Knight_Ctrl Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Alright here we go. This girl whom I've had a crush on for the last 2 years or more recently got hired at where I work. A year ago I gave her my number but she never used it, I later found out it was because she had a b/f at the time; fair enough. Anyway so we work together now, this isn't exactly a serious job for either of us, neither of us plan on being here forever and there is no policy about employees dating each other. Well a few months ago she called me, we spent about every night talking to each other and have gone out on a few dates, all while spending every night we work together flirting. Here comes the question. She knows I like her (told her straight up, even though it was obvious anyway). And after that she has been busy all the time, not able to hang out and we slowly started talking on the phone less. I just figured alright maybe I screwed this up but we can still be friends no big deal, and we were fine with that. So occasionally I would ask her if she wanted to go do things and she never was able to, eventually I just asked her "alright, is there a reason you dont want to hang out or are you just busy" she said "i've been busy, you are fantastic no guy has given me the respect you have. I don't normally date guys from around here and I have some personal baggage that I'd want to take care of before starting a relationship with anyone" she apparently really appreciates that I told her I cant just not like her but I wont force her into something she isnt ready for and that I'd be willing to be her friend anyway. So a few thoughts, 1. Have I just been Friend Zoned? 2. Could it be that she really does want to be with me but wants to get together when she knows she can emotionally handle it? She is extremly shy and her family background as far as I know is super strictly religious (she is not). Recently I too have become quite busy myself and havent been able to call her or ask her to hang out, the flirting is still red hot at work though. Since I have been...."trying less" I guess you could say, she has been all about sending me random texts, and telling me to call her and stuff. I told her that I wont ask her to do anything for a while and to just tell me when she isnt busy if she wants to hang out. What gives? How did we go from friends who flirt, to dates, to not hanging out and talking, to flirting all over the place still, and NOW she once again seems intrested. Or am I just misinterpreting the situation again. She never told me that she just isnt intrested (i've asked her) she says that I am fine, great guy, etc. Her and I have both had the same problems in our past relationships and I think we'd work out great together, just how do I deal with this hump we seem to be at before the actual hook up takes place.:love:
Surfer Dude Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Date other women, keep this one on the back burner.
confused_2008 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I think you've been friend-zoned and/or she's keeping you on the hook for later and likes the attention from you. Either way, it doesn't look good for you.
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