Author gavinus Posted February 17, 2009 Author Posted February 17, 2009 thanks for your support, I will not contact her, without your guys support I would have crumbled by now, thanks heaps :)
Author gavinus Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 (My Ex dumped me 2 weeks ago and basically said I was the course of her anger issues, she did not love me etc (We were together for 3 years) I told her I need time and space 2 weeks ago, now she contacted me out of the blue saying she knew a course of study I am doing started today, and if I need any help please contact her, and she also said thinking of you at the end of it. Do I contact her back??) I have not contacted her since she sent me the text on monday. I have not heard anything from her since then. I feel horrible for not replying, I REALLY wanna reply back, I keep thinking she thinks I am some kind of jerk for not replying, any advice to keep me strong and deal with my feelings of guilt would be great, cheers
DayDreamer75 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I don't think anybody can give you an advice on what you should do. You're the only one who can decide this given your situation. There's no universal rule on whether you should respond or not. This depends on many factors and most importantly on whether you'd be OK with continuing a friendship with her considering that once you were together. So, you said you still love her. This may, most likely, make you want to get back with her or take her back. Would you still be OK if she simply wants to be friends? I don't think so. Not at this point in your life. But the fact that you once were lovers does not mean you can't be friends in future. So, if you handle your separation respectfully, you may manage to become good friends sometime down the line. Respect yourself and respect others. In this case, it probably means for you to simply go on with your life and recover from the breakup and only once you feel fine with being alone and once she can no longer control your emotions, you might consider even being friends with her. The point is that your happiness should not depends from others. So, if you can't handle this, don't do it.
Author gavinus Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 thanks thats great advice! I will sleep on it,
Ricky01 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I wish I found this forum a year ago. My ex woudl say sh** just to hurt my feelings. I never had anyone to talkt o for advice... things might have been different.
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