pandagirl Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 I think natural confidence tends to shine through, being comfortable in your own skin, and giving off the vibe of being friendly, smiling, etc. However! I have no idea what the correct formula is. I have a friend, who is very attractive and a total man-magnet. I've never seen anything like it before -- men just swarm around her, like white in rice. She is really funny and crude (not girly at all) but also pulls off being super sexy and hot. I'm sure if she wasn't drop dead gorgeous, this wouldn't work as well. I know I can be unapproachable. An ex of mine said it's like I have a sandwich board hung over me that says: "DON'T TALK EVEN TRY TO TALK TO ME!" haha! But, really, my friends who know me well say I'm super friendly and funny and nice on first impression. One of my best friends told me whenever she introduces me to someone new, they always tell her: "That Pandagirl is really cool and funny. Do you think she thought I was cool?" They say I intimidate people, because, yes, when I have to be social I put my game face on, and turn on the ole charm and wit. So, I'm either intimidatingly awesome or completely unapproachable. Good lord. I need help.
D-Lish Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Yes. I'm in my thirties now so I figured it's acceptable to use an old photo. I knew it! I'm in my thirties now- but if I posted my year book pic all you would see is HUGE hair and a Pat Benatar headband
D-Lish Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Does v-day signify the start of a new dating year? And I hope you both have better luck this dating year, there's a couple of guys missing out somewhere. Maybe it does signal a new year.... who knows. I think I am a good catch- it's just that the fisherman that try to reel me in suck major ass.
zenith Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 it's hard to approach an ice-queen, bro may be not hard... I would rather not waste my time with them
zenith Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Hi, I didn't listen to this CD, but I am sure it is a good resource, if you want to hear and have some real changes about self, well, here it is How to Succeed at Being Yourself by Joyce Meyer it is a book How to Be a Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer this is 5 CD's package Joyce Meyer... is that you?
monkey00 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 First off a smile goes a long way. Second off, I think some women should play a little aggressively if the guy is afraid to approach from rejection. I think a good method is if you catch their eyes, you could go up to them and ask them about advice or something. If you're on the street or subway, ask for directions. If you're in the grocery store ..etc. Though I have to admit some guys including me can be totally oblivious when a girl is interested. Body language also plays a major role. I've noticed a lot of girls don't know how to flirt with a guy which is a major drawback. Knowing how to flirt or tease is about having fun, not knowing how to flirt or tease is kind of boring.
You'reasian Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 I've started smiling more often. The results I get are the same as yours--the guys notice, but they WON'T SAY HI! I would rather they not stare in the first place! We can practice? lol Good luck
prettybaby Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 People generally define me as approachable; even if they're perfect strangers I have never talked to before lol The main key is: eye contact + smile. I say hi to random strangers quite often, as long as they look friendly. Also, when I'm in a store or a public place or whatever, I sometimes see people looking for certain things, or people who can't find their way, or whatever. If it's a place I know well, I'll offer to help. That often gets conversations started too. I also forgot to add: before you start the whole "eye contact + smile" thing, you first need to feel comfortable in your skin! Know that nobody will look at you strange. You're just a nice person feeling good about yourself. People are drawn to that, and that certainly applies to guys you might consider dating.
BobSacamento Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I think the eye contact and smile are green lights in my books. Facial expressions wise or with body language I honestly can't think of something that would come off as desperate coming from a woman. Clothes usually scream that to me. And lack of subtlety. Also the accidental "bump" into generally works on me. It always gets my attention. I assume women hate touching random strangers as much as I do unless they catch my eye lol. Also hand touching always seemed to be a sign to me. When handing something to a woman sometimes they will always find a way to make hand contact. I always assume this is a sign. Not just once but always. Is this true? I will test it with a straw tomorrow, that seems to be the perfect thing to test it with
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