ruggy Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Ok, so I just Match.com and there are a few prospects who seem to be interested and would like to meet. The are all attractive, smart and seem interesting. Nothing like the last +++++, but I am trying to move on here. How should I handle this? I also do not want to be a mean dude and make one of them feel lousy like I was made a few weeks back. Additionally, I do not know yet their actual feelings until after a meet. If they come to fruition, then it will probably be coffee. Safe and cheap. Assuming I have interest in more than one, how do I handle it? Keep the ones I have an interest in going until I and one of the women move forward? Basically, I do not want to be caught in that the trap from last time. I also do not want to make them unhappy in anyway too. Suggestions?
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I've done a little bit of online dating (that's how I met my current beau). I'd say just continue to talk to as many as you want. A first date is no contract to be exclusive. Have fun. If one of the women asks if you're going out with any others (gees, that's nosey - I would never ask that), just let her know you're talking to others and leave it at that. Nothing wrong with leaving your options open.
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 You sound like a decent guy Ruggy, and good for you for making yourself move on from the last experience but most importantly for not letting it make you so jaded and miserable to want to go out there and disrespect all women in the name of one bad woman who did not appreciate what she had. If you are going to online date I think it's pretty much open to experiment until you make one of those ladies your connection. I mean just the idea that you want to go about this in a decent way is enough to know that you will do what feels right vs what feels wrong. You don't owe these women anything at this point and I think there is a general understated agreement amongst all those who internet date that people will be dating several people at the same time at first. It does get tricky when you start to see someone regularly or you become sexually exclusive to one. I would think at that point you will have to decide on that woman and let the rest know you are off the market in order to avoid hurting anyone in the process. Get out there and have fun!
BobSacamento Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 "Safe and cheap" lol My only advice is to not say anything close to that on your date(s).
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