drizz Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 What happened between us started slow we flirted at work just as friends and then we started going to smoke together and we would talk there. Then one day she came in early while i was the only one there to "go to lunch" with one of her friends she stopped by and asked if i wanted to smoke since i was only one there and she would watch the store for me. when i got back she went on to lunch and she came back we hugged for the first time that day. About two weeks later the two of us txted/called eachother when we were not at work alot. She sent me a text of 2 people kissing and takeing the hint we kissed at the end of our smoke break one day. Since then we had a weird relationship. We took our time and went slow didnt sleep together untill about 3 months into our relationship. We were head over heels for eachother. Its been rocky the last month or so because she has some issue's mentaly she's bi polar and usualy everything is ok. She is very jealous i cant talk to many girls because of this, im a friendly person but when she hear's / see's me talking to a girl she doesnt like it gets upset over it. We have never had a argument because i dont want to see her upset about anything. she ask's me for space and i give her space. Friday night Her and her friend and i were hanging out at her place drinking there was supost to be a fourth person but he didnt come. We had all been drinking and my girl and i were outside next to a fire and we were fooling around and she had to go back inside for a moment. when i came inside a few moments later she was all over our mutal friend who is like a sister to me. It hurt me alot so i went and drank alot more needless to say i was Heavily intoxicated and i couldnt get the point across that i was hurt and upset and very emotion. They didnt seem to care and i drank more. so i blacked out and kind of came to to her telling me to go get on the couch. i dont realy remember everything that happened but from what i understand i freaked out about what was going on and pushed myself onto her and she feels hurt and "creeped out". we havent realy talked at all. I know what i did was wrong even tho i was intoxicated. I told her i was sorry and i would never hurt her intentionaly and that i wanted her to take her time on where we were heading and not be rash on her decision. I realy love this girl and she loves me when were together is amazeing in general and when were not together it sucks. Our mutual friend who was there has said that "I'm concerned because your behavior, drunk or not was disconcerting and unstable. You may not want to hear this, but I am seeing obsessive/infatuation from you when it comes to XXXX's and that is not healthy for you or anyone involoved. I love and care about you so much and think that maybe you should think about some kind of counseling. I know you don't like the idea of it, but I want you to be a healthy person and looking back at all the events leading up to the other night it makes sense. Please consider what I am saying and that I am only saying this because I love you and want what's best for you. You are like a brother to me. What happened at XXXX's was messed up, your actions were aggressive and forceful which crosses the line.I am here for you still, but because of what I feel is going on when comes to your fixation on her I think it's time for you to move past this phase and into another phase of growth and learning about yourself. You need to be a healthy, contented person with yourself first and that takes a lot of courage and will, but I know you can do it." I dont want to lose my girl but i need to figure out what i can do to help both myself and her.
DSM-IV Tom Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 It's very simple. You DO need to see a psychologist. Are you looking for us to tell you that they're crazy and you're right? See a psychologist. Even if you aren't the crazy one in this situation, it will give you clarity and happiness. Embrace therapy with open arms, it is a savior.
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