allthewiser Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 [sIZE=2]hey all, just wondering what the motives of my ex are. its not like i'm trying to hang onto some hope of some sort, but its just that i need her to sort stuff out for me to move on. 3 weeks ago I ended a 7yr r-ship with my gf because she cheated on me with some guy she was having a friendship with. she only did it the once, but it didnt matter. after 4 months of trying to work at our r-ship, i realised that i couldnt trust her anymore, and thus ended it. it was also 3 weeks ago that i put ALL her stuff outside for her to collect and was firm that she should collect it asap. she collected most of the stuff, except for a couple of large items such as a lounge, large tv, table, stand. However, she had the audacity to bring him around one day and collect her washing machine, but nothing else. She is staying with him 'temporarily' until she gets on her feet and is continually telling me there is nothing happening between them, depsite me telling her i don't care anymore. Also, her mail is still being delivered to my place as well. I spoke to her briefly last Monday asking her what is she going to do with the stuff, and has she sorted out her mail yet. She tells me that she'll put the things on the kerb for council collection and that she had a po box for her mail. i asked her what the po box details were, and she replied that she didnt have it at the time. i told her i'll phone her on Friday to find out what's going on. Friday comes. I phone while she is in the car heading away to visit her dying aunt for the w-end. Being considerate I tell her to wish her aunty well, and to ask how she (my ex) is coping with her aunty. She gets all upset telling me that no-one cares about her, that she is no longer my concern,...the usual self misery dribble she use to do to make me crumble emotionally and look after her. I refused to play that game anymore, and asked her about the po box. She replies that she lied. that she doesn't have one. I asked her why did she lie, and she said she didn't know. She then told me she was coming today (Monday) to talk to me and collect her mail. I told her that that wasn't confirmed and I've already took her mail to the post office with 'Return to sender'. I then asked if she was still wanting to see me on Monday and she told me 'not to hold my breath' and then ended the conversation with her ASKING ME what do I want from her, and for me not to talk or see or contact her again. She then hung up on me. Old me would've phoned back, but this time I didn't (she doesn't have my new numbers to contact me even if she wanted to). She knew I was having a social packed w-end, and I think this rattled her as well. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas? It's not like I'm looking for any hope of reconciliation or getting back together. I just want her stuff out of my life for me to move on, and have told her that. should i wait for another week and get a charity to collect her things (not telling her I'll be soing so)? And with the mail?I just don't want the constant daily or weekly reminder of her. [/sIZE]
DSM-IV Tom Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Sorry you had to go through this. Seriously. For you to be cheated on must have been Earth shattering, and I can't imagine how bad that hurts. I'm sorry. As for what you should do with her stuff, burn it.
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