D-D Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Women ask guys out???? I've never been asked out! I'd have to see that to believe that!
confused_2008 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Women ask guys out???? I've never been asked out! I'd have to see that to believe that! Well, I have, but I'm 22. I think us young guns these days have it a little easier.
Author chris250 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 I'm SO confused. How the hell is she supposed to wear the pants if you won't let her? You say that you should be the one doing the asking, but how does that set the tone for her to be the boss? I let her wear the pants later on when the relationship gets more serious. In the early stages of dating it's important for the man to be the pursuer and aggressor. With 90% of relationship matters I will allow the woman to wear the pants and be the boss but not when it comes to the initial stage of who asks who out. It's the man's job to ask for dates. It's the woman's job to take the relationship to a higher level.
You'reasian Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 You men are so demanding. Next you'll be saying that she must have a heartbeat I guess zombies won't cut it anymore?
Lizzie60 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 That's my rule. I do not like to be asked out on a date by a woman. It's my job to do the asking. If I don't ask then she shouldn't either. If a girl asks you out DO NOT accept! Also in the early stages of dating do not give her your phone number. Ladies don't call me. I'll call you! This is completely ridiculous.. come one.. where not in 1900s... you're too old-fashioned .. no wonder you can't find someone..
Geishawhelk Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I let her wear the pants later on when the relationship gets more serious. In the early stages of dating it's important for the man to be the pursuer and aggressor. With 90% of relationship matters I will allow the woman to wear the pants and be the boss but not when it comes to the initial stage of who asks who out. It's the man's job to ask for dates. It's the woman's job to take the relationship to a higher level. Chris, listen: If to begin with, you are the pursuer and the aggressor, the only woman who is going to happily comply with this kind of approach, is one who is open and succeptible to being the non-dominant partner. The only woman who will succumb to your dominance and aggression, is a timid, non-confrontational and submissive one. A woman of this calibre will then be highly unlikely to become dominant, take the lead, forbid you to talk to other women, or take the relationship to a higher level. Similarly, if you want a woman to do this later in the relationship, she's hardly likely to be prepared to tolerate you being aggressive and dominant in the initial stages. She will tell you to get off your high horse and go take a running jump, because she's not the type to put up with that kind of crap. So what you're effectively asking for is a woman who can transform from a timid wallflower one moment, to a dominant, authoriatrian matriarch the next. Can't be done, buddy. Not unless you're looking for someone who will eventually actually hen-peck you, and have absolutely no respect for the spineless wimp you'll have become.
bluehare07 Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I respect your opinion but, why not try it once Chris? It's just normal nowadays. I love it when they ask me out
BCCA Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 have absolutely no respect for the spineless wimp you'll have become. Well I think thats his goal. I just dont think he's even getting takers for the 'abuser' position. Let's recap Chris' infinite wisdom. Here are some rules to live by: 1. Take all first dates to Starbuck's, where the appropriate attire is a suit and tie. That's right...at Starbuck's. 2. Never accept a date from a woman that asks you out. You are the man, dammit, you need to drag your knuckles, pound your chest, and make your move! 3. From date 2 on, you are to agree with everything your lady friend says. Sex in the City marathon? You bet that sounds great! Who wouldn't rather go to the mall than watch some football? I mean, it's probably pretty empty during the Super Bowl anyway... 4. Sex = no go. Who wants to have sex, besides everyone in the world? Beats Chris, but he certainly doesn't. That stuff can wait until they've dated for like 3-4 years, and can settle down. Of course, I guess if he was ordered to take care of business, he would have a real perdicament on his hands. Which sacred vow to break??? 5. Women are akin to customer service at a business. There is nothing more flattering for today's pants-wearing female than to hear that they will be treated like a routine and boring job. Follow these rules and your sure to never meet anyone or have any sort of meaningful relationship with the opposite sex.
LeroyJose Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 have absolutely no respect for the spineless wimp you'll have become. Well I think thats his goal. I just dont think he's even getting takers for the 'abuser' position. Let's recap Chris' infinite wisdom. Here are some rules to live by: 1. Take all first dates to Starbuck's, where the appropriate attire is a suit and tie. That's right...at Starbuck's. 2. Never accept a date from a woman that asks you out. You are the man, dammit, you need to drag your knuckles, pound your chest, and make your move! 3. From date 2 on, you are to agree with everything your lady friend says. Sex in the City marathon? You bet that sounds great! Who wouldn't rather go to the mall than watch some football? I mean, it's probably pretty empty during the Super Bowl anyway... 4. Sex = no go. Who wants to have sex, besides everyone in the world? Beats Chris, but he certainly doesn't. That stuff can wait until they've dated for like 3-4 years, and can settle down. Of course, I guess if he was ordered to take care of business, he would have a real perdicament on his hands. Which sacred vow to break??? 5. Women are akin to customer service at a business. There is nothing more flattering for today's pants-wearing female than to hear that they will be treated like a routine and boring job. Follow these rules and your sure to never meet anyone or have any sort of meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. Makes a LOT of sense... Thanks BCCA.
dwightl Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I hope Chris is reading the posts. Mostly are good advices and to be taken seriously.
Khabarak Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I just have to say that this is a ridiculous rule. I would be flattered if a women asked me on a date. Regardless of the above, what makes it unacceptable for a woman to ask a man on a date? Both sexes are equally capable of finding someone attractive, so why shouldn't they both be free to express that attraction if they want to? You're welcome to have whatever opinion you like, but don't try to force it on every guy. Some of us would like to have a little of the pressure taken off.
Chicago_Guy Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 That's my rule. I do not like to be asked out on a date by a woman. It's my job to do the asking. If I don't ask then she shouldn't either. If a girl asks you out DO NOT accept! Also in the early stages of dating do not give her your phone number. Ladies don't call me. I'll call you! I personally like it when a girl I am dating calls me (provided she doesn't call obsessively), because it shows me that she is thinking about me and likes me, and isn't just using me for free meals or something like that.
DollWelch Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Chris, Are you losing your mind? This "Rule" of yours, is impractical. I doubt you will be able to follow it yourself. What if in the early stages of dating, you don't give out your phone number, and neither does she, how will dating proceed? You and her will be stuck in this "Silent Mode", where neither is willing to make a move. What will happen then? You lose her! This "Rule" is a perfect recipe for disaster: How To Lose An Attractive Girl in 23 Minutes!
Author chris250 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Chris, Are you losing your mind? This "Rule" of yours, is impractical. I doubt you will be able to follow it yourself. What if in the early stages of dating, you don't give out your phone number, and neither does she, how will dating proceed? You and her will be stuck in this "Silent Mode", where neither is willing to make a move. What will happen then? You lose her! This "Rule" is a perfect recipe for disaster: How To Lose An Attractive Girl in 23 Minutes! I don't waste anymore time on her if I ask for her number and she doesn't give it. I move on. I'm not looking for the same rewards that you guys are looking for. I'm not really looking for a lifelong partner. As long as I don't have to go to divorce court I really don't care what the outcome of my dates are. Being single is better than being used for alimony in a divorce court settlement. I believe the first date should be cheap because there's no guarantee she's going to accept a 2nd date. Why spend so much money on her when she may never want to take me out on a date and pay my way? That's another reason I decline dates from women who ask me out. I would still be expected to pay my way. Since the amount of money I spend on a woman entitles me to nothing then I might as well make the early dates cheap.
Author chris250 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 I personally like it when a girl I am dating calls me (provided she doesn't call obsessively), because it shows me that she is thinking about me and likes me, and isn't just using me for free meals or something like that. I like to do all the calling that way I'm not interrupted during my work time. I don't believe in talking to girls on the phone at work. When I'm at work it's work-time and not social hour!
allina Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 From what I've seen here girls asking you out or calling you hasn't really been a "problem."
Author chris250 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 I hope Chris is reading the posts. Mostly are good advices and to be taken seriously. I do not read every post. So far I haven't found anything that needs to be taken seriously.
knaveman Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 If you keep making rules you will rule out every living woman. I guess then at least you won't feel so bad about being alone. Hey, gotta stick to the rules.
Author chris250 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Then you need to read post #30... I don't need to read any post that I don't want to read. That's the wonderful thing about message boards. You get to pick and choose what you will read and not read. I have every right to be selective about what I'll read. Bottom line is that I like to do all of the chasing in the early stages of dating. It's more exciting when I get to ask the woman out. It makes me feel privileged. When a woman asks me out early on then I get turned off instantly. I don't care what the circumstances are. I lose interest fast. She has plenty of time to chase later when the relationship gets serious. There's no sense in in her being eager to chase a stranger early on.
wierdmunky Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 What if she was a millionaire? What if she thought you were the only decent guy out there, felt similar about you do in relationships, AND had money??
Author chris250 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 What if she was a millionaire? What if she thought you were the only decent guy out there, felt similar about you do in relationships, AND had money?? We could "what if what if" all night long but I don't think about those kind of scenarios because they're highly unlikely.
collegekid491 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 After this post you won't have to worry about that... I swear Chris, if its the last thing I do.... I'll find who pissed in your cornflakes!
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