HazelW Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 i've been seeing this guy on and off for a few months now. we work together he has recently split with his girlfriend and things between us got slightly more serious. he then decided that it was too soon after his ex. i understood this and have given him some space. i went out with my close friends and he was out with friends from work, after a fair few drinks we were all on the dancefloor having a great time... later in the night i spot him on the dancefloor with some girl grinding on him (nice haha) he then starts kissing her. my very protective friends go over to him and ask him what he's playing at (bad move girls! but i appreciate that they care) he then leaves and waits outside for us, where we catch up with him later- the others go off to get a kebab (classy) whilst i stay and chat to him. he say's 'they had no right to do that, im not actually with you' i say 'i didnt ask them to do it, it wasnt nice to see you kissing another girl but w/e, your right we are both single' he keeps on telling me to 'go away' but when i try to walk away he holds me back. i knew he didnt want me to walk away from him. he kept on saying that he doesnt deserve me and that he's an idiot and he doesnt know what he wants. CONFUSION! so then another of the boys from work comes along and we kiss (its not as random as it sounds- i've kissed this one before), didnt mean anything ... it was immature and silly of me to stoop as low as him in an attempt to make him feel how i felt but whats done is done. he started the whole thing by pulling the skank on the dancefloor! i tried to ring him this morning. he picked up the phone and said 'go away' what do i do now?! please help me. im getting myself all worked up. thank you
Island Girl Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Do nothing right now. He asked for space initially and that hasn't changed. He is now probably stewing about the kiss you shared with the other guy but as he said the two of you aren't seeing ach other anymore. You work with him. So you will have plenty of time to think out a plan of attack for another time. After he has cooled off a bit from the wild events that have transpired this night. For now just relax and revel in the fact that you have ammunition on your side. You work together so it can't and won't be the end of all conversation or possibilities and you have the luxury of time being on your side whereas if you didn't work together he could very well just drop off the face of the planet and you'd have no recourse. So feel fortunate and pamper yourself. You need to look fantastic at work everyday.
BlueEyedGirl Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Good move with kissing the other guy. that's exactly what I would have done. Only I wouldn't have called him the next morning. You should have left him wondering if you now like the other guy more etc. Look hot at work and keep your distance but be all cheery and fun with other co-workers.
bean1 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Hazel, Time to stop kissing the boys at work. If a man tells you: - We aren't together - Go away - Go away - He doesn't "deserve"you - And it sounds like he still had a girlfriend when you were "seeing each other" This is certainly a FWB situation (although the "friends" part is iffy) and it's best to cut the cord right now.
Lucky_One Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I would cut my losses on this one. He has told you that he wants to be single; if he wanted to be with you, he has had plenty of opportunity. I agree with bean- stop kissing the boys at work. It is childish to kiss someone for revenge; game playing isn't helpful to anyone. If you thought it was so wrong for him to kiss someone, then why in the world would you do it yourself? When he kept trying to get you to stay with him while saying 'go away', it sounds a bit like you messed up his deal with the girl last night and he was trying to get a bit of the Benefit part. He was telling you to go away because he doesn't want a relationship with you but he wouldn't mind a cozy bit last night
CommitmentPhobe Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Blimey... where do you work? Sounds like everyone is getting it on!
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