damn Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 i'm kinda in a rocky relationship...i really dont know what u would call our situation. but me and this guy i've been seein for the last 3 years had made some very serious plans as far as spending our life together...(living together the whole nine)...well i had to go out of town for awhile (6months) to take care of my ill father... it wasnt the first time i had to go back home to take care of issues ...but anyhow. my guy didnt think i was comin back this time. I did return ....he was sooo happy... But when i came back i didnt mention anything about us living together. like everything we ever talked about went out the window. I admit I was nervous...and he's much older than me so u can kinda understand. We ended up gettig into it like 2 dayz into me returning...and i told him, he needed to get it together or his coupon was bout to expire....I wasnt gonna leave him, I was jus upset...like i havent seen him in like 6 months and he was really trippn...over some other guys comments that were made towards me, while we were havin lunch at his job the day before....(my guy got jealous) well he kinda found a way to flip a situation on me and tried to call it quits...and we've been tryna rebuild ever since it's been 6 months now. I see him when i can. He's stuck at work all the time, he works for a fitness company i have a membership...but his gym is a lil ways away so it takes time... But i have one right by my house and thats where i go... and my schedule is pretty ugly.... But i still try to find a way to make it up there to see him. He says where he works is my gym...i guess meaning thats where i should be???????(i don't know ) We don't even talk on the phone anymore, he claimes he needs more then a phone relationship. I told him I need more than visits at his job... But when we're around eachother in person everything is better. But we fight constantly anyother time. He tells me that i need to go ahead and jus du me.But he always catchin feelings. It be other guys at the gym and somebody is always tryna talk to me...but i pay them no mind i jus workout and talk to my guy.....I mean honestly I sleep, eat, breath this man..and he jus doesnt understand how much i love him. He's getting out of a marriage and the wife did him wrong i was thinkin maybe thats what it is. She cheated on him...and i think he's gettin her for adultry...but i jus thought about it....if thats the case then it would make sense w we dont hang out anymore, and we dont talk on the cell...cuz if theres any proof he's doin wrong..then theres a big problem. I even needed him to write me a letter of recemendation for a job and he refused!!!!! Well recently i've been coming up to his job more often and he getts nicer everytime. But say i tell him i'm comin and something else comes up and i have to switch my plans then all hell breaks loose. He'll yell and tell me i don't care, That i'm like everybody else...that i'm not coming up there for him, that i should jus leave him alone...stop calling him. He even tells me he's married... he wears the ring sometimes and has it off sometimes...and that hurts me....but what can i do. I know he's not with her still it's a front he puttin on..... If i call him at work, and when he answers the phone i can ask if he's busy. He gets mad and tells me that when I call I don't have to ask if he busy jus start talkin. That I don't have to call and tell him i'm comin up there to his job, he says jus show up. What does it sound like does it sound like he still have feelings and is jus going thru it emotionally and takin it out on me... but honestly i know relationships have ups and downs but i love him and i wanna work it out and be with only him...i jus don't know what to do. Something still keeps telling me that he's doing all of this on purpose cus of the situation he's in with the whole divorce thang... on top of some insecurity issues he has... i need help somebody what u think???????
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