CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Have some confidence in yourself. I've been chatting it up with every girl I meet and you know what? They are eating it up!! At the grocery store, the gas station, the gym. My smile has become infectious and I think I am becoming impervious to rejection. I look at it like this: For every one that says no, there's 10 out there that will say yes. I've been having a freaking BLAST on dates and being my old self. I've dated hot models, average "Janes" and everything in between. Just go out, have fun and be yourself. Women love it The point of this is, I haven't wasted a second of my time on my ex. You should be doing the same!
patrik Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I pray one day I will be in your exact same place instead of beating myself over the ex and looking liek such a pathetic desperate needy fool.
EmperorR Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I agree with caliguy confidence is the key, the longer you stay wallowing over your ex the worst you are going to feel. It took me 5 months after my fiancé cheated and left me and what do you know I Found someone 100 times better.
Island Girl Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Have some confidence in yourself. I've been chatting it up with every girl I meet and you know what? They are eating it up!! At the grocery store, the gas station, the gym. My smile has become infectious and I think I am becoming impervious to rejection. I look at it like this: For every one that says no, there's 10 out there that will say yes. I've been having a freaking BLAST on dates and being my old self. I've dated hot models, average "Janes" and everything in between. Just go out, have fun and be yourself. Women love it The point of this is, I haven't wasted a second of my time on my ex. You should be doing the same! Love it. Love it. Love it. I almost wish I was single so I could look you up and date you myself. Your confidence and good nature is just ooozing from the page. It is extremely attractive. Great job on your plan of action. It works on so many levels!
aiina Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Have some confidence in yourself. I've been chatting it up with every girl I meet and you know what? They are eating it up!! At the grocery store, the gas station, the gym. My smile has become infectious and I think I am becoming impervious to rejection. I look at it like this: For every one that says no, there's 10 out there that will say yes. I've been having a freaking BLAST on dates and being my old self. I've dated hot models, average "Janes" and everything in between. Just go out, have fun and be yourself. Women love it The point of this is, I haven't wasted a second of my time on my ex. You should be doing the same! this is great, just one thing ... if any of you guys want to keep thinking about your exs and wanting them back, please, do not fool around with the rest of us. That'll be very apreciated.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 Love it. Love it. Love it. I almost wish I was single so I could look you up and date you myself. Your confidence and good nature is just ooozing from the page. It is extremely attractive. Great job on your plan of action. It works on so many levels! Awww thanks IG. If you were around, I'd go out with you this is great, just one thing ... if any of you guys want to keep thinking about your exs and wanting them back, please, do not fool around with the rest of us. That'll be very apreciated. Good advice
Island Girl Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Awww thanks IG. If you were around, I'd go out with you Cha-Ching.
kizik Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I agree CaliGuy, but you're overlooking the fact that you're tall. A lot more women talk to you than me, regardless of how 'confident' I try to be. It's a mistake to attribute ALL of your success to your personality; my backhanded compliment is that perhaps they're more interested in your looks than 'you'.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 I agree CaliGuy, but you're overlooking the fact that you're tall. A lot more women talk to you than me, regardless of how 'confident' I try to be. It's a mistake to attribute ALL of your success to your personality; my backhanded compliment is that perhaps they're more interested in your looks than 'you'. So Kiz, do you think the 6'1" woman I talked to at the grocery store yesterday would have talked to me MORE if I was taller than her? I'm 5'10" not 6'3". Women will overlook almost any physical trait if your CHARACTER traits shine. By the way, I was dressed sloppily too! If you're confident, secure, self-assured and funny, women MELT for you. Trust me. They'll look past other perceived negative qualities such as height, weight and appearance. Fact is, the more confident you are (without being an a$$ or jerk) the more SEXY you are to women. Think I am kidding? Garner your cohonies up and talk to random women at the grocery store next time you go. Watch their reaction. Don't approach them like a freak. Just point out something funny or interesting and say it with confidence. You'll be surprised how cool women can be when you exude confidence. And I'm an average looking guy who just happens to have a swagger in his step. It has much less to do with my looks than it does my attitude.
kizik Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Man, you aint telling me anything new (although it seems like a lot of people here think it's a revelation). I am glad things are going well for you. The problem comes when you assume that because YOU do one thing, EVERYONE ELSE can do exactly what you do, and get the same result. Your posts often border on bragging, although in my heart I know they are supposed to be inspirational. I talk to women and makes jokes and smile and am confident. Wanna brag? I'm a talented musician who is funny and treats people well. A+B does not always = C. You put forth a fairy-tale magic formula that is not infallible. Sometimes, no matter how 'great' you are, you don't get what you legitimately 'deserve'. So I am putting forth the fact that your advice, while solid, is not a 'truth' nor is it a cure-all.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 Man, you aint telling me anything new (although it seems like a lot of people here think it's a revelation). I am glad things are going well for you. The problem comes when you assume that because YOU do one thing, EVERYONE ELSE can do exactly what you do, and get the same result. Your posts often border on bragging, although in my heart I know they are supposed to be inspirational. Well I can't exactly share what has worked for me (and what can work for others) unless I talk about my experiences. They aren't meant at all to be a "look at me" post but more or less show other guys that confidence is where it's at. And if you think what I saying only works for a select few, then by all means post a poll and ask the women on this site what's the single most important trait for a guy to have. I can almost guarantee you it won't be looks or height. It will be a personality trait such as funny, confident, self-assured, etc. And yes, I realize it's no revelation. It's meant as a reminder. I talk to women and makes jokes and smile and am confident. Wanna brag? I'm a talented musician who is funny and treats people well. Excellent. I used to be a professional musician. A lot of my confidence comes from knowing I've been on stage in front of 20k people and didn't pee my pants A+B does not always = C. You put forth a fairy-tale magic formula that is not infallible. Sometimes, no matter how 'great' you are, you don't get what you legitimately 'deserve'. So I am putting forth the fact that your advice, while solid, is not a 'truth' nor is it a cure-all. Put my post with the "75% of people won't like you" post and you'll see where this is relevant and works on multiple levels. Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. And it's not like I took either woman home from the grocery store. My point was that I made an effort to talk to them regardless of how they reacted. The trick to overcoming any fear is to face it HEAD ON. Many men here are so fearful of rejection they won't approach a woman. They need to be rejected so often it doesn't phase them anymore. Then and only then will they have overcome that fear and blow the doors wide open on opportunity. Cheers
SadHeart79 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I am loving your confidence and great advice! Good on you for finding such a happy place to be Question for you - how do you pick the girls that you are going to talk to though? Coming from the other side of the fence, how do us girls make ourselves appear confident and make guys want to approach us?
alphamale Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 The point of this is, I haven't wasted a second of my time on my ex. You should be doing the same! why are you even mentioning your ex if you're having such a grand old time with all these women you're meeting in random places with your infectious smile and confidence?
Trialbyfire Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I totally agree, Cali! Get out there and chat up the ladies!
Peter_pan Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 why are you even mentioning your ex if you're having such a grand old time with all these women you're meeting in random places with your infectious smile and confidence? lol he is just pointing out to others not to waste time on there ex's cali what do you say to them when you approach them? i wouldn't have a clue. i know i am a funny guy, but women can only get to see that if they know me.
MalachiX Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I've been trying a different approach lately. I start with small talk and a few self depricating jokes to get a woman to let her guard down. Then I start to go into full blown self pity. After about 20 minutes of constantly putting myself down and begging for attention, things start to get really awkward. She starts feeling uncomfortable making any eye contact and desperately tries to keep her eyes on the bar TV or her drink. It is at this point that I grab a blunt object, club her over the head with it, and drag her back to my apartment (by the hair of course). Now, I'm serving five to ten in a maximum security prison and, thanks to my small stature and boyish looks, I've got all the dates I could ever ask for. Hell, just the other day I was in the lunch line and a big burly gentlemen complimented my mouth. He invited me in for a night of "T-bagging." I have no idea what that is but I'm looking forward to finding out. The point is, I spent a lot of time feeling like a loser and moping over my EX and look where it got me! I'm engaged to a man named Bubba who's in here for sodomizing a nun and a priest with a dead parrot!
Author CaliGuy Posted February 17, 2009 Author Posted February 17, 2009 That's uhhhh....that's kind of scary, Malachi... haha.
kizik Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I've been trying a different approach lately. I start with small talk and a few self depricating jokes to get a woman to let her guard down. Then I start to go into full blown self pity. After about 20 minutes of constantly putting myself down and begging for attention, things start to get really awkward. She starts feeling uncomfortable making any eye contact and desperately tries to keep her eyes on the bar TV or her drink. It is at this point that I grab a blunt object, club her over the head with it, and drag her back to my apartment (by the hair of course). Now, I'm serving five to ten in a maximum security prison and, thanks to my small stature and boyish looks, I've got all the dates I could ever ask for. Hell, just the other day I was in the lunch line and a big burly gentlemen complimented my mouth. He invited me in for a night of "T-bagging." I have no idea what that is but I'm looking forward to finding out. The point is, I spent a lot of time feeling like a loser and moping over my EX and look where it got me! I'm engaged to a man named Bubba who's in here for sodomizing a nun and a priest with a dead parrot! Awesome. This works much better than constantly being rejected. CaliGuy, take a tip from this dude.
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