Kamille Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 LOL! I think he fares better then Mr. No Personality. At least he's got quirks you know? All right all right, I'll admit: I'm a grad student so many of my friends are total geeks and, since we live in Canada, the snow boot look is pretty much a given.
Stockalone Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 If you are going to take this as a fun hobbie then don't bitch and complain the other guys want a life outside of the band at that age, just because you don't want to have a family and a fulltime job and want to party every weekend, it doesn't mean the others feel the same way. For them the band might just be a good fun hobbie to have not a lifestyle. I didn't understand your example to mean music as a career path. But still, I don't think it is wrong to want that at 40 instead of 20. Sure, I think it is unwise, but that is his life. If no woman wants to put up with him because of that, that is his problem too. At 20, the unattached will bitch about the guy with a gf who misses a practice session or two. The 40 year old should just find other single guys to pursue his dream then. He just needs to find like-minded people whose goals are compatible to his own.
ruggy Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I think younger folks, especially those whom think with the younger crowd are more prone to think late 20's - early 40's as old and boring, but if you think back to when you were in your late teens to early 20's you were opinionated and short-sighted too lol I'm curious as to what the OP's definition of acting one's age is? I tend to shoot for the women who are a year or two older than me. Thought they would be more mature. I was wrong. There is no magical right age.
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 But still, I don't think it is wrong to want that at 40 instead of 20. Sure, I think it is unwise, but that is his life. If no woman wants to put up with him because of that, that is his problem too. I am not talking about "right or wrong" it's not about that Stock, if that feels right to him then that IS right for him. What I am talking about is to be realistic. If you choose something for yourself that falls outside of the "norm " in terms of where you are in life then don't be surprised if it is harder to find like minded people to share that space in life. His attached hobbie seeking band mates are not in the same headspace he is. yet according to this guy they are wrong and he is the one who has it clear in his mind. As long as he is aware of what he sets himself up for then he should 100% stay true to who and what he is, things will pan for him one way or another but don't bitch and complain others aren't were you are anymore. A newly single middle aged guy will want to be around other single men, and if all his buds are taken and happy he will find a way to pizz on that in order to not feel like the odd man out. So going back to being realistic in your expectations, if you are meeting men on Myspace which Dreamrlglr isn't but I thought maybe she had met Batman on there according to an earlier post (but we have since cleared that up) , then your reality will fall within the realm of what that site caters to, you would be less fortunate to find someone who falls into the realm of what YOU want for yourself in a relationship.
lord alfred douglas Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Tomcat 33 is anti-art She thinks its better that grown men live in a silent world with no color and no hope for love
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Tomcat 33 is anti-art She thinks its better that grown men live in a silent world with no color and no hope for love To create the sensation that you are a human magnet, get a fair sized piece of gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe. Take a long walk and collect as many goodies as you can.
CommitmentPhobe Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Tomcat 33 is anti-art She thinks its better that grown men live in a silent world with no color and no hope for love Nah. I think what's she's saying is that it's sad for a podgy balding guy to think he's going to pick up a guitar aged 40 and become the next mick jagger. Nothing wrong with going out there and having some fun though. At least when you're 21 there's some degree of believability, even if it's remote.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 Screw Mr. No Personality, Screw Batman, Screw Mr. Needy... I finally asked out the hot guy at the store! He's suppose to call me when he gets done tonight, and we're going to go have a drink!
lord alfred douglas Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 To create the sensation that you are a human magnet, get a fair sized piece of gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe. Take a long walk and collect as many goodies as you can. I dont understand what this means. I've really never given much thought to magnets or to gum
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Nah. I think what's she's saying is that it's sad for a podgy balding guy to think he's going to pick up a guitar aged 40 and become the next mick jagger. Nothing wrong with going out there and having some fun though. At least when you're 21 there's some degree of believability, even if it's remote. That is exactly what I meant. What attracted me to this guy and why I accepted the date was because he was into the arts and we seemed to have a lot of the same interests on paper. And he was good looking (not bald or pudgy even , he looked a lot like Jason Lee in fact). Didn't realise he was trying to play catch up with his youth before I accepted, but then again that is what dating is for to figure this stuff out. It was just sad to see someone trying so hard, he didn't seem like a cool artist type into his thing pursuing his passions he just seemed like a 39 yr old loser chasing a pipe dream to recapture his youth and bitching about other men around him his age who are tied down in relationships that are working for them. It was sort of depressing, not cool in any way.
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I dont understand what this means. Well then I guess we are even, because I don't understand much of the posts you direct at me either, they make as much sense as mine did.
lord alfred douglas Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 Well then I guess we are even, because I don't understand much of the posts you direct at me either, they make as much sense as mine did. yes but im polishing ff my first bottle of red wine whats your excuse?
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 yes but im polishing ff my first bottle of red wine whats your excuse? I ran out an hour ago.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: I ran out an hour ago.
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 which is really just warning that I'll prob get worse
Trimmer Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I think what's she's saying is that it's sad for a podgy balding guy to think he's going to pick up a guitar aged 40 and become the next mick jagger. Nothing wrong with going out there and having some fun though. TC, I got what you meant, too... If you choose the hard path, then go be true to it, but then don't bitch that you chose the hard path...
Tomcat33 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 TC, I got what you meant, too... If you choose the hard path, then go be true to it, but then don't bitch that you chose the hard path... Cool T, I'm glad most got it! Thanks for sharing that.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 BTW, did he show you his cape, batcave or bring you in to meet the police chief? :lmao: LMFAO - could you just imagine? "This is my mom - I like to call her Alfred. And this is my dad - aka, the police chief." Gees, some people are sick. I imagine a pick-up line in his world might be, "I'd like to explore your batcave!"
Shygirl15 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 :lmao: Geez, Dreamer you're funny. Always a pleasure reading your dating adventures. It's kinda like an addiction for me these days..
You'reasian Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 That is exactly what I meant. What attracted me to this guy and why I accepted the date was because he was into the arts and we seemed to have a lot of the same interests on paper. And he was good looking (not bald or pudgy even , he looked a lot like Jason Lee in fact). Didn't realise he was trying to play catch up with his youth before I accepted, but then again that is what dating is for to figure this stuff out. It was just sad to see someone trying so hard, he didn't seem like a cool artist type into his thing pursuing his passions he just seemed like a 39 yr old loser chasing a pipe dream to recapture his youth and bitching about other men around him his age who are tied down in relationships that are working for them. It was sort of depressing, not cool in any way. I see what you mean. Yeah, 39 is a bit on the older side to persue this kind of thing on a professional level - but its never too late to start a band or hobby for that matter.
Kamille Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 Screw Mr. No Personality, Screw Batman, Screw Mr. Needy... I finally asked out the hot guy at the store! He's suppose to call me when he gets done tonight, and we're going to go have a drink! Did I miss the thread about how this went? Or was it such an uncomplicated date that you don't need it scrutinized? Way to go on asking the guy out! Fun isn't it?
Author dreamergrl Posted February 17, 2009 Author Posted February 17, 2009 :lmao: LMFAO - could you just imagine? "This is my mom - I like to call her Alfred. And this is my dad - aka, the police chief." Gees, some people are sick. I imagine a pick-up line in his world might be, "I'd like to explore your batcave!" OMG, I almost fell over when I read this! Did I miss the thread about how this went? Or was it such an uncomplicated date that you don't need it scrutinized? Way to go on asking the guy out! Fun isn't it? No, you didn't miss anything, other then my "I did it" thread, and went and asked him out. I can't believe I did it. Haven't heard from Batman either haha
blondesmiler Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Sorry I did have to laugh! Holy Rusty Belt Buckle Batman.... OMG - now when I was 15 I was a BROSette and used to wear a James Dean belt buckle but then I grew up and got some taste!! Dear oh dear
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 ladybugs, you really must work on your vocabulary. The only word you seem to know with any consistency, is 'abstinence'. I would respectfully suggest you find a forum discussing celibacy, because to be frank, nobody's really paying much attention here. At all.
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