Illiandra Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 My situation is that Im dating someone,,, nothing too serious yet,,prob been on 8-9 dates,,, he suggested we hang out either saturday or sunday. I ended up choosing Sunday since I didnt want all of this Valentines day pressure. What is the NORM now in days when your just dating someone, should you definately go out on Valentines day, do it the day before or afteR? Also, I was thinking of getting him a v-day funny card...thoughts?
Green Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I'm a man and I'm feeling the valentines day pressure to produce, what ever just go have fun a card will be fine
fishtaco Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Personally I think Valentine's day is more serious. For me I would ONLY take someone out on V day if we're already serious. If it's nothing too serious, I suggest staying away from V day. It would send the wrong message. Sunday is still too close to V day. But if you just hang and not do anything out of the ordinary, it's probably okay. But that's my take on it. Other people probably will have different thoughts on this.
Green Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Personally I think Valentine's day is more serious. For me I would ONLY take someone out on V day if we're already serious. If it's nothing too serious, I suggest staying away from V day. It would send the wrong message. Sunday is still too close to V day. But if you just hang and not do anything out of the ordinary, it's probably okay. But that's my take on it. Other people probably will have different thoughts on this. I don't think vday is necesarily that serious it is a commercial holiday and its what ever you make of it so if they just hang out sunday things should be fine. Obviously very serious to some couples
Trialbyfire Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 It depends on the impression you want to give. Do you want this to be more serious or are you happy just dating, keeping things light and casual? I get the impression of the latter but I also get the impression you're not terribly hooked on the guy. Are you avoiding V-day due to the pressure or is it that you're just not that into the guy or relationships?
Author Illiandra Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 I choose sunday since its NOT vday, I didnt want any pressure on me or him. Im def into him, but i also do not want to come off as needy and have him think that WE need to spend Vday together. He is also very shy and when I was at his house he made NO moves besides some slight flirting. When i saw him last i gave him a kiss and said that was for Valentines day ha
Trialbyfire Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 In avoiding V-day, you're giving him a different message than agreeing to it. If you want a relationship, don't avoid it. If he feels it's needy to want to spend a "special occasion" which is something you must believe if you're avoiding it, then the two of you have different definitions of what you value. Has he given you some indication that he's not that keen on a relationship?
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