dumped3monthsgone Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Ok here is the deal. I had 3 children from previous.Met C and got pregnant very quickly he supported me and decided to have a relationship, great! He was my support my best friend my everything I adored him and I thought he did me. He proposed on the 27th of dec I was over the moon. Really happy. Had a coil fitted so we hadnt been using condoms, missed period and thought i may be pregnant and i was.Was not planned but i thought we could get through this. Took test together and as soon as it came up he blurted out i have never loved you. Calmed down but never got used to idea. Asked me to abort a few times but i have 4 one more wont make a huge difference. Few days a go he totally broke it off insisting that he never has loved me and i was never the kind of person he wanted to be with So now im on my own and three months gone. he said he wants to be there at the scans etc and at the birth help choose a name and people say he should be praised for this. i dont think he really deserves to. i thought he loved me and our son and my other kids. i wanted him to be a full time dad not one who sees him/her every 2 weeks. do i not have a right to be angry how do i get over this i feel lost and let down.
SYL Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Ahhhh, lots of emotions there and heightened due to hormones. Yikes! So sorry for your predicament and, yes, you have every right to be angry. Who wouldn't be? However, as the father of your child, he does have paternal rights. The child also has the right to see his/her father and it would be in THEIR best interest if they could bond. It's unfortunate that you are removed by him from the equation, albeit not entirely as the child will always connect the two of you, but it is best for all if you could together iron out an arrangement amicably. Good luck.
theotherwoman100 Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 All I can say is "I'm sorry". A broken heart does heal and its better to find out now that down the road. I know that it is hard for you to feel that way at this moment but as time goes by and a REAL prince in shining armour swings you up on his horse..you will laugh. My husband was killed in a car accident when I was three months pregnant. Something no one should ever experience. When you have kids, you pull through whatever turmoil you have in your life. Trust me. It's going to be ok. Be strong!
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