Lee2 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 I was due to go out with my new GF on Friday evening. As the time came for us to meet I received a drunken call from her. She was down the street, having just been very sick. I found out later it was because she had just lost her job that day. I had to make sure she got home safely so once we arrived at her house and I'd made sure she was safe, she asked me to stay the night. I said I didn't want to do that while she was drunk as it wouldn't be fair and she would regret it in the morning. I sat with her for a while and she kept asking me to stay the night, so eventualy I agreed. I know she wanted us to do more than the kiss I gave her before she went to sleep but I wasn't going to take advantage as I have too much respect for her. I laid on the top of the bed next to her fully clothed all night and in the morning she said she was glad that I had 'rescued her' and stayed overnight. I am seeing her again tonight. We are having a Movie & Pizza Night! After Friday, even though nothing happened I feel that things have changed and stepped up a level. We were both taking things slow, having both recently got out of long term relationships and both being really hurt. I really like and respect this girl and think I am falling in love with her so you can see why it's a little confusing how to act this evening. Sorry for rambling, but I guess my question is should I act as if tonight is simply a third date and Friday didn't happen?
northstar1 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 I was due to go out with my new GF on Friday evening. As the time came for us to meet I received a drunken call from her. She was down the street, having just been very sick. I found out later it was because she had just lost her job that day. I had to make sure she got home safely so once we arrived at her house and I'd made sure she was safe, she asked me to stay the night. I said I didn't want to do that while she was drunk as it wouldn't be fair and she would regret it in the morning. I sat with her for a while and she kept asking me to stay the night, so eventualy I agreed. I know she wanted us to do more than the kiss I gave her before she went to sleep but I wasn't going to take advantage as I have too much respect for her. I laid on the top of the bed next to her fully clothed all night and in the morning she said she was glad that I had 'rescued her' and stayed overnight. I am seeing her again tonight. We are having a Movie & Pizza Night! After Friday, even though nothing happened I feel that things have changed and stepped up a level. We were both taking things slow, having both recently got out of long term relationships and both being really hurt. I really like and respect this girl and think I am falling in love with her so you can see why it's a little confusing how to act this evening. Sorry for rambling, but I guess my question is should I act as if tonight is simply a third date and Friday didn't happen? I would take it slow, just treat this as a normal date, so you are both still getting to know one another. You didn't rush things on Friday, so there shouldn't be any of that potential post 'sex' awkwardness that can happen early on in dating. Just let her take the lead and take cues from how she is acting and go with the flow Enjoy!
alphamale Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Sorry for rambling, but I guess my question is should I act as if tonight is simply a third date and Friday didn't happen? yes and she's not your gf yet and you're not in love with her yet
northstar1 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 yes and she's not your gf yet and you're not in love with her yet Good point Take it slow Lee - way to early to be calling someone your gf, for both of you really.
Author Lee2 Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 Yeah, I know what you mean, I don't assume anything yet. I'm just happy to spend time with her at the moment, to take our time and see what, if anything develops further.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 sounds like you have a good thing going, its nice to see on a board with all depressing stories. I dont think its a big deal to sleep with her, you both like each other. best of luck i hope it works out.
anne1707 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 She may well feel a little (a lot) embarrassed about being drunk so best just take it nice and easy, almost as if nothing happened. You did the right thing on Friday and she will appreciate that, I am sure.
Author Lee2 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 Thanks for the advice guys. She didn't mention Friday at all other than she spent all day Saturday in bed with a bad head! We had a good evening and it was just like a third date (imo) should be. Looking forward to seeing her again later this week.
voldigicam Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 It doesn't have to be a big deal. I tend to just pretend these excursions didn't happen. They're generally difficult for the victim to relive. I never spoke to an associate about an event in her life. She was a rather prickly professor. Didn't have many friends, so I dropped her off at day surgery for some reconstructive work because she wouldn't be able to drive. Picked up her up and she got more and more ill from the anesthetic. I knew her pretty well I suppose, but not THAT well. I ended up with her in a bathtub cleaning off vomit, putting her to bed, taking her to the toilet many times. Stayed about 12 hours until I was convinced she was really OK. We never spoke of it. And it really wasn't a big deal. Things happen among friends and even among non-friends. Have fun moving on!
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