have waited to have sex with him but I was in a different place then. I guess it just really depends on how you two connect really.
bean1 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 She sent you photos of herself in a bra, said you could touch her breasts all you want, and then you had sex? First, a healthy girl looking for a relationship would NEVER do that. Yes, some girls looking for relationships will do that but no mature healthy woman would. So that's a disaster relationship-wise. Second, get yourself tested for STDs. I'm not on a high horse, my SO and I had sex on the 3rd date, but it did not start out with me sending photos of myself in my underwear and telling him could touch me. That's just trolling for sex.
Author yongyong Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 it would be stupid to ask her what her intention was or what her future plan is ,right? maybe I can tell whether she wants to just fxxx, if she only wants to come to my house n have sex other than hanging out at some other places. she is 'supposed to be' a religious girl. lol we talked about she better talks to her parents that we met at the church than we met online. so I guess if she doesn't introduce me to her parents in couple weeks, I can guess where it's going and just have fun
Viking Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Religious enough to make you think she's "nice". True believers will follow their faith. This one has not. She's a ho-bag. Probably really repressed too.
Miss Ting Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 She sent you photos of herself in a bra, said you could touch her breasts all you want, and then you had sex? First, a healthy girl looking for a relationship would NEVER do that. ... That's just trolling for sex. Uhhh...yeah, couldn't agree more. Seriously, this is the type of girl you want to pursue a relationship with? Think about it. I could maybe understand your dilemma if it happened, completely to your surprise, because there was a deep, unforseeable, earth moving connection b/w the two of you when you got together, but CLEARLY this wasn't the case.
BCCA Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I've heard of people having sex on their first date and staying together for a while, but thats generally when it just happens incidentally. This sounds like this girl just wanted a lay, which is fine, but not reall condusive to a long lasting relationship. If you need a booty call, here you go, but I wouldnt expect more. The fact that she said you could touch her boobs before you even met her in person tells me what she had in mind all along.
fishtaco Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Dude, just enjoy it. Sometimes when you meet someone, you are destined to be friends. Sometimes, just bed buddies. Go with the flow. If this chick turns out to be a bed buddy, enjoy it, don't force it into something it's not. You are allowed to date other women anyway. No matter what this chick wants from you, after the first date she can't expect you to be exclusive. Imagine being out there looking for a girlfriend, and all the goods and the bads that come with it, but you always have a bed buddy you can call up for some fun, I say that's a damn good way too look for a GF. Enjoy your single life. But bed buddy relationships are extremely unstable. Expect her to drop off anytime. And she should expect you to drop off the second you find a GF. That's how it is. In the mean time, enjoy bro. I'm with the rest of the posters. I think this is just for fun. But don't assume. Find out. You don't have to ask directly, after some more interactions with her you'll find out. If it does turn into bed buddies, I would suggest don't do anything with her outside of sex. Becoming friends also makes it more complicated. That's when feelings can develop, and feelings most likely will make bed buddy relationships crash and burn.
sand26 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Dude, just enjoy it. Sometimes when you meet someone, you are destined to be friends. Sometimes, just bed buddies. Go with the flow. If this chick turns out to be a bed buddy, enjoy it, don't force it into something it's not. You are allowed to date other women anyway. No matter what this chick wants from you, after the first date she can't expect you to be exclusive. Imagine being out there looking for a girlfriend, and all the goods and the bads that come with it, but you always have a bed buddy you can call up for some fun, I say that's a damn good way too look for a GF. Enjoy your single life. This is right. Well said.
Author yongyong Posted February 17, 2009 Author Posted February 17, 2009 she is from religious family which doesn't allow pre marriage sex lol one thing I noticed is that she doesn't have many experiences. As I was going in, she was kinda screaming and her body was flinching everytime I put it in deeper. About after 20 min, she said it was so soar that she couldn't do it anymore. (I didn't do it hard at all) so I guess she is one of those religious girl who decided one day, she would not live like that anymore haha well I will just keep her as one of my options and enjoy my time I am a guy , what do I have to lose? lol
blondesmiler Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 She sent you photos of herself in a bra, said you could touch her breasts all you want, and then you had sex? First, a healthy girl looking for a relationship would NEVER do that. Yes, some girls looking for relationships will do that but no mature healthy woman would. So that's a disaster relationship-wise. Second, get yourself tested for STDs. I'm not on a high horse, my SO and I had sex on the 3rd date, but it did not start out with me sending photos of myself in my underwear and telling him could touch me. That's just trolling for sex. A girl who sends you pics like that off the bat, is not IMO wanting a relationship, probably does that too alot of blokes also guess she probably is very insecure. I think she was just after sex, which is fine if she was I am not judging. I only send underwear pics to my boyfriend after we had been together for about 3-4wks. Sending them straight away before you have even seen each other naked, screams slaggish and desperate.
collegekid491 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Man... hit the STD clinic pronto! The fact you met this girl after how she acted, proves you wanted it just as bad as she did with no consideration of an actual relationship. You don't want a relationship, your post doesn't even talk about her other then shes 'sweet' and 'average', you just want to hit this multiple times. But don't fool yourself, its not going anywhere, because shes doing this to every other guy also.... you know that right? You don't actually think your that good that no other guy could bring this side out of her right? As righteous as that sounds, I've been in your shoes before, sometimes you just want to ignore logic regardless of how blatant it is
Author yongyong Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 So I met her on sunday. we did many txts on monday and tuesday. she seemed really horny. she sent me pictures of her boos each day as I asked. she was saying something like 'I liked the way you took the control, you were amazing, now I want more, do you like your cxxx getting sucked, my pxxxy is ok, you should tie me' I also asked if she wanted to do something before or just wanted to get down to business when we meet and she said she would be fine getting into business. so I told her 'then come here to my house so I can fxxx you' (I never used it on txt before but she seemed like dirty talking) but she said she couldn't and she would see on weekends. we didn't do any txts on wednesday. now she is acting weird. I asked what the plan is she said she would have to wait till the actual day to see if she could come out (she's not a professional, has a job till 4pm) I sent her another txt saying I am going out on fri and sat so if we can meet before then it will work. so I don't know if she is trying to play a Game or now she is feeling guilty about it (obviously she was weird in the beginning, she sent me naughty pics and messages and then she postponed the date by telling me she is not comfortable meeting people online.) Did I do anything wrong?
LeroyJose Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Yong, seems that everything happened very fast giving you very little time to think about what's gonna happen. I guess I'll suggest the same as others did... HIT the STD clinic (let me borrow your line collegekid)... PRONTO!!! Not scaring you but it's better late than never.
Author yongyong Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 I did webcam chatting. she was like 'I like how you fxxxed me, next time I will suck your cxxx' she said all those naughty stuff but now she cancelled plan on saturday. I don't know why FB needs to play a game. I mean I fxxxed her on first date now she doesn't want to look easy?
carhill Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Ego feed. Think about it. Over the top flirtation; fast sex. Another notch in her bedpost; another guy she "had" OP, the clue train has pulled into the station ..... NOT possible for relationship with this one. Strong instinct.
MN randomguy Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 She sent you photos of herself in a bra, said you could touch her breasts all you want, and then you had sex? First, a healthy girl looking for a relationship would NEVER do that. Yes, some girls looking for relationships will do that but no mature healthy woman would. So that's a disaster relationship-wise. Second, get yourself tested for STDs. +1 *cough* skank *cough-cough*
LeroyJose Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Hope you're fine... hope you did not learn the lesson the hard way.
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