Touche Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 In our case, if there's disagreement over an expenditure, we usually table it. We either agree to put it off or to not do it at all. Sometimes we don't agree but one will give in. That happened on an expenditure we made last year. I didn't agree. He was insisting, so I backed down on that one. Another time last year, it was over buying my stepson a car. We didn't agree on the amount. He wanted to spend way more than I thought we should. So we ended up splitting the difference in what we gave towards the car. But yeah, in our case the decision-making is pretty equal even though we only have one income.
quankanne Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 money isn't like sharing toothbrushes or tampons or cosmetics oh, now THERE'S an ugly image!
Author Els Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Ah, I see. Thanks for the answers. I think I realized another reason why my friend's comments stuck in my head so much. See, the guy I am with now, will earn far more than me. Also, if we are ever to be together in the future I would need to go to his country -- it just makes sense because he alone working there would earn more than both of us working here. However... if I go to his country, I would earn even less personally because my professional degree isn't recognized there for practice, which would widen the gap further. I was wondering about the implications that might have for the future, or even when we're cohabitating. Like I said, it's still early, marriage isn't coming along anytime soon yet and I can't even leave til I graduate in 1.5 years' time, but I like to think and wonder and plan ahead... PS: Sharing tampons?!? :confused:
sarah05 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 We are Newly Weds (Got Married in Dec) and we have separate bank accounts. We of course have each other on the accounts but we find it easier to have 2. My paycheck pays for the house, truck, bills (electricity, gas, cable, water, trash, insurance(car and house), cell phone, and 3 credit cards), and groceries. His bank account is for savings, entertainment, paying off credit cards, his 2 cars and his hobby like drag racing. We are happy this way. If one of us need money we transfer money around and deposit. He has his debit card and I have mine. We manage our own accounts but still come together as a whole. I really wouldn't like to know what would happen, if he spent $400 on a car part when i just purchased groceries that same day. But that is our take on finances, they may not work for some married couples.
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