winsmith-84 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 OK, just curious as to what happens to other people. Girls: Say you just gave a guy your number after talking to him for 5 minutes, and you've never met him before. Or, you gave a guy your number who you are interested in, but don't know too well. Does he normally call you first and talk a couple times over the phone, or is the first call you receive from him an invitation for a date? What happens to you more often and which one do you prefer? Basically, chat a few times over the phone before a date, or date first and then start chatting over the phone? Guys: Basically the same thing as the girls question but role reversed. Say you just met a girl for the first time and she gave you her number. You don't know her that well, but she's interested in you and you are interested in her. Do you call her up a few times first just to talk or do you try to set up a date the first time you call her?
prettybaby Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I haven't dated a ton of people, but my personal pattern tends to be: I somehow get the guy's number, I call him to set up a date, we meet and then take it from there. I hate endless chit chatting on the phone, and I think guys are generally the same. I tend to go straight to the point and then have a nice conversation on the actual date. This has worked pretty well so far. None of my invitations have ever been declined. Not that I'm some kind of wonder woman or anything; but I guess I should add that the only guys I've called like that were guys who seemed interested in me to begin with. So I guess it's always been a well measured risk on my part lol Some guys also made the first move and asked me out, out of the blue. I've come to realize over time that I somehow like this a little less than when I'm the one offering a date. I guess because when I ask them out myself, I know for sure it's what I want and I've had time to think it through. But when someone unexpectedly asks me out, I tend to wonder if I'm just going with the flow and getting carried by flattery, or if I actually really truly want this.
Author winsmith-84 Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 Interesting. Personally, if I don't know a chick that well, like described in my question, I'll probably try to set up a date first just because - well, there's only so much you can do/talk about over the phone if you barely know somebody. I mean, once we are on a date, we can do stuff and have a face to face conversation - which is something I'd much rather have. And then once you know each other better then maybe the occasional phone call with no purpose.
BCCA Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I usually go with asking her out on the first phone call, which I try to limit to about 10min (not that I sit there with a stop watch or anything). I want to save as much to talk about for our date, and truth be told, you never really know until you meet them in person. prettybaby, where do you live and do you have sisters just like you? Because thats awesome, women generally take a passive stance on meeting up, and it can sometimes be frustrating.
Green Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 if you asked the girl for her number did you give a reason for wanting it? When you asked for the number you should have made it clear you were asking because you were romanticaly interested. As for if she just gave it to you, well if you like say you were flattered she just gave you her number and ask her out. Be straight foward and genuine no need to hide you true intentions
movingonandon Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I think that in these circumstances the phone contact should be made solely for the purpose of setting up a date. Absolutely no chit-chat, beyond the minimally required small talk.... This applies for at least the 2st 2 dates... Sure, there are exceptions where people "get to know" each other over the phone, but me not likin' it. (Too much risk, too little reward.)
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