stovepipe Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Well it had its ups and downs. We tried to be friends because we were best friends before we started our relationship. Initially I asked her for time, that I wanted to be her friend but I just needed time to heal. This wasn't flying for her. She continued to contact me and stupid me...I stayed in contact. After some time I thought things were ok, I was able to handle in some ways being her friend, I explained to her that I didn't want to discuss her relationships she was in but I was open to talk to her about anything else, help her with anything she needed etc....Well I started seeing someone around the superbowl. We hung out, I wasn't over my ex but she was helping pass the time. In the meantime due to the stress I was under from our breakup I began to have heart problems. The doctor called me and of course my ex was concerned. I explained to her that I wasn't ready to talk about it, I just wanted some time to myself. I said I would talk to her the next day. She said she was busy all day..so I said another day. Well she called me the next day around 10 at night. I didn't answer, I was at the movies with the new girl I was seeing. She called again 10 minutes later again I don't answer. I text her back asking her whats up. She calls again and I don't answer. I text her back and explain I'm at the movies. I ask her what she wanted and she says "nothing have fun". So stupid me I walk outside to the bathroom and call her. She sounds sad in a way. I ask her whats wrong and she says nothing is wrong, I ask what she wanted and she said she just wanted to check up on me then hangs up. I call her back and she sends me directly to voicemail. I call again...same thing. I text her and ask why she was doing that and she says "you're out and about having fun". The next day she calls me again, at this time I'm working on my vehicle trying to get it ready for inspection. I tell her I'll call her later, and I don't. I was working on my car for 9 hours and I just forgot to call her. The next day at work I email her and apologize she says its fine. I ask her if she wants to go out for lunch so I can tell her about the doctors. She says no she is staying in for lunch. I don't hear from her again and she leaves work early. Later that day I get a text from her. She says that she can't be my friend anymore. I tell her I don't understand why. She says that we lost the connection we had. She doesn't feel like she can tell me about things and for some reason I don't feel like I can talk to her about certain things. I ask why and she says she hears crap from other sources and if I was her friend I would tell her. I turns out the other sources were a mutual friend of ours at work. I had told this friend previously that I've been seeing someone. Asking about what and if I should do anything for Valentines day. She says to me that if I was her friend I would have talked to her about this. If i was her best friend like we were before she wouldn't have had to hear this from other people. She then asks he if I have slept with anyone yet, she promises she wont get mad she just wants me to be honest with her and she hopes that I haven't because she has something to tell me. She tells me she has a bacterial infection...and that if it clears up in 2 days then I need to be treated too...if it doesn't then its just a yeast infection. I said to her that I haven't slept with anyone since her. I ask her if she just expected me to sit around and wait for her to change her mind. That I wasn't doing that and I was moving on. She says that she is glad that I am moving on because she isn't changing her mind. She then goes on to tell me that she can't tell me things like how her weekend was because I don't want to hear it. But then begins to tell me things that she knows I don't want to hear. She went out this weekend and felt so free and alive, so needed and wanted. She felt like a teenager again. She met someone and she is really happy...not a boyfriend she doesn't want a boyfriend. Just someone really cool to hang out with. This hurts me, I think she knew it would hurt me. She then goes on to say what went wrong with out relationship. Why it wouldn't work out. The same things I've heard over and over. I tell her that I know all this, no need to rehash it. I need to find someone that appreciates me and I apologize that its weird for me to hear about her new boyfriends now. She says not to contact her outside of work, we can be work buddies but thats it. The next day at work she is going on and on talking to people about this new guy, right in front of me. Showing them pictures. Talking to him loud on the phone. Its killing me, and I know she knows it. So since Tuesday I have had no contact with her, not even at work. She contines to talk about this guy right in front of me. I began to wear a headset so I can drown most of it out. I'm sticking with the no contact. I have to for my own health at this point. I just don't understand why she has to be so spiteful to me. Why she trys to hurt me like this. Its going to be a long hard road ahead. I'll keep you guys posted and I hope I can keep the no contact up!
Author stovepipe Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 she texted me on friday four times...I had an appointment with my cardiologist that she knew about. This whole breakup has wreaked havoc on me, because of it I found about a problem with my heart that had this not happened I probably wouldn't have known about for awhile, so i guess for that im grateful for it. Anyway I did not respond to any of her 4 text messages wishing me luck, telling me she still cared about me and wanted to know if i was ok. IMO she doesn't deserve to know about me anymore. It being V-day makes it tough, I know she's out with the new guy she says she'd head over heals for....but I have to stick to my guns and continue NC. Even though we sit feet apart at work, I just pop my headphones on in the morning turn up the volume and keep to myself. Its the only thing right now that I can do.
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