Explorer Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Met a cute female out in the city last night. She approached me and made it blatantly (But was classy in her attempt) obvious that she was attracted to me. We hit it off, I gave her my card and told her that I hoped that she'd call. I haven't got a call yet, but still optimistic. Do you'll see this as a good tactic? I was certain that she was interested but not certain that she will act on it. Would you call?
Island Girl Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I wouldn't call. Why didn't you ask for her number? Then you could have made the call and she wouldn't have gotten that tired sad line "here's my card, give me a call" UGH.
avacakes Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Hhmm...I would think if a guy gave me his card instead of making the effort to ask for my number....that he wasn't that interested after all. That may be what she is thinking. Why didn't you ask for hers? Have you seen that movie "He's just not that into you"? There is a whole scene dedicated to the situation where the guy gives out his card but doesn't ask for the girls number, and it's obvious that he wasn't really into her. Anyway, if you know her name...you could try and track her down and give her a call casually . Or maybe she's just waiting a few days to call you. Who knows? In the future, if you're interested, make the effort to get her digits and then call and ask her out. We like that.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 thats crap, she came up to him! Therefore she should call him as long as he showed a certain level of interest during the convo. What is it with women thinking that the men always have to call. If you like someone enough you will give them a ring, big deal? I wouldnt have given her a card though dude. I could see why that would come off pretty lame to her, lol. If that didnt bother her, then why wouldnt she call?
mark982 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 i think it's just not right to give her your card. i come from the old school, get her number. and i still don't get this card crap, i can see if it's a business associate. but this is someone you're attracted to, be alittle more personel.
Author Explorer Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 I didn't get her number partly because I simply forgot to ask and partly because her interest was so strong that I felt certain that she'd call with mine. After I gave her my card I could tell from her reaction that she wasn't too impressed with that approach so I told her it was only so she could have my cell phone no.
prettybaby Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I would call, but I'm an odd one lol I've actually called pretty much all the guys I've dated. My girl friends are the exact opposite. They just sit back and pray something will happen, which I find rather stupid. So my response definitely doesn't reflect the majority of chicks out there lol
movingonandon Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 i think it's just not right to give her your card. i come from the old school, get her number. and i still don't get this card crap, i can see if it's a business associate. but this is someone you're attracted to, be alittle more personel. Ye're wrong There's no older old school than giving/leaving the card . It would have been nice if he got the number, but she should call. Why initiate the whole catastrophe unless she plans to call (or has lost a dare with her girlfriends).
Trimmer Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 She called. :bunny: Of course she did. All this HJNITY and "The Rules" overthinking stuff just throws everyone into a spasms of paralysis. (How's that for an oxymoron?) She was interested, you gave her your number, she followed up. Not rocket science. It's what happens next, when you see each other, that makes the difference. So spill the beans - she called, what did she say, what did you say, what are your plans... C'mon!
carhill Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 OK, dammit, OP, now you call her and ask her on a date. She's done enough assertive behavior. If you don't you need to turn in your man-card
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