Brady_to_Moss Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 It seems that us guys are always worried about going up and talking to a girl they think she looks cute. Yet i never see this from the girl's side of view. I dont see girls wondering what to say to a guy they might like but have never talked to before. Is it becasue most girls who are pretty have guys always going for them and they dont have to work at it? Like a free pass?
alphamale Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Is it becasue most girls who are pretty have guys always going for them and they dont have to work at it? Like a free pass? thats pretty much teh way it works. the women who usually approach me generally get shot down cause they are not that attractive or are nerdy and desparate its extremely rare that a good looking woman makes the first move
nicki Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Always go over and talk to a girl you think is cute! You have nothing to lose, and she may be waiting for YOU to make a move to talk to her. What goes through my head when I see an attractive man is how do I get him to come over and talk to me....so I smile at him. That always works. But in my younger and more insecure days, I would simply wait for a guy to come over. Little did I know that the guy needed some green-light signals to do that, like smiling or making a little comment first if standing close to each other.
Trialbyfire Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Insecure or not, hot or not, the largest percentage of women won't make the first approach, so it's true about chatting up someone up if you find them attractive. Let's say they're not interested, the worst case scenario is that you both walk away, same as you would now, when you don't approach.
nicki Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Plus, if you do get shot down, then you can pass it off as simple friendliness. You should be friendly to people. I talk to people in the grocery line or wherever I am. Just being friendly. If a cute guy takes it from there, great....same for you.
alphamale Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Insecure or not, hot or not, the largest percentage of women won't make the first approach, i agree pretty much but there is a small %age of women who are NOT shy about making the first move...unfortunately they are usually the desparate ones actually i will amend this by saying that when some women see a dude they are attracted to they are even too shy to smile and make eye contact with him...
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 thats pretty much teh way it works. the women who usually approach me generally get shot down cause they are not that attractive or are nerdy and desparate its extremely rare that a good looking woman makes the first move It does seem rare. I mean i see some girls in my classes smile at me and keep glancing over. I just never thought about it in that way. Only in how should i approach her whether she likes me right away or not
fral945 Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 It does seem rare. I mean i see some girls in my classes smile at me and keep glancing over. I just never thought about it in that way. Only in how should i approach her whether she likes me right away or not Brady_to_Moss, My advice for you is to think less and act more. If she smiles and keeps glancing over, take it as a green light. You're not always going to be smooth or successful, but the more you initiate with a woman that even looks remotely interested the more comfortable you will get doing it and the better you will get at it. Practice, practice. Quit dwelling about whether or not they are interested.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 it really depends on where you are. if you like to have fun and go to a bar or club, women can be really nasty to men who approach them. Its probably because they are so used to losers who try every sleazy approach to get them home with them. I dont think im ugly or anything (well maybe I am who knows) but I have had some really embarrasing experiences in bars. Example- a girl was sitting at the bar with two of her friends and I happened to be there ordering a drink and happen to make eye contact really quick. I gave the girl a quick, friendly hello (believe me not creepy at all) and she just gave me a dirty look and turned her head. Pretty discouraging if you are single, especially when your friends are laughing their butts off behind you when they see it. So, yes.. if you get shot down even once it can be hard on your ego. Women can be cruel sometimes... maybe just to me though, lol.
CommitmentPhobe Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Hmm.. I don't mean to sound my own trumpet here but I've been hit on by hot women fairly regularly. Happens to some of my friends too. It takes a certain talent to put yourself in situations where it makes it easy for a woman to approach you though. If you want the easiest route, get a part time bar job. Although this might be a UK thing though, women here don't seem to give a ****! And if you didn't go out tonight you missed out on a great opportunity!
stepka Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 I wouldn't go over and talk to a man, but I would look friendly if I were interested, and I might even make a friendly comment, but that's it. As for some people blowing you off--you really don't know what is going on in their life. Eg: I was in a coffee shop the other evening, and there was a really handsome man there that had approached and talked to me before--strictly friendly, and I had an idea that he was interested. But I couldn't get the interest up to talk to him that night b/c I'd had a huge fight with my future ex-husband, and the timing was all wrong--it's just too soon after the marriage was over. Give me a couple of months and I hope I'll run into him again--just not a good time right now. Another reason a girl might not talk to you--esp if you're with your buddies, is b/c she's afraid that you guys are all making fun of her, and that this is all just a joke, or a bet on whether you can pick her up. I wouldn't give a man the time of day in a situation like that--even if he were really good looking. No one wants to be made a fool of.
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