FIREMAN Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 We had an argument a month ago because mf GF cancelled OUR plans to go w\her friends AGAIN. I told my GF I'd had it with her games and she said she loved me so much blah blah blah... I blew her off for 2 days cause I needed to cool down and think, then she called me as if nothing happened. We tlkd every day\other day since then. last week, she called me to go to dinner w\her n her mom. It was nice and after, she said she was happy to see me and kissed me on the lips. We've continued to tlk w\the same frequency and she called me out of the blue at lunchtime 3 days ago to surprise me. So, I asked her to dinner for Valentine's Day. She said (as she's said other years) we should go a diff night as the food usually sux, u get rushed and it's always crowded (she hates crowds). Said She's NOT shooting me down, just didn't want to deal w\the crowds. I understand maybe she feels a little uncomfortable lately. Lately she doesn't know how she feels sexually for me...or anyone. Thinks she's pre-menopausal or has a hormone imbalance due to her pill. I called her last nite n haven't heard from her. Does she want to keep seeing me or what??? She's the one that's initiated the contact most of the time, so what gives?
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 She doesn't want to go out on VD? Has it always been this way. Are you exclusive?
Awakening Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Pre-menopausal? Hormone imbalance? Ugh, are those excuses she's used before or yours? I don't want to be harsh but how about "she's just not that into you". That's really what is sounds like to me unfortunately.
Lucky_One Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 She's right about Valentine's Day, especially with it being a Saturday night. I am not sure enough about your relationship as a whole to give much advice on the other. Good luck.
Author FIREMAN Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 She's always been cost conscious and hates going out when it's crowded, i.e. New Years Eve, Parades, etc. Would rather stay in and go out another nite. So, I don't think it's an excuse. The sexual "excuses" are hers. She is often very dry down there, has little or no libido, is always tired, hot flashes, etc and she's only 32, but the early pre-meno runs in her family. We thought it could be the pill because she flip-flops her moods like crazy! One minute, she'd be really into me, maybe we'd have sex, etc...the next day she distances herself. Other times, in a matter of 20 minutes, she goes from being all into me to not wanting me to touch her, for NO reason at all. She recently gave me a card and wrote in it, "You and I are connected in a way that goes beyond romance, beyond friendship...I can't explain it, I just feel it". A few weeks ago, she suggested we move away together. A few weeks before that she said she loves waking up next to me and can't wait to wake up next to me every day...Then, she says she doesn't know how she feels about me... I AM LOST!
Author FIREMAN Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 See, if she's just not that into me, WHY does she write the nice things, and say those things about "future life together" if she's not into me?? Why is she continuing to call and get together?
Awakening Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 If she is that miserable, she needs to see a doctor and get it straightened out. Have you suggested that? I am just sick of hearing that excuse from women and men when these types of things can be treated. Or she's: 1) Very good at manipulating you 2) A drama queen 3) Just plain nuts
Lauriebell82 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 If she is that miserable, she needs to see a doctor and get it straightened out. Have you suggested that? I am just sick of hearing that excuse from women and men when these types of things can be treated. Or she's: 1) Very good at manipulating you 2) A drama queen 3) Just plain nuts Totally agreed. She's probably just using you until something she likes better comes along.
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