kiki30 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Yes ladies and gentlemen, All in one breath, I guy who I met at work told me on our second date when I asked him about his "status" because he was not forthcoming with some information about his home life. I didn't expect this one... I knew he had a son...yes he admitted that early on, I accepted that but he lives with the mother of his child and claims that he's staying for the child and then wants to kiss me. Sucked cause I really liked him, its been a month since we've met, and when I started to distance myself he calls me tries to give me - oh i have never done this before and maybe we can be friends routine.
confused_2008 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I assume you're done with this guy, correct? If not you should be.
Author kiki30 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 yup - pretty much, we live in a small city so i'm trying to keep things civil. I'll let him believe that i believe that this is just a little slip up on his part - let him believe that i think that he is just lonely and needs love. Part of me wants to punch him right in the effing face, I am glad that I have dignity and good values because honestly I am at my weakest point, just ended a 7 year relationship, sold our home, had to live with him for 6 months while he was seeing some other chic, then lost my job, found another, relocated.... all in the past 6 months....
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 yup - pretty much, we live in a small city so i'm trying to keep things civil. I'll let him believe that i believe that this is just a little slip up on his part - let him believe that i think that he is just lonely and needs love. But why? Why would you let him get away with that? Why would you on top of it make him feel like what he did is OK? If you truly feel like what he did was low, let him know. Let him feel wrath of his actions. You are doing him or yourself no favours in letting him think you buy his crap.
Author kiki30 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 tomcat, you're right. I should stand up to him and tell him what I really think - although I don't think it would go anywhere with him. He's a lying piece of dirt, he goes home every night and lies to the mother of his child, and for that matter his son. At this point he only sends me text messages, I'd hate for him to think that I even care at this point, he had the nerve to invite to a function next friday - part of me wants to go with a friend of course for moral support and give it to him, once I get him alone... son of bitch...lying ****er....he has been at this **** for years ...i am sure some other poor women have fallen for this...
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Tell him you'll be glad to date him, but only after you have a one on one chat with the mother of his child first. Should be ok, right? I mean, if they are only together for the child surely she won't stand in the way of his dating, right? I'm sure he'll understand. I'd love to see the look on his face when you say that you may as well go ahead and call her immediately, and ask for her number.
Author kiki30 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 I should, I really should...wow it is so clear how this guy works, there was this time when he proclaimed how men are *******s...whadda ya think guys projection maybe... i feel sorry for his "wife" and his son, who will be subjected to a childhood of clear dysfunction.
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