Sebby Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 I'm in a difficult situation and I'm stuck on what to do. I'm sick of going through it in my head, so I though I might get some feedback. My wife and I are still living together though we haven't been sleeping together for about 18 months. I consider that technically, we are separated. We share a beautiful 8years old daughter together and she is the reason we are still living together. My wife has a drinking problem. Most nights she gets drunk. She is sometimes aggresive, but most of the time she just sits at the kitchen table being completely useless in looking after our daughter. Soemtimes she falls asleep at the table. I can't live with her anymore, but I don't want to hurt my daughter and I can't trust my wife to look after her if I'm not there. I don't know what to do. My wife insists that she wants to keep our daughter at least half the time. That would be OK if she wasn't drinking, but I can't trust her. I suggested that she move in with her mother but she won't have a bar of that. She is determined and she won't give an inch. Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
mark982 Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 is there any way you can do raise the child yourself? i know your wife wants shared custody, but can you prove to the courts her drunkiness? video, friends,dui arrests? you're gonna have to cover all bases for the betterment of your child.
Gunny376 Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Hell Yea! Just a soon as she successfully completes an in-house re-hab program, and has a a good proven twelve months of soberity. Until then its supervise visitation.
overseas2004 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I dont even know why you would ask a question like this. first of all, if you did leave your daughter with her drunken mother you could be charged with child neglect and you could both lose custody over her to the state. I just dont get it. how could you even wonder if you could leave her with her? Dont you have any sense?
mark982 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 sebby, if you leave, or take the kid, your wifes drinking "will" only get worse. i'm a recovering alchy, and i'm telling you from experience.you being in the house is sorta keeping her toeing the line, even though she's almost always drunk. w/o you there lookout.have you decussed aa, or rehab? if she's not interested, then there really isn't much choice. but i would check w/ a lawyer, there just might be laws if you let your child stay w/ a person not capable of taking care of them.
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