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Is 'Dinner with a Friend' Code for "Dinner with a Woman' ? Is he cheating ?

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LucreziaBorgia Established Member

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Myob, in other situations I'd say you have a point - but from past posts I can completely understand why Nan is analyzing this guy's every move. With a man like this, a woman has got to keep her eyes open.

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Myob, in other situations I'd say you have a point - but from past posts I can completely understand why Nan is analyzing this guy's every move. With a man like this, a woman has got to keep her eyes open.

 

I actually was a WUSS and edited my spur of the moment update last night.....

So here it goes....

He picked me up last night at 7pm (was supposed to be 6:30pm, but no biggie)

I was dressed up and he was just in jeans and said he felt like being casual

We did go to nice little french restaurant for pizza, burgers, drinks

He then said would like to see a movie.

He told me his house had a showing at 9 am and so he had to be up for that.

I said oh well he is up at 7 am every day so he would have time to clean...(i should add he sleeps 5-6 hours a night)

Instead of the movie theater he drove me to his house.

Enjoyed watching a movie and made out a bit.

Suddenly at 10:45 pm while we were mid cuddle and kissing he announced he adored me but it was time to drive me home.

it is a 30 minute round trip to drive me home , so i was trying to be understanding.

 

He dropped me home at 11 pm and said he was super sleepy ///I told him to call me when he got home since he did seem tired driving...

he did joke we should buy me a car...

he kissed me goodbye and never called me back...

until 11 am this morning

(he did email me at 9 am too)

i asked him if he got a lot of sleep last night since he went home early

he stammered for a split second and said yes.

 

Something doesnt add up again.

Now ALL my friends who had liked him ALL said he mustve been going out for a booty call.

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Myob, in other situations I'd say you have a point - but from past posts I can completely understand why Nan is analyzing this guy's every move. With a man like this, a woman has got to keep her eyes open.

 

 

I should also add that he is divorced and that the only reason he said the marriage broke up was because she 'didn't trust' him.

So naturally that sticks in my head.

He has a lot of great things about him, so it does make one wonder what would have made his wife ask for the divorce.

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first things first - how did the date get changed from Sun to Saturday? did i miss something?

 

the car thing is odd... WE need to buy you a car? odd

 

and is that because he feels inconvenienced driving you home? i don't get it... i never had a guy feel inconvenienced picking me up or bringing me home after a date.

 

if he took you to his house - he MAY have been expecting more action from you... then when he realized it wasn't going to happen - decided it was time for you to go.

 

not one bit nice that he didn't call when he got home. rude actually. did he agree to call within the half hour? if so, then his actions don't match his words (not good). or maybe he did call when he got home - which was at 11am?? don't know.

 

also - did you ask him about his evening with that friend? who the friend was? i think i'd just come right out and ask him if he's seeing someone else. his actions (or lack of consistency) says he probably is.

 

either way - his actions and words are selfish and inconsiderate (including being 30 minutes late). is this what you want for yourself?

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first things first - how did the date get changed from Sun to Saturday? did i miss something?

 

the car thing is odd... WE need to buy you a car? odd

 

and is that because he feels inconvenienced driving you home? i don't get it... i never had a guy feel inconvenienced picking me up or bringing me home after a date.

 

if he took you to his house - he MAY have been expecting more action from you... then when he realized it wasn't going to happen - decided it was time for you to go.

 

not one bit nice that he didn't call when he got home. rude actually. did he agree to call within the half hour? if so, then his actions don't match his words (not good). or maybe he did call when he got home - which was at 11am?? don't know.

 

also - did you ask him about his evening with that friend? who the friend was? i think i'd just come right out and ask him if he's seeing someone else. his actions (or lack of consistency) says he probably is.

 

either way - his actions and words are selfish and inconsiderate (including being 30 minutes late). is this what you want for yourself?

 

our date is supposed to be saturday... so saturday it was....

i didnt tell him to call within a half hour, just when he got home because i was worried since he seemed tired and there was a lot of traffic.

we made out and he said at one point he would love to lie upstairs in bed with me and i said yeah that would be good.

he certainly couldnt think i wasnt receptive. we were practically mauling each other during the movie at two points.

then as he was getting ready to take me home i said i wouldve like to do that. (lie in bed)

anyway tonight i last heard from him at 6 pm .......

wrote me an email with a weird title.

i guess he was trying to be funny... it said 'hey pornstar'.

he then wrote he missed me already and was exhausted from starting running again.

 

and then nothing all night

he and i are big oscar fans and i was surprised he didnt contact me when they were over........

 

so there you go...

and since im not one to sit around and cry im already thinking about other men and thinking how to disengage from him with as little pain as possible.

i really really do deeply love and care for him, but i dont think there is anyway in the world to reach him.

maybe i didnt coddle his ego enough, i dont know...

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Hmm well I finally asked him about that tuesday night and he was totally relaxed about it, said the guy's name and everything.

he again said he is depressed and exhausted over the stress of trying to raise money for his company.

He could actually sell his boat and problem solved, but hed rather stress out...

He said we wants to see me Tuesday night instead of Wednesday because he looking for venture cap raising and a guy who keeps cancelling on him can finally do a steak and cigar dinner..

he gave me the guys name too.

 

 

Im under my own incredible stress financially, just like so many other people.

 

I dont think he handles stress well if he changes his personality so easily.

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Nagini Established Member

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ANother Tuesday another call around 6 pm

He said to call him back. I did at 7pm... no answer...

 

Everything hinges on tonight.

will be interesting

 

My Mom already told me she wouldn't date him anymore if she were me.

samiam143 Established Member

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I can kind of relate. As harsh as myob was, I think some of the advice was legit. I think you should make yourself less available. You have a gut feeling for a reason. Listen to it. :)

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