hotgelato Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Ok, here's my rant. What is up with the new ways of communicating? It sounds like Drew Barrymore in the movie he's not that into you. but! it's true! You give him your cell number, he texts, adds you on aim, email, online chatting, etc- Whatever happened to old fashioned calling to ask someone out for a date? I just got a text saying "You free later tomorrow night? How about we grab drinks?" Oh com'on.... u can do better than that. Man it up and call for gods sake! ask how my week's been or something..!! So question is, why do you think people prefer texting these days? Or he's not that into you if he doesn't wanna converse on the phone?
northstar1 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Ok, here's my rant. What is up with the new ways of communicating? It sounds like Drew Barrymore in the movie he's not that into you. but! it's true! You give him your cell number, he texts, adds you on aim, email, online chatting, etc- Whatever happened to old fashioned calling to ask someone out for a date? I just got a text saying "You free later tomorrow night? How about we grab drinks?" Oh com'on.... u can do better than that. Man it up and call for gods sake! ask how my week's been or something..!! So question is, why do you think people prefer texting these days? Or he's not that into you if he doesn't wanna converse on the phone? I wouldn't say he's not into you - I know a lot of people who just use texting or email for most of their communication, whether it's friends or people they want to date etc. I don't know if people are just too accustomed to technology and the ease of it, or we've all become lazy. If you would feel more comfortable chatting to him on the phone before meeting him, then let him know that.
BobSacamento Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I'm guessing rejection over a text or email is far more pleasant than listening to someones voice telling you some excuse.
movingonandon Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Ok, here's my rant. What is up with the new ways of communicating? It sounds like Drew Barrymore in the movie he's not that into you. but! it's true! You give him your cell number, he texts, adds you on aim, email, online chatting, etc- Whatever happened to old fashioned calling to ask someone out for a date? I just got a text saying "You free later tomorrow night? How about we grab drinks?" Oh com'on.... u can do better than that. Man it up and call for gods sake! ask how my week's been or something..!! So question is, why do you think people prefer texting these days? Or he's not that into you if he doesn't wanna converse on the phone? I'm 100% with you on this one. Texting suxx c0ck, bigtime. My phone is uber-primitive on purpose. I never send texts and almost neve reply to them . Calling is the way to go. Ideally, on a land line, by means of a black bakelite analog phone (sensibly placed in the hallway) but oh well, we'll roll with the modern effin times
confused and broken Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I feel exactly the same way Man up and call for f^#cks sake
norajane Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I feel exactly the same way Man up and call for f^#cks sake Add me to the list of women who feel exactly the same way.
confused and broken Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 And I want to know all the fellas out there what is so complicated about picking up the phone and dialing a number why is this such a HUGE issue?
movingonandon Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 And I want to know all the fellas out there what is so complicated about picking up the phone and dialing a number why is this such a HUGE issue? Well, it's not for me, plus I thought that texting is more of a girl thing... But, if anything, texting is duing yourself a disservice (if you're a guy). How the eff are you going to authoritatively deliver "Baby, we're going out!" via text? You can't! Unless you're standing right in front of said lady, calling is the way to go
Island Girl Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I'm guessing rejection over a text or email is far more pleasant than listening to someones voice telling you some excuse. Probably. At least that is what I was thinking. But I would never date a guy who isn't confident or secure enough to call. Because I am strong and confident a weak man just doesn't cut it so it'd be sign to me not to date the guy that texts that he'd like a date.
Oliveman Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Yeah I agree with the ladies. Texting a girl for a date is lame. I really only use texting for some playful flirting while I'm at work and can't call. That being said, I will text to ask a girl out if we've been dating for some time and I'm really busy or if she's at work and I want to meet up with her when she's finished working or whatever. It's really rare though. When you're getting to know someone it's inexcusable in my book.
d0ll Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 ok I think who ever invented texting sucks BUT if the guy is COMMUNICATING with you whether it be through a text, phone call, IM, email .. at least he's keeping in touch
Island Girl Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 ok I think who ever invented texting sucks BUT if the guy is COMMUNICATING with you whether it be through a text, phone call, IM, email .. at least he's keeping in touch Forget that! That is called settling and one should never settle. If he likes you he can put in some effort. I think that is what is wrong with these young girls is that they accept so little and excuse the poor behavior.
knaveman Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Well, it's not for me, plus I thought that texting is more of a girl thing... I agree. The only texts I ever get are from women. Once my mother and my sister figured out texting, it's the only way they ever communicate with me now. Ex-gf still texts all the time. Texting may be easier for most people that actual verbal communication, but they're also easier to ignore.
Charles1978 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I dont really like talking on the phone. He asked you out for drinks! A face to face conversation is a lot better than a phone conversation. Just get over it and meet the guy for drinks.
zenith Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 what's wrong with texting? oh you ancient one
BentSpine Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I like SMS text messages. Like smoke signals they are short, to the point, and don't require any small talk. Besides, I'm a planner and texts give me time to plan before I reply. But I can see how someone may think of texts as unnecessary if they don't value these qualites.
fral945 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Texting is easier (at least according to texting addicts I've talked to) . It took me a while to figure that one out. Apparently, though, if you have texted enough some phones remember many common words you used, so you don't have to type every word in. My argument back is always: "A phone call takes 15-20 seconds to deliver the same message that took you 30 seconds to type". I don’t care for it, but I don’t care for MySpace of Facebook either. I’m anti-social with the new ways of socializing (mostly the online ways). I sit in front of electronics enough here at work that it is nice to have actual human interaction without a monitor or keypad necessary. OTOH, I know if I reject texting I pretty much turn off every woman in her 20s (which is the age I prefer to date). I’m actually seeing a woman right now that prefers the phone (which has amazed me because she is in her early 20s). We met online but she insisted on phone at first (which I prefer). She still texts her friends and family but has never texted me (maybe that’s a bad sign? IDK). My observation is that women seem to be worse with the texting (though I’m sure a lot of guys do it too, I just don’t notice as many guys constantly texting on their phones in the gym (while working out), at the grocery store, etc.). I'd like to see someone do a survey of who the most rabid texters are. I think women in their teens and early 20s would win by a landslide.
FIREMAN Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 One of my friends ONLY communicates by texting! It's annoying, but that's him. Could be your guy is just shy and it's easier for him this way.
Still Trying Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Ok, here's my rant. What is up with the new ways of communicating? It sounds like Drew Barrymore in the movie he's not that into you. but! it's true! You give him your cell number, he texts, adds you on aim, email, online chatting, etc- Whatever happened to old fashioned calling to ask someone out for a date? I just got a text saying "You free later tomorrow night? How about we grab drinks?" Oh com'on.... u can do better than that. Man it up and call for gods sake! ask how my week's been or something..!! So question is, why do you think people prefer texting these days? Or he's not that into you if he doesn't wanna converse on the phone? I agree! Texting is a great way to stay in touch with people that you already know well IMVHO, NOT a way to open up a new line of communication with a current interest. Pick up the phone, dial the number and call the girl. Your voice is a lot nicer than a bunch of text!
Still Trying Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 what's wrong with texting? oh you ancient one It's completely impersonal when you're trying to get to know someone. Don't you think? We're not talking about texting your wife, we're talking about asking someone on a date for the first time!
yeex Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I do a little of both. Definitely the first time I asked her out, I called her. And sometimes would call and see how she was. But i also texted her during the day to see if she would like to go out sometime that week. Then i would call her before picking her up. Is it that big of a deal? Sometimes it is just more convenient to text as opposed to playing phone tag and leaving messages which often happens. But I agree, it is pretty lame if the dude only texts and has not called her once.
prettybaby Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I think both are fine. My guy has been calling more lately, but we kind of alternate between text, e-mail and phone conversation. He'll generally call me if it's short notice, so we can both set up plans in time, as sometimes it may take me or him a day to check e-mails or whatever. Plus, I think it's okay not to have super lengthy phone conversations when you're actually gonna meet up in the next few days anyway. It leaves stuff to talk about on the date and it's just so much nicer in person. Especially when you wanna share some news or tell them something that happened to you during the week; it's so much better face to face. That being said, I would be a bit irked by someone who would NEVER call at all. Phone is indeed more practical and personal in certain situations.
fishtaco Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I agree! Texting is a great way to stay in touch with people that you already know well IMVHO, NOT a way to open up a new line of communication with a current interest. Pick up the phone, dial the number and call the girl. Your voice is a lot nicer than a bunch of text! This. I recent met a girl, got her number, so I called her back, got her voice mail, so I left a message. Told her I'll take her out dancing (this is what we talked about at the party we met) blah blah, let me know. Usual stuff. So I was either expecting a call, or she'd turn out to be a number collector and disappear. Whatever. No big deal. Instead, she text me back something like yeah, that's a great idea or whatever. If we've had contact already, but she just highly prefer text, I'm okay with that. But this is our first contact outside of the party. I picked up the phone and called. if she's interested then she should have the ovaries to pick up the phone and call me back instead of a text response. She's off the list.
blondesmiler Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I'm guessing rejection over a text or email is far more pleasant than listening to someones voice telling you some excuse. Yes this is true but its nice for a man to be a man, and if after a text or two going backwards and forwards between the two, then surely he has an idea that she is interested (otherwise she wouldn't respond) so why not then pick up the phone and call??? I feel exactly the same way Man up and call for f^#cks sake Yup
peteyj Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 I really haven't been on the dating scene in like 10 years. Married/dated/knew the one woman for like 6-7 years, before her I dated a girl who I knew through friends. So it's a whole new game to me these days and I did the whole call the person at first but every person I spoke to told me not to call. Guys and Girls in their 20's and 30's told me this. And in all honesty, I used to be a guy who had the $1 cell cell phone and left it in the car whenever I went anywhere. Then I got a blackberry and suddenly I can't live without the thing. Every person I know these days texts. They rarely call. And it does make things a lot easier. If you call some girl who doesn't remember you...that's an awkward conversation. Whereas if you text that person, an ignored text isn't that awkward. I do think you should call the person eventually but it's 2009, things change. And in all honesty if your posting on this site or finding dates online, it sort of means you are participating in a social forum in one way or another.
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