Peter_pan Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I decided the sensible thing was to leave the past in the past right so you didnt meet her and youre not in contact?
Beautiful Inside Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I'd definatly would go! why not its nice that shes trying to keep in touch after everything. Its nice when you guys can still be civil with eachother.
Author roghornio Posted March 18, 2009 Author Posted March 18, 2009 right so you didnt meet her and youre not in contact? You know what, i emailed her and she never got back to me. So i decided that chasing was the last thing i wanted to do. I'll be ****ed if i'm going to go back to where i was a year ago. So "No" to both those.
Peter_pan Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 You know what, i emailed her and she never got back to me. So i decided that chasing was the last thing i wanted to do. I'll be ****ed if i'm going to go back to where i was a year ago. So "No" to both those. good on you mate. respect that
northstar1 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 You know what, i emailed her and she never got back to me. So i decided that chasing was the last thing i wanted to do. I'll be ****ed if i'm going to go back to where i was a year ago. So "No" to both those. Good on ya. No playing game.
Surfer Dude Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Good work bro. It's amazing how these ex's try to get in touch from time to time. Mine contacts me sometimes, but when I reply, I usually get no reply back. So I just decided to ignore her. It's best to leave them in the past, that's where they belong. @ Beautiful inside: The most civil things ex's can do is leave each other alone. I see no point in talking to an ex, if she was the dumper. Why would I? I owe her nothing, I took my time to heal, it wasn't easy but it paid off - I'm over her and I don't want to see her ever again. Emotional interdependence is the stupidest thing ever. People really need to learn to be less clingy.
suzanne2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I just want to make a comment on the "being friends with exs thing". I dated a guy for about 7 years on and off. We had a really bumpy relationship for the entire time, but we were madly in love (sick, toxic, addictive relationship). We FINALLY broke up for good and let me tell you...devastated does not even come close to the feeling that I had. I did not think that I would ever get out of bed again. Needless to say, about a year later we ran into each other at a gas station. We talked for a little while and both went on our way. It was strange because I didn't feel any old pang and was actually happy that I had run into him and that he was doing well. That led to a few random phone calls here and there and now, about 4 years later we are very close friends. We have lunch together about 4 times a month and talk on the phone weekly. He is married and has two small kids and I - as you know - am going through a divorce. He has been a great sounding board through this whole divorce thing. We are now very supportive of each other and I can honestly say that my life is better for having him in it. There are no sexual undertones and there is no flirting or carrying on. We don't ever talk about the relationship, we are really just very good friends. So it can happen and it can be healthy.
Peter_pan Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I just want to make a comment on the "being friends with exs thing". I dated a guy for about 7 years on and off. We had a really bumpy relationship for the entire time, but we were madly in love (sick, toxic, addictive relationship). We FINALLY broke up for good and let me tell you...devastated does not even come close to the feeling that I had. I did not think that I would ever get out of bed again. Needless to say, about a year later we ran into each other at a gas station. We talked for a little while and both went on our way. It was strange because I didn't feel any old pang and was actually happy that I had run into him and that he was doing well. That led to a few random phone calls here and there and now, about 4 years later we are very close friends. We have lunch together about 4 times a month and talk on the phone weekly. He is married and has two small kids and I - as you know - am going through a divorce. He has been a great sounding board through this whole divorce thing. We are now very supportive of each other and I can honestly say that my life is better for having him in it. There are no sexual undertones and there is no flirting or carrying on. We don't ever talk about the relationship, we are really just very good friends. So it can happen and it can be healthy. depends how it ends etc. nice that you can be civil though thats a nice story
suzanne2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I think that is depends more on the work that you do on yourself during the time you are apart. Our breakup was really bad and terribly emotional, but because I really took the time to heal and learn from it, I think by the time I saw him a year later I was a better person.
Author roghornio Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 Good work bro. It's amazing how these ex's try to get in touch from time to time. Mine contacts me sometimes, but when I reply, I usually get no reply back. So I just decided to ignore her. It's best to leave them in the past, that's where they belong. I have found myself thinking maybe I should email again, but then I snap myself out of it and think “what am I thinking”! In a really good place at the moment, and the more I think about it even if she did get back in touch and we did meet up it really would be a bad idea. For all I know I’m over it now I think it would be very easy to fall back into the whole situation if I wasn’t careful. Out of sight , out of mind.
northstar1 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I have found myself thinking maybe I should email again, but then I snap myself out of it and think “what am I thinking”! In a really good place at the moment, and the more I think about it even if she did get back in touch and we did meet up it really would be a bad idea. For all I know I’m over it now I think it would be very easy to fall back into the whole situation if I wasn’t careful. Out of sight , out of mind. We're in roughly the same spot. I've been tempted to contact my ex, since it's been months, but then I realize I don't want to go back to the spot I was in last year.
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