roghornio Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 It's been a while since i posted. Not too many names i recognize now. My ex has been in touch wanting to meet up. It has been over a year we broke up & 8 or 9 months since we last spoke, hearing from her came out the blue, i did not expect it at all. She did get in touch at Christmas but i ignore it. Should i respond to her and go see her? why would she get in touch after all this time?
Peter_pan Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 do what you like mate, go see her. depends if you want to or not. you wont know her intentions untill you do
Author roghornio Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 Yes my thoughts too. Im scared seeing her again might bring it all back. i don't expect any intentions i think its just a see how i'm doing thing. maybe she just got dumped :lol: Just seems odd after all this time.
foxh1234 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Yes my thoughts too. Im scared seeing her again might bring it all back. i don't expect any intentions i think its just a see how i'm doing thing. maybe she just got dumped :lol: Just seems odd after all this time. Hey Rog, long time. Here's my take, I would contact her and ask here plain and simple what her intentions for this meeting are. If she just wants to catch up or try and be friends, I would tell her your not interested. If she just needs a shoulder to cry on, I would also tell her, your not interested in being her girlfriend to confide in. Save yourself the grief and find out beforehand. been there and done it, all you would do is make her feel good and you will feel bad. Trust me man, no good can come from seeing her. My 2 cents anyway, good luck.
Author roghornio Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 Yes, this mkes sense. Part of me thinks like you, so much time has passec it could be really awkward. The other part thinks go for it enough time has passed that what happened doesn't matter. I am still friends with all my ex's except this one. I just feel hesitant this time round which freaks me out a little.
Peter_pan Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 hmm. well i would do what fox said. ask her straight out. must be kinda nice having an ex ask about you and for them to still remember. but yeah she hurt you and that she can never take back
openbook08 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 has she been seeing someone do you know??
Author roghornio Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 hmm. well i would do what fox said. ask her straight out. must be kinda nice having an ex ask about you and for them to still remember. but yeah she hurt you and that she can never take back your ex still remembers you, why wouldnt she? You were a big part of her life for a time, i doubt she will ever forget. It is nice to hear from her but it has also made me wonder about her life. Yes it hurt, but people fall out of love all the time she didn't do it intentionally so i cant hold it against her. I have done it to other people and never meant to hurt. But if you dont feel it anymore it would be cruel to pretend.
Author roghornio Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 has she been seeing someone do you know?? I have no idea
openbook08 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 hard one to call.... id prob go with fox on this one g'luck
Peter_pan Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 your ex still remembers you, why wouldnt she? You were a big part of her life for a time, i doubt she will ever forget. It is nice to hear from her but it has also made me wonder about her life. Yes it hurt, but people fall out of love all the time she didn't do it intentionally so i cant hold it against her. I have done it to other people and never meant to hurt. But if you dont feel it anymore it would be cruel to pretend. yeh man, my ex told me she would be lying to me if she stayed with me. maybe i was being far to harsh. and she was trying to be as nice about it as possible. but to go out with him about 3 weeks after was horrible for me. to much of a shock
Author roghornio Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 yeh man, my ex told me she would be lying to me if she stayed with me. maybe i was being far to harsh. and she was trying to be as nice about it as possible. but to go out with him about 3 weeks after was horrible for me. to much of a shock yes it would have been horrible i have been there in the past and it is not nice is it. But what was she supposed to have done - wait until YOU had healed before she gets on with her own life? I hate to say it but the day she split up with you is not the day she decided to do it, nor would it be the day she fell out of love with you - it would have been gradual and probably she built up to it. It wasn't 3 weeks to her. Ok back to my story . I have decided to meet her so i will let you know what happens.
aiina Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Yes my thoughts too. Im scared seeing her again might bring it all back. i don't expect any intentions i think its just a see how i'm doing thing. maybe she just got dumped :lol: Just seems odd after all this time. funny, but this is the mainly reason we think about our exes
Author roghornio Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 funny, but this is the mainly reason we think about our exes Yeah its true.
ioncebelieved Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 You never know until you try. Just make sure to put your game face on and be a strong person. Be different from what you were. Keep it light and funny to make her see that you are great. Only go without expectations of anything. I understand your position right now because I am in a similar one. My ex started calling me again and has contacted me 3 times in about a week and a half. For me, it is better to let her do all she can because she has much to prove. I still love her and would one day take her back, but I will not put forth any effort until she fully extends herself. You are in a good position, just see where it takes you.
Meaplus3 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Gosh this is a tough one. After that amount of time, I'm not real sure what she would want from you. How did the R end? Were you two going together for a long time? If you did contact her and meet up how would that make you feel? Just asking a few questions here so I can get a bigger picture. Mea:)
Author roghornio Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 It ended amicably there was no cheating or anything like that. I got the impression she was not interested anymore so I gave her a way out and she took it giving the I have a lot going on just now line ( we all know what that means lol ) . It would be good to see her I would be interested to hear how she has got on and if she achieved all that she wanted. I think that she thinks enough time has passed now that there will be no feelings left and wants to extend the hand of friendship. thats my guess.
Meaplus3 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 It ended amicably there was no cheating or anything like that. I got the impression she was not interested anymore so I gave her a way out and she took it giving the I have a lot going on just now line ( we all know what that means lol ) . It would be good to see her I would be interested to hear how she has got on and if she achieved all that she wanted. I think that she thinks enough time has passed now that there will be no feelings left and wants to extend the hand of friendship. thats my guess. Well then I'd say why not. If you can handle it and feel it's the right thing to do.. then do it. Best of luck. Mea:)
kizik Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Hey rog, here's an 'old name' for ya. Good to see you. -Do you want to see her? -Why or why not? -What do you expect to gain from seeing her? -Do you feel like enough time has passed that you can see her, and NO MATTER what she tells you, you will be unaffected? Your solutions lies in the answers to these questions. Best wishes, kizik
9Lives Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 It ended amicably there was no cheating or anything like that. I got the impression she was not interested anymore so I gave her a way out and she took it giving the I have a lot going on just now line ( we all know what that means lol ) . It would be good to see her I would be interested to hear how she has got on and if she achieved all that she wanted. I think that she thinks enough time has passed now that there will be no feelings left and wants to extend the hand of friendship. thats my guess. I would be scared to see her right now. You still have alot of feelings for this girl and this is going to stir your emotions if she is not moving in the same direction you are moving in. I would listen to fox and see what she wants. Save yourself some mental agony.
BackonTrack2 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 let the pass be the pass, if she really cared she would of made an effort to see you already, if she really wanted to see you, she knows where to find you, best to just keep moving forward and put her contacts out of your head...
kizik Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 let the pass be the pass because no one likes a ballhog.
Author roghornio Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 I decided the sensible thing was to leave the past in the past
gutted1 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I decided the sensible thing was to leave the past in the past Best thing to do mate move onto better things ex's are ex's for a reason. peace
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