"dont wanna talk about it"

[olganom]

Hi there,

 

When my gf says she dont wanna talk about it something bad that has happend and i know what has happend tho, but though maybe would be easier for her to do that.

 

Should i try avoid the subject and not mention it, or should i try make her kinda talk into that subject?

 

:s

[socialight]

why don't you start by speaking and writing in clear specific english.

[olganom]

Sorry.

 

A situation happend with my GF, and it is kinda bad, and did hurt her feelings allot.

However, I know all about what has happend and i was there all along.

 

But I know she is still upset about it, but when I tried to get to the subject how she feels about it and questions around it, she just simply says she doesnt want to talk about it.

 

I know her well, but that is still confusing for me if I should just not mention it or if I should try lead it into the convo again.

 

I know she said Dont wanna talk about it, thats it, but does she really mean it permanently?

[confused_2008]

Just be ready to listen when she's ready to talk about it. You can't force her to now if she doesn't feel like it. Listen intently and don't offer to fix things. When a girl vents to you, she wants you to listen and empathize, not offer solutions.

[olganom]

thank you all for the advices. just can be confusing at times and well closed feelings are hard to see if she really could need support with them. :s

[SoulSearch_CO]

Just let her know that if she ever wants to talk about it, you're there for her, but you respect her right to not HAVE to talk about it if she so chooses. Do not push her to talk - that can push her away. But if this becomes a pattern - her not wanting to let you in, I'd suggest bringing up the fact that she's closing you out. If this is only one instance, let it go.