Valentine???

[Oliveman]

So me and this girl have been dating for about three months now. It's pretty casual and we haven't had the whole exclusive talk and we don't say I love you or anything, but we talk a lot and hang out once or twice a week.

A couple days ago she says "We need to hang out soon!" since it had been like a week, and I said how about this weekend. So today was Valentine's Day. She's a waitress and had to work, and told me the other day that it's a busy day (obviously) and she wouldn't be out of work until midnight. Whatever no big deal. We didn't have concrete plans, but she said we'd hang out if she got out on time.

 

So midnight rolls around and I'm out with my friend Kathy. The other girl texts me to see what I'm doing as she just got off of work. I told her I was out with a friend, but we should meet up. She said she was too tired and we could hang out another time. Again, I understand, no big deal.

 

So I drop Kathy off and I'm driving home, and I get another text from the girl asking what I did all day, and I told her I went shopping then out for drinks with my friend. She asked if there were a lot of single girls hitting on me cause they didn't have a Valentine, but I said no, since I was out with a girl they probably assumed it was a date. I wasn't trying to hide the fact that I was out with a girl before that, since she's just a friend, but I guess this was where she picked up on it. She asked "Oh, so was this girl your Valentine?" I said no, the girl I wanted to be my valentine turned me down. She said "Who?" I said, "Well, she had to work late and I knew we wouldn't be able to go out, so I bought a bottle of wine and some chocolates for her and thought we'd have a nice night in."

 

Anyways, she goes on to say that if I had asked her in advance to be my Valentine she would have hung out tonight, but she thought I just wanted to hang out and wasn't planning on doing anything for Valentine's day. I figured asking a girl I've been dating out on Valentine's day would imply she was my Valentine, and was going to surprise her with the gifts. Haha was I wrong or is she crazy?

[SoulSearch_CO]

I wish people would quit putting so much ****ing emphasis on a damn day. I think she's overthinking it. But for some people, that kind of thing is important. So maybe in the future be more upfront about your intentions, or don't be surprised if you get turned down.