MissDee Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 I have been in an on/off relationship with this guy for about 3 1/2 years. I always knew he didn't care as much as I did, that he didn't take us seriously, and just didn't care about me. With this in mind, I guess I thought that he would eventually come around; however, last night proved the extent of his apathy. He invited me over for a weekend this weekend. Saturday morning he leaves for a few hours to do some errands. He comes back, treating me as if I shouldn't be there, then eventually asks me what I'm doing that night. I said I don't know, that it's up to him. He tells me him and his friends are getting together and that I should leave. So I ask him, what is a weekend to you - just a Friday night? I love two hours away, I'm not down the block, this is a big trip for me. He had no response. I quietly pack my things, in tears, not saying a word to him. He asks me, What will you hate me more for - telling you to leave, or having you stay home while I go out tonight? I don't reply. I get my jacket on and slam the door on my way out. No response from him - doesn't come after me, doesn't even care to watch me leave. I send him a text message while I'm crying my eyes out in my car stating that he doesn't take us seriously, that I'm done and I hope I never see him again. Still, no response. As I'm driving home, I'm swerving everywhere. I'm crying, I'm yelling to myself - I'm just a mess. I just couldn't get over his apathy, how he doesn't even respond to me. I knew this would be the last time I'd ever come down there to see him, and that's how it ended? I couldn't believe it. Not a word was said from him, no closing thoughts, no last words. I couldn't get over it. I just wanted to turn my car around, go back to his house and punch him in the face. I almost did that too but I decided to call him instead. I call him and I ask him why he doesn't care, how I'm leaving forever and he has no closing thoughts on the matter, and how he honestly feels about me. Most of his response was "I don't know what to say," "I don't know what you want me to say," "I like you," "I can understand you're angry," "I'm not going to change who I am," etc. When I asked him how he honestly felt about me all he could muster up was, "I like you" and nothing else. Then, after basically dragging it out of him, he states that he doesn't feel comfortable with our age gap (I'm 21, he's 28) and the distance. This I was kind of offended by because for one, he has never made an effort to see me - I've always come down to see him. The second was, so what with the age difference? Couples do it all the time, he's not doing anything extraordinary with his life that requires a minimum age for dating. He's been at the same job for 2 years now and still lives with his mom. I'm a student who still lives with my parents with a part-time job. What is the issue with that? Basically, to really sum it up, he doesn't care. I think that there were a few times in the relationship where he DID care, where he did tell me how he felt towards me, and I came back to him. I told him I couldn't see him holding any kind of relationship with that amount of selfishness and apathy but he just said, "I don't know what to tell you". I know ending it was the best thing I could do for myself. I always knew that this day would come but I just didn't think it would hurt so bad. I've never been rejected before and I've never liked someone this much before. It just hurts - even though we weren't in a formal relationship, I still thought very highly of him. The fact that he just doesn't care and has nothing important to say to me just breaks my heart. He's already previously broken my heart too but I gave him a second chance and I totally regret that now. But basically, I'm still down about all of this. I slept a lot last night (thankfully) but I still feel so drained. I just need some words of encouragement, maybe from someone who has gone through this. Anyone care to help me out and talk me through this?
blondesmiler Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Would pop your post in break up, for more responses that might help
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