winsmith-84 Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 OK, it may just be my school or it may just be that I'm in Illinois (grew up in Texas, go to college in Illinois), but why does it seem that half the chicks here like insecure guys? Where I came from, confidence was key, and chicks were attracted to it. But up in Illinois, or it may just be my school, half the time, chicks are turned off by my confidence. Like if I am more aggressive, as in initiating the conversation and 'teasing' them or hitting on them, they are turned off by it. But whenever I'm more passive, or quiet, or nicer, they seem to want to talk to be more/like me more. What's up with that? Why would chicks like guys that are less confident than they are? It may just be that I carry myself wrong when I'm confident, but this is really getting to me. I grew up thinking confidence is key, but chicks seem shy when I'm confident and talking to them. Maybe it's harder to trust guys when they are confident and teasing you, but it's easier to trust them when they are nice and stuff. And apparently (I just learned this recently) trust is a huge thing for chicks...maybe I should just start slouching a little bit?
Trialbyfire Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Are you aggressive or assertive? Blatant assertiveness: Let's catch a movie together on Friday night. Blatant aggressiveness: Baby, you're so fiiiiinnnnneeee! You, me, Friday night.
DavidH Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 girls might think you're being confident just for the hell of it. its like they think you're being a fake alpha male just be genuine, polite, and a leader
kashmir Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Why do you assume being quiet makes a guy insecure? Do you really need to be loud and outgoing to be confident? I don't think so. There's always a considerable amount of girls that go for your type, though. I doubt the problem is that they all like "insecure" guys. Can you explain anything else you might be doing?
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