dudemag Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 its been 2 months since she left me. she left me for someone else who i had suspicions about to begin with. she blamed me for everything...i am almost certain she has cheated on me.. but i still cant help but want her... any ideas to help me stop thinking this? its ridiculous, i should be hating her but i just cant help myself..
UCLAMike Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 yea. you can do this the quick way or the long way. I took the long way and took me 7 months to stop being insane. first off, she's immature. don't let other people tell you otherwise. mature girls, and i know plenty, don't just meet another dude and walks off. mature girls take their relationship very seriously and think with their head not with what feels right at the moment. Second, understand that this isn't some tragic end to your life. At first it feels like it. Nothing works and nothing helps. I was like that 7 months ago. You're gonna wonder why she left, and you are going to analyze everything, i mean everything you ever did with her. don't. Reason why ex's leave are actually quite simple. They simply don't feel like they want what they have with you at that particular time in her life. Again, this is also due to immaturity and wanting to explore more. Don't take it too personally. Your happiness and self-esteem is not depended on validation of a girl. Don't go down that path. Just try to brush it off. Don't surrender yourself to depression and disappointment. At least not for too long. Give yourself a time limit, grieve and stick to it. If I knew what I know now 7 months ago, I honestly would not be here posting right now. I'd be out happy and doing what I want to do.
CaliGuy Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 its been 2 months since she left me. she left me for someone else who i had suspicions about to begin with. she blamed me for everything...i am almost certain she has cheated on me.. but i still cant help but want her... any ideas to help me stop thinking this? its ridiculous, i should be hating her but i just cant help myself.. Get a life. Hobbies, friends, working out, etc. If you occupy your mind with activities you won't have time to think about your ex.
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